What could be worse than negative experience?
It will be stumbled over and you are afraid to run around the stairs, please choose sour milk and never rejuvenate an overdue package ... and in a relationship ... if someone once or two betrayed, deceived, offended, it seems that the whole world will now Comes with you just.
These premonitions, fear and doubt creep into the soul and settle there for a long time, sometimes forever ... often making another, innocent people, the hostage of our events ...
Depression, unfortunate fears, stress - all this deprives the life of pleasure, turns a person in a dead end and stops on the way to the long-awaited happiness. Life ceases to seem so bright and colorful, which was in childhood, a person starts to overcome the diseases and various ailments.
Someone is trying to cope with this with medication, someone applies various practices or appeals to God to gain again peace of mind, Health and Return Lost Paints of Life. But the fact is that ...
Often people try to avoid negative emotions and conflicts. Thereby damaging oneself. And this is notorious " positive thinking"Confuses people even more.
It is no secret that there is a place in life all:
and sadness and joy;
And grief, and happiness;
There are tears and laughter.
We are experiencing various shades of emotions and feelings, and this is normal. And even negative emotions And we are very necessary conflicts and are important. Without them we would degrade. Through them, the person grows, develops, learns to listen to himself and ...
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If we add to chain Mr.discussed in the previous chapter, the link of beliefs, it becomes clear that actions arise from sensations or feelings, which, in turn, grow out of our thoughts, and thoughts ...
How can I get rid of pop-up pictures with scenes of death, violence, native blood? I understand that thinking about it (involuntarily) I am psychologically preparing myself for bad Wests so that it does not hurt then. But it eats me from the inside, I feel about this, from these negative ideas terribly.
Work is work - we are in constant voltage, the time is designed for a minute, not a single word, gesture, movement - full self-control. Sometimes we ourselves drive themselves into the hard frames like the "Spanish boot" capable of breaking the strongest nervous system.
What if you assume that your ailment has a psychosomatic nature?
Remove tension
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As expected, this experience has a profound impact on the attitude of people who have experienced people to physical death, especially those of them who did not think that there is anything after death. In one form or another, all these people expressed the same thought - that they are no longer afraid of death. This, however, requires explanation. First, certain types of death are obviously undesirable and, secondly, none of the people who surveyed by me are not looking for death, does not want her. They all feel that they have ...
No one will deny the fact that past events affect the formation of a person and on what person is on this moment. However, this impact does not end. Negative, experienced earlier, continues to make adjustments to daily life, limiting freedom. This process will not stop until the energy charge of the negative past lives in the subconscious.
Fig. How to get rid of the negative past experience?
Bowl of all the former negative events can be "decomposed" into several small situations that may be related:
- with loss (anyone, something)
- with an accident
- with career
- with parents (other relatives)
- with a loved man
- with friends
- with relationships in school, university, at work
How does the past affect the present?
Emotions
Negative last experience Leaves the energy charge that "settles" in the subconscious, starting to have a significant impact on the mental state. And it, in turn, is formed from those emotions that a person is experiencing during the day most often. For example, the girl was asked with the head at work, she worries all day and tries to calculate what this situation can lead to. Thus, the feelings that it experiences throughout the day most often (pain, fear, resentment, confusion, doubts), and are the formists of its emotional background.
Self-satisfaction
Negative events experienced in the past negatively affect self-esteem. While it happens, a person is deprived of the possibility. After all, consciousness will always find in the subconscious of the events with which the person identifies himself. And, despite the fact that he recalls these events extremely rarely, their energy charge still continues to exist in the subconscious. No matter how cool, but this charge takes part of a person's attention when making important decisions.
Attention
Also, not eliminated memories of a negative past affect attention. And to the attention that a person shows daily: to everyday affairs and concerns, to close people, to work. Events that live in the subconscious take the lion's share of concentration, as a result, a person becomes scattered and cannot. The result is the emergence of irritation, chronic fatigue and, as a result, the development of a depressive state.
Technique that will help get rid of the negative past
The most experienced Serbian psychologist, Slavinsky, a technique was developed that allows you to cope not only with the terrible and injurous episodes of the past, but also for a short time Eliminate the charges of any past events. The essence of the method is the processing and transformation of negative memories. For this, everything will be needed for only a few minutes, hours or days of diligent work on themselves (it depends on how much negative experience you have and how strong it is). The method is quite simple, but very effective.
Algorithm of getting rid of negative events of the past
Sit or lie. Provide yourself a complete peace, no extraneous sounds should interfere with you. Relax, bring the nervous system in order. So, when your body and soul will be completely rest, start scrolling in the memory of the events that negative promise, tormenting you and forcing you to experience negative emotions again. Try to understand which feelings are visited when you memorize the events. Accordingly, it will be anger and fear, disappointment, sadness, hatred, anxiety, etc.
You also need to evaluate how strong feelings are strong. Evaluate using a 10-ball scale. After that, on a pre-prepared sheet of paper, lock all negative events ( short description) From which you want to get rid of. They can work out a lot - it does not matter. Re-read the list three times. Then stand in the middle of the room, select one of the events from the list and, closing your eyes, select the situation from it that causes the most pronounced negative.
Further, the dedicated situation you need to "freeze" in memory. It must resemble a stopped film frame or a photograph, where everything is still motionless. Now it is necessary to mentally arrange a "photograph" for the distance of an elongated hand from myself and pierce it index finger. After starting to ripe around your axis counterclockwise, do not lower your hand with an elongated index finger. You must pull the photograph behind you. Wrap three times.
Lower your hand. Now, staying in the same position, you should reproduced a fixed event, but already with another scenario. Come up with your development situation, imagine how it could be allowed to be best for you. For example, if you eliminate the case when someone undeserved someone, imagine that after your words a person is not offended, but smiles.
So, when you scroll through the situation in thoughts, but with a positive outcome, you need to determine which of the moments presented is the maximum positive emotions. Deciding with a moment, turn it into a photograph (as the first time).
Again position the photo on the distance of the elongated hand. Pass it with the same finger and start rotating in place, but in the opposite side (clockwise). Wrap three times, taching a selected photo. Now appreciate the negative event, the elimination of which you just did, on the scale. Surely, you will be pleasantly surprised, because anger, anger, fear and other unpleasant feelings will not arise.
If you correctly do the exercise and strictly follow the method described ,. As a result, you will discharge a negative episode, you can think and tell about it, as if it is a neutral or ordinary event.
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There is no such person who would not have negative experience In my life. As a rule, we remember about him with regret, with pain in the heart, or try to forget and throw away from memory. However, in order to stop the life of useless memories for once and for all, you need to reconsider your negative experience, to benefit from it and get rid of his negative consequences.
It would seem what could be the consequences if events have long passed and almost forgotten?
The consequences of negative experience
In fact, it is not. In our subconscious, all information about all the events of our life, even the most minor, is up to the weather outside the window to that ill-fated day. Although our consciousness does not remember this.
But most importantly, in our energy television The emotional-mental negative charge is stored, which, if it does not get rid of it, will be slow, but right, destroy our body.
In the energy body there are so-called negative blocks that have low-frequency energy vibration. This low-frequency energy acts on the cells of our body, violating their work. There are pathologies and diseases, up to cancer.
In addition, if there is a similar situation, the fact of the experience of negative experience will work as a "filter", which as if sifts new events. And out different options The outcome of these events our subconscious will choose a negative outcome, relying on the previous experience.
I will give an example. Suppose you have ever lost great amount money. It doesn't matter whether you lost money in the literal sense of the word, or they stole them, or the like. You have experienced stress, worried, have grunted the consequences, lost the N-number amount, time and nerves. It doesn't matter how this situation ended for you, in any case you purchased Negative experience. Subsequently, even after a long time, your subconscious will try to prevent a large amount of money in your life. Since a negative filter program is working in the subconscious: "big money - big problems."
And while you do not get rid of this program, any of your attempts to get rich will lead to zero.
And the same thing happens in all spheres of your life. Having a negative experience in family lifeYour subconscious will try to protect you from family life at all. Externally, you will strive for new relationships, but your subconscious will remove you from any relationship based on the resulting negative experience.
Having burned on milk, it will blow both water.
And the most important thing is that you can not realize this at all, a perplexed, why do you have "nothing".
Transformation of negative experience
To get rid of all this nightmare, you need to change the situation. Most often, we are trying to change the external situation, to affect people, on circumstances. And as a rule, external efforts do not lead to the desired results. Man "beats like a fish about ice," but nothing in his life does not change, despite the efforts.
And the whole mistake is that it is necessary to change first inner spaceBecause the reason for all the troubles lies exactly there, hidden deep in the subconscious.
What to do, how to get rid of negative in your life? How to eliminate the consequences of negative experience?
It is necessary to transform the energy of negative experience from a negative, destroying - in positive and creative. And for this we have a lot of different options.
There are all sorts of techniques and techniques for transformation of negative energy.
Of course, you can go to psychoanalyst for years, and he will certainly help you if you have a fairly decent amount of money.
But first of all, you need to help yourself, since all situations in your life we, one way or another, we create yourself. And besides us, no one in our ourselves will not be able to figure out our ourselves, sorry for tautology :). And most often, this work is quite enough if you make a little effort, patience and motivation.
Specific steps to change the situation
If the situation is very launched, and you feel that some events of the past clutched in you a dead grip, of course, it is desirable to use stronger techniques - helping professionals: psychologist or psychoanalyst, BSFF system, Sedona-method, PEAT, TMO, aspects, method Silva, healing Rake. You will find enough information on the Internet.
In this article, we will consider the simplest, initial steps that you can easily do yourself. In my practice, it often happened that these steps turned out to be enough for the consequences of traumatic situations cease to provide their indulgent effects.
The meaning of this work is to benefit from negative experience and change the nature of the energy associated with the traumatic situation.
Step 1. Determine the spheres of your life where you are clearly "not lucky." What these are personal relationships, health or finance. Be sure to write all this in a notebook or on a piece of paper.
Now you need to remember whether the specific negative situations associated with this sphere were in your life. Maybe you remember not one, but several such situations. Write them all on a piece of paper, giving them a conditional name so that you are understandable.
Now go through this list and try to understand what the situation causes the greatest emotional response or pain. That's over it and start working.
Step 2. First - work at the level of consciousness. Try to soberly analyze and overestimate this situation from the position "there would be no happiness, and I did not help any misfortune."
What did this situation taught you?
What kind positive traits Have you purchased by coming out of this situation?
It is possible that it is courage, determination, the rapidness of the reaction, or vice versa, prudence.
It may not be that you do not bring anything positive from this negative situation.
At this stage you need to find at least something positive that you directly or indirectly received after this situation.
Register this positive on paper.
Step 3. Now - a little more difficult. You need sincerely, thank this situation from the heart. Thank you for taught you. As well as thank the "Heavenly Forces" (God, the Universe, the highest mind, guardian angels, fate or life - no matter, this is the same, it all depends on what you believe). Any situation in our lives is given to us above our good and growth, no matter how we originally regard it.
Even if it is a very heavy situation, grief or misfortune, accept it so that you have worked this situation your karma, or karma your children so that they are happy, or karma from their past lives (if you believe it). The main thing is that you understand that you are somehow cleansed or removed the cargo. This is understood and realized not easy. But if you are able to take it, you instantly remove the "negative charge" of its traumatic situation.
Step 4. In addition to the foregoing, you need to do another one an important step. You need to thank yourself. For what?
We have already realized that any situation in our lives is created by us. Man is a complex, multidimensional essence. We can be angels and demons at the same time. This means that our essence consists of several "peensions", the actions and thoughts of which are not always agreed.
And all these devices are part of one big entity called I. Very often these parts conflict with each other. This is called "internal conflict", when one of your part wants one, and the other is another.
Perhaps some kind of your part and created this traumatic situation in your life. You do not have any way to scold or blame for it.
You can make one single thing that will bring you great benefits. You need to cure this part. And this can be done only with love and gratitude.
Thank this part of yourself for creating this situation. This situation, your part fulfilled some kind of my own mission, about which you, or rather, is unknown.
Step 5. Sorry this situation. Forgive yourself. Sorry your part that created this situation. Forgive people who participated in this situation.
Only a promotion and thanking, you can let go of this situation.
Try to make it sincerely, no matter how hurt you or hard. When you do it - you transform the negative energy of traumatic experience. Negative energy You can not destroy, you can only transform it.
But if you do it once - you will do it forever.
In one of the following articles, I will describe other techniques in detail, with which you can heal your negative experience at the energy level.
Unfortunately, most people do not even realize that its own negative experience You can change, and then use new positive experience. Not knowing that you can change negative experiencePeople are not trying to manage their own consciousness.
And if we ourselves do not manage our own consciousness, it means there is a risk that someone else will be managed by our consciousness. Someone will certainly want to manipulate you, just do you like it? It can be your loved ones, your friends, colleagues, management, funds mass media And even the government of the country.In fact, it is very important to learn to independently manage your own experienced experience, since uncontrolled experience can cause frequent negative emotions and fears before the start of new cases, which will significantly worsen a person's life.
Suppose you had a bad day. Something was not set, or at work you spoiled the mood, or you quarreled with a close person and negative emotions continue to poison the evening and the next few days. Your consciousness all the time returns to the situation experienced negative experience And such an unconscious impact of negative emotions can continue for a long time.
Moreover, many people continue to think about the negative situations that have happened to them for several years and even dozens of years ago, continuing and continuing to resurrect the unpleasant situation in mind that caused negative images and emotions.
Why is it going on? Yes, just because they do not like how the situation turned around and what is its result. They do not like the result of the situation. They simply cannot accept the fact that everything happened not as they would like.
Or another example. A person is experiencing in advance about an event that can happen, but has not yet happened. This event can occur, and maybe not, but it is already experiencing and, as a result, feels bad.
In fact, scientists have proven that 80% of all our fears that we are experiencing in advance and worry, will not happen. And we are already experiencing about these fears, we spend our time, nerves and health care, shorting and poisoning own life. From the habit of worrying in advance, negative situations must be easily eliminated and testing negative emotions only in the event of an unpleasant event.
There is also another extreme. Some people always expect more results or impressions from an event or event, and then, without getting them, feel frustrated. When they are asked what they were expected from the event, they cannot accurately say what exactly, but confidently claim that it should not be that they eventually received or experienced.
Such situations are possible if you have never learned and change your own negative experience. As a rule, people do not try to control their own thinking if they do not give serious importance to their own thoughts.
Often, NLP adherents repay that they learn how to control the consciousness of other people only in order to manipulate them, but this is true only in part, since it is not always the goal of changing a person's consciousness to be manipulation or management. Very often, people drive a simple desire to help, suggest, transfer their positive experience. We add to this and the true desire of the person himself change and change the circumstances of his own life.
Below you can see a small film that will tell about the techniques for changing negative experience.
Even if you argue that they are absolutely necessary, it is not at all. Just the opposite. In the nature of man there is a colossal learner. At the same time, a person can learn quickly and efficiently. Only the question is to study. Useful or useless. And useless things attract us much more and we study them much faster.
Sometimes there are situations in our lives that we would like to throw out of the heads that we would like to forget. And indeed our memory is phenomenal. We study too quickly and well, and not always good. So, for example, new fears and phobias appear, a negative experience that we never forget about. But important things seem to have things for us with enviable constancy.
Each of us has the experience of the past. And, probably, not many of us boast that this experience is only positive. How much of our past experience affects us, that baggage memories, situations, experience and emotions, which we carry with you in life. On the one hand, acquiring life experience we become wiser, more practical, perfect. On the other hand, negative experience does not give us to realize our cherished dreams and move on through life.
We give such an example. Suppose you have long dreamed of starting some new business, for example, to open your business. You even somehow attempted or several attempts. But, unfortunately, it did not work from the first time and you are despair, deciding that this task is not for you. You often think about how it would be good to be the owner of your own business, how many new opportunities you would have and advantage, but attempts do not decide anymore. Since then, enough time has passed. You have already learned a lot, learned a lot in life and are quite ready for the realization of your dreams, but something bothers you ... This is something for fear, fear of failure. In the cells of your brain, the memory of that failure is firmly fixed, and every time you think about new prospects and capabilities that are now absolutely real, your old unsuccessful attempts pop up in memory, and you are internally set off from fear to suffer again.
And now let's imagine that some kind wizard took the styling from the cells of your brain that fear that was so deep there. No, it does not mean that you no longer remember that with you it was. Just the emotion of fear dispersed, you were freed from the ship's past, you became easier to breathe, you realized that you were your mistakes and how to fix them. And, most importantly, a kind wizard created a positive image for you, put in you faith in my senses, to my success, tuned you to the energy of good luck, luck and unlimited possibilities.
How to defeat failure?
In life often happens so that one day experienced unpleasant situation In the future prevents us from living. "Having burned on milk, blowing on the water." And indeed it is. The crashes, we not only in the future are afraid to start again for the fact that we failed, but often cultivate the complex of the loser. And to actually actually need to be completely different.
Let's start doing the sober conclusions.
1. Analyze what caused the failure, but do not blame yourself. Make a list of reasons why failure occurred.
2. Divide this list into two parts: the first is the circumstances that depended on the you, which you could correct, but could not or did not want; The second is the circumstances that did not depend on you, but still influenced the situation. Now appreciate what in your failure more is your guilt or chance? But only be honest and frank! Even if the first, then this is not a reason to lower your hands. Although quite the opposite.
Analysis of the unsuccessful situation is needed so that you can understand what to do in the future so that the situation is not repeated. And only for this. That is, I have understood your mistake, you should not mess around her and continue to do the same, but fix it. But many of us are not able to look at the truth in the eyes and admit that we are not right in something, so sometimes it is better to analyze the situation with someone.
3. And now write that in the future you must take into account and do differently to achieve results.
And one more exercise that will help you dispel practical any stress that takes to date and to the past and to future events. If necessary, repeat this correction as many times as needed to eliminate stress.
Exercise: Lobno-occipital correction (LZK)
Put one palm on the forehead, another on the back. Holding hands in this position, say what worries you, at the same time breathe deeply.
If it is difficult for you to speak for any reason, just think about what you are worried.
Lzk reflects our natural intuitive knowledge about the ways of removing stress and pain. Often, without even noticing this, during stress or pain, we touch the palm to the head or put your hands on the sore place.
By touching the forehead, we provide blood flow to the frontal shares of the brain. This part of the brain is responsible for the analysis, reservation and reassessment of the situation, for finding new ways to solve problems and the vision of new perspectives.
In the occipital part of the brain there is a zone that perceives visual images, which are then stored in memory. That is, it can be said that this zone is the repository of our past experience. Applying hands to this area, we stimulate blood circulation in this zone and thus, as if "rinse", we erase the stressful situations / images stored in our memory.
Simultaneous stimulation of blood circulation in the front area makes it possible to appreciate the situation and find new ways / perspectives possible output from her.
Do not forget to breathe deeply. If simultaneously with the LZK you use deep abdominal breathing, the blood is actively saturated with oxygen and the process goes much more efficiently. Air also stimulates all the processes of "washing" and unlocking, which was mentioned above, and they occur even more efficiently. Also, the air has the ability to ventilation and thus dissolves and takes with you your negative experiences and clears your internally space for a new vision.
To enhance the effect, you can use cleansing breathing.