SELF-AFFIRMATION - assertion of oneself, one's personality, one's meaning. A person affirms himself in his every word and every deed. Here we will say that words and deeds do not always indicate the truth. Our thoughts are much more eloquent than deeds. The truth is that a person is aware of what is in his thoughts, and not what he says or does. But in order to affirm our thoughts as truth and confirm them with words and deeds, we must be sure that our thoughts are absolute and blameless. A distorted view of everything gives rise to mistakes in deeds and deeds, and confidence in these deeds, as well as confidence in one's own righteousness, becomes the conceit of each of us. CONCERN - This is an exaggerated high opinion of oneself. But according to all the laws of the phenomenon of conjugated moral concepts, the difference between SELF-AFFIRMATION and SELF-CONCERN is negligible.
After all, whenever we assert our opinion and our knowledge and, accordingly, ourselves as a person, other people and we ourselves can admit the idea that all our statements, no matter how absolute and correct they may be, are just our suspiciousness and an attempt to impose our own stereotype. To understand the difference in concepts, you need to exclude selfishness. As soon as our SELF-AFFIRMATION acquires meaning only for ourselves and is not intended for anyone else, it immediately loses its reasonable purpose. Why do we assert ourselves, impose our opinion and our personality on others? Many will say that we do this in order to know the truth and bring it to other people. This is a very noble goal if it is really dedicated to knowledge, however, having learned something and asserting his knowledge as the truth, a person considers it necessary to leave a memory of himself to other people. The thirst for the admiration of other people and the thirst to leave a mark in history give rise to a delusion of glory in other people.
That is, the creator is mad if he shows his face. True virtue should be faceless, just as real creativity should be faceless, then the absoluteness of creativity and virtue will also lie in the fact that it cannot bring harm to other people, at least until the consciousness of other people is free from selfishness. . Let us present a situation where the concepts of SELF-AFFIRMATION and SELF-APPOINTMENT will be barely distinguishable, that is, where the context of conjugation or the moment of transition of one concept to another will be visible. Let's take our book. In order to affirm the existence of absolute consciousness, it is necessary to prove the existence of absolute man, that is, simply to find him. If the author himself considers himself impeccable, then we can immediately safely say that he thinks too much about himself. And the writing of such a book is necessarily conditioned by the desire to achieve fame and respect. In logic, hardly anyone can admit that you can do something without benefit to yourself.
Any form of selflessness is perceived as stupidity. In any case, one can see what this or that person was like only at the end of his path, that is, the result of his activity speaks about the personality. All other proofs of infallibility will be mercenary. That is, gaining reason does not mean at all that a person will be free from logic. We may know that we are mistaken, and yet we cannot avoid the temptation to succumb to the temptation of the senses. Here everything will depend on society, which will comment on and restrict our actions if they are not reasonable. That is, freedom here will take a different form than permissiveness. Let's go into the context of a monarch who asserts himself as God's anointed. The royal dynasty is nothing but a selfish desire to ensure a profitable existence for their offspring. For this, for many centuries many methods have been used to prove the exclusivity of the royal person, including education and ideal conditions for development.
Thus, the royal person did not even doubt her belonging to a higher class of people. This is a clear example of CONCERN, because history has proven that the reign of an emperor is no different from ruling other people. It is also possible to consider the desire of a nation to call itself better than other peoples, on the basis of a developed economy and culture, as conceit. As soon as one person or some people suddenly begins to consider themselves higher or better than other people, SELF-AFFIRMATION loses its measure, and we ascertain self-conceit. Moreover, this does not mean at all that a person should become invisible in society. We are talking here again about the cause of actions, that is, SELF-AFFIRMATION makes sense, as the desire to benefit others. Let's go into the mind of a young girl who plans to start a family with a young man. In logic, each person adapts his thoughts to existing conditions. Therefore, the girl will consider it possible for herself to APPROVE that she is worthy of many benefits that a young man should provide her, since he says that he loves her.
However, it would not be correct to blame her for greed and arrogance, because there are so many people driving around in beautiful cars and throwing money around, here you will inevitably feel inferior if you have fewer opportunities. It is another matter to achieve all the blessings yourself, and although this path is long, you will have to go through it, since society did not bother to provide a young family with an apartment and create conditions for development. All these thoughts are not important to us. We find out whether the girl asserts herself as a person or she thinks too much of herself, that is, she overestimates self-esteem. We mentally leave the conditions and analyze these concepts from the point of view of their meaning. The concept of SELF-AFFIRMATION includes dignity, honor and modesty, that is, high moral qualities. In the concept of conceit there will be selfishness, ambition, arrogance and vanity. In our conditions, of course, it is difficult to talk about morality and morality when it comes to life that rushes before you like a train and does not even give you the opportunity not only to get into the car, but also to run alongside. We will not reproach a young, blossoming girl with arrogance and vanity and will leave this context. Let everyone find the truth for himself. In order not to bring each other to despair, you just need not to get annoyed. Truth doesn't drive fancy cars or live in hundreds of apartments. This world simply imagines the truth out of itself, enjoying its arrogance, it is difficult to consider oneself a person in it only because it will be a subjective understanding of things, regarded by others as self-conceit. But we must not remain indifferent to it, because we will pass this world on to our children dancing in discos, who are also sure that there is nothing more pleasant than a colorful rag from a prestigious boutique that awakens love, devotion, and fidelity.
Let's go into the context of a journalist who broadcasts a program about criminals and talks about them in an iron and reproving voice. We look at a child who stole a mobile phone or a notorious criminal who snatches bags from people's hands, and we rejoice when justice supposedly triumphs and such elements are imprisoned. We simply forget that half of the population has already been in our prisons, and that even our proverb says that it is not necessary to renounce prison and the bag. Society does not look for the causes of crime, it considers bandits as a fact and APPROVES its laws as the truth.
And we are all members of society, together with this journalist, IMAGINE ourselves as judges, able to understand a person and his deeds. The self-conceit of people in society in different contexts is simply amazing. We have forgotten that the laws by which we live have not been revised for two thousand years. Then our Ruriks and Ivan the Terrible LIKE themselves to be arbiters of justice, when the executioners did not have time to wash off the blood from the axes. Now our rulers do not have time to close the doors of prisons and isolation wards, in which those who simply have not seen a piece of bread in the house since childhood are kept, thanks to our vaunted constitution, in which the words on paper are written for themselves.
It follows from the table that SELF-ASSESSMENT of a personality is the recognition of oneself as equal to other people. Here we are talking primarily about equality, as the main condition for the justice and dignity of mankind. To overestimate oneself means to prove one's moral superiority over others and, accordingly, unreasonable respect in oneself for this superiority. Under the conditions when money is the equivalent of moral concepts, self-conceit can grow with the growth of material wealth. In relations between people, money is a form of suppression of the individual.
Under these conditions, it is impossible to APPROVE one's personality without having material support. The consciousness of people is so accustomed to the monetary form of justice that today no one is surprised or outraged by the presence of criminals, businessmen and other representatives of monetary professions in government. The absurdity generated by the ubiquitous logic becomes a natural phenomenon of human existence.
The author of the post, a young naturalist with an inquisitive mind, begins cheerfully:
As you know, a woman should be 5-95 years younger than a man. Otherwise, the couple will quickly disperse, the marriage will be unhappy, the children will not receive proper education.
Quite chaotically, the chronological order of possible events is a little confused, but the idea is clear to me personally, that's right, although personally I would raise the lower bar of the difference noticeably, and lower the top bar even more noticeably. But I think the author is joking like that. Further, the author writes disturbing things:
Dowry Morena-Kosharel constantly write about young maidens and elderly men.
I farted a hiccup when I read this. Very concerned for the author. At such a tender age, reading all three at once is not going to end well. I hope the author's opinion about the age difference was not formed from the vysers of these slaves of the rating? It would be less for him to read such shit ... "I t in Soviet times oh-oh-oh ... I t in Soviet times u-u-u-u ...". Yes Yes.
But I am not a young maiden and the situation is the opposite: older women undress with a glance, sliding from bottom to top, from top to bottom. But unlike demons, I don't think about how to rent out my primary ones more expensively.
I find it vile and provincial.
A little relieved, the main thing is that this opinion of the author always remains stable.
I'm still under 30 (just think how long I've lived, how much I've seen, and still at a young age).
I do not discriminate against women on the basis of age (maximum chest size).
And it would be better vice versa.
But you must admit that women in Russia over 30 age dramatically, do not take care of themselves, wear too large protective fat layers - it is simply unpleasant to look at most of them.
I won’t speak for everyone… But in general I agree, especially about the rapid aging. As they say, a woman after 30 looks as good as she can afford. This refers to the financial possibilities of a woman.
The author, as already known, considers himself, though young, but sophisticated. True, it is not clear what, “how much I have seen” leaves us room for imagination. Maybe TV channels, or maybe porn sites, the thought is somehow vaguely expressed. Despite this, the questions asked are naive, like the look of a 2-year-old child.
Where does this conceit "I'm a queen" come from if the parents are factory workers. Where does the opinion about one's own irresistibility come from? From the comments of your friends on Instagram?
Well then. I take the liberty of answering our hero's questions. So let's go straight to the explanation.
The question is "where from?". That is, it seems like where they got it from, I think I understood correctly. From there, from there. And the origin is completely irrelevant.
Like almost all men, this man makes one of the main male mistakes - he endows a woman with qualities that she cannot possess. In this case - the same way of thinking as his. Which, in this case, suggests some grounds for his statements.
But women are different. No worse, no better. Just others. Each lives in their own fantasy fictional universe. Reality is hateful to them, it frightens them, it is uncomfortable, unpleasant, it shows a woman and makes a woman admit many unpleasant things. That the figure is blurred, that she turned her nails into a fucked up with false nails, that regrown hair roots are bullshit and not a fashion trend, that wrinkles around the eyes speak not only of a cheerful character, but also of an equally cheerful imminent meeting with menopause, that the character is already shit, and since they don’t become more beautiful with age, it’s impossible to go out in appearance forever. And so on and so forth.
Solve it somehow? For what? Too difficult. After all, you can just take it and come up with yourself - "I'm Karaleva"! She does not need "from what" and "why", a woman easily manages without any reason. She decided so - and that's enough. That's how it works. Of course, there are like-minded people who think the same way. And where should they go, they are the same. Girlfriends from instagram yes, including. This is supported by numerous shit bloggers. Whatever you read, she knows everything about what a man should be, who is a man and who is a nonentity, who has achieved and who is a sucker. All of them decided that they had the right to give expert opinions. (At the same time, who is she to talk like that? Fuck a hole, no more. And everything is there ...) Well, since a man is like these write, this only reinforces the woman’s opinion about her own irresistibility. At any age and with any appearance.
That's why that older women undress with a glance, sliding from bottom to top, from top to bottom. At the same time, they can sincerely resent the discontent of a man. It's clear why, right?
All this is sad. After all, as a result of all that I wrote about above, the woman is fucked. Because if someone rolls up, it will not be the one who is worthy of their majesty, but those whom their majesty will favorably endow with attention, looking at the "karaleva" experience nothing but a gag reflex. And be a woman until the end of her life alone. This, however, applies to women of any age.
This is the kind of trap that women drive themselves into all the time. This example is somewhat exaggerated, but the essence is clear, I hope. It would seem that this should come to naught over time. It seems that they should come to their senses, well, once, well, I tried twenty, it didn’t work out so I would have thought - maybe I’m something wrong, maybe it’s me? And fucking ... The peculiarities of a woman's thinking also include the property to give the exception the appearance of a rule. And if Galkin was found somewhere, an unfortunate pervert who married a grandmother, then they all begin to piously believe that it can always be everywhere. And of course, this will happen to her too. Speaking figuratively romantically, for some time now the women began to think that they could win the jackpot on their own. In all seriousness, think so.
What else is there to say? Let the classic speak. Blessed are those who believe. I shortened a little. Well, he's not offended, I think.
Cm … Synonym dictionary
CONCERN, I, cf. An exaggeratedly high opinion of oneself. Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov. S.I. Ozhegov, N.Yu. Shvedova. 1949 1992 ... Explanatory dictionary of Ozhegov
conceit- immense self-conceit diabolical self-conceit colossal self-conceit exorbitant self-conceit monstrous self-conceit ... Dictionary of Russian Idioms
conceit- a negative spiritual and moral quality of a person, manifested in increased self-esteem, an exaggeratedly high opinion of one's personal qualities, actions, one's role in any social activity. Self-confidence is self-confidence, ... ... Fundamentals of spiritual culture (encyclopedic dictionary of a teacher)
conceit- (opinion here in the meaning of "thinking") - an exaggeratedly high opinion of oneself. A change of life for the better, satiety, idleness develop self-conceit in a Russian person, the most arrogant (A. Chekhov, Kryzhovnik) ... Encyclopedic Dictionary of Psychology and Pedagogy
Wed An exaggeratedly high opinion of oneself, one's own merits. Explanatory Dictionary of Efremova. T. F. Efremova. 2000... Modern explanatory dictionary of the Russian language Efremova
Self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit, self-conceit (Source: “Full accentuated paradigm according to A. A. Zaliznyak”) ... Forms of words
conceit- conceit, I ... Russian spelling dictionary
conceit- (2 s), Ave. about arrogance / nie ... Spelling Dictionary of the Russian Language
Books
- Theater without lies, Zakharov M.A. The director is an ambitious profession. The director sometimes imagines that he knows something about life that others do not know. Of course, directorial conceit can help in finding a profession, ...
- Values and the Struggle of Conscious Patriotism, Tsipko A.S. The spiritual health of the modern Russian nation is threatened not only by Smerdyakovism, cosmopolitan nihilism, defeatist moods, but also by stupid conceit, flat complacency of leavened ...
- And laughter and sin ... (a cure for depression). Book One, Collection. Humor in any situation helps a person to remain himself. All people are divided into two types - creators and suffering, who destroy not only themselves, but also the world around them. But not at once…
Hello dear friends!
Have you ever come across people suffering from narcissism syndrome? Or maybe you have noticed similar manifestations in yourself? Then today's article will be very useful for those individuals who are trying to overcome the reverse effect of an inferiority complex.
Inflated self-esteem is a categorical overestimation of one's own merits and potential. A person with such a piquant sense of self has a distorted and overestimated idea of himself, which is expressed in behavior.
Are there any advantages in such a behavioral norm of self-expression? Yes, high self-esteem can act as an engine that stimulates an inexhaustible, upbringing of self-esteem and strength.
But in fact, people in this category experience strong dissatisfaction with both personal and professional qualities. As a rule, they have a hard time building relationships with opponents due to the fact that they cannot adequately perceive and pay attention to other individuals.
Causes
Why is this happening? The reason lies in the fact that a person who vividly expresses his virtues often sins by excessively embellishing his abilities.
They want to appear better than they really are, and this leads to the fact that the most base and arrogant side of their soul is torn out in a distorted form.
People with high self-esteem love to praise their loved ones, attributing to themselves simple merits, which, unfortunately, are not confirmed. The presentation of their superpowers can sometimes reach an aggressive demeanor or even intrusive.
In addition, a person can literally and deliberately allow himself to speak about the skills of other people in a negative way, focusing on the fact that only he has the right to talk about merit.
Such a demonstration of achievements is caused by the desire to assert oneself at the expense of others. The individual is maniacally determined to prove to the whole world that the truth is on his side and that he is the most-most ever born. And at the same moment, he very clearly makes it clear that the rest of the people are no match for him! In a word - fools!
How is the desire to prove superiority born?
Before thinking about how frightening the consequences can be, the science of psychology recommends understanding the cause of the manifestation of the syndrome " I am the best!».
The complex of the "star" or the Lord of Rus' is most often formed in early childhood and most likely in a child who grows up as the only child in the family. He has a sense of himself as the king of the atmosphere. Because he constantly has unlimited attention, free from competition between a brother or sister.
This is because all the interests of the family are focused on his beloved. Adults with joy and immense tenderness perceive any actions of the baby, laying the thought of an unhealthy feature in the head. Growing up, such a person still strives to find beliefs that the whole world revolves around him.
In truth, excessive self-confidence is still the same, but on the other hand and in profile. Not a small reason lies in too low self-esteem. And self-confidence in this case plays the role of a protective barrier and bunker.
But there are other mechanisms that can provoke an attack. So:
- children's fears, complexes or (the desire to prove to relatives and others that he is not an empty place);
- working conditions: the only man in the team or an employee who has succeeded in the effectiveness of his work (one-time, like a flash);
- publicity, especially sudden;
- propensity to be influenced (we are talking about participation in the movement for increasing self-esteem, development, etc.)
How to recognize the symptoms?
Revealing the owner of an inflated ego is quite simple. This is because the manifestation of "illness" is always typical and monotonous. People with inflated self-esteem are too similar to each other in their beloved narcissism.
If you hear phrases like: " I am the most successful», « only i can know», « I'm smarter than everyone else", etc., then be sure that in front of you is "Common Narcissus".
But in order to try to solve the problem of deliverance, you need to understand the signs of a cunning disease for further correction of behavior and worldview. So you can watch:
How to overcome self-confidence and return it to normal?
1. Analysis of the situation
Conduct a systematic analysis of failures and strive to identify the "guilty" of what happened. Every time the desire to put the blame on someone else begins to outweigh, try to evaluate your own contribution to what happened.
2. Communications and communities
In relations with people, it is worth adhering to the "golden mean". This means that you should not ascribe a level of insignificance to yourself, but it is also not necessary to demonstrate jumps above the heads of others. Refuse to criticize colleagues, acquaintances and people you do not know. Reduce the level of personal importance and try to hear the interlocutor.
Ask more questions, be interested in their lives, successes and present yours as needed and appropriate. Learn to give compliments and admit failures. After all, we are all people, not machines.
3. Work on yourself
In order to evaluate your own and skills as objectively as possible, I recommend that you write out your merits and areas for study on a piece of paper.
After analyzing your own pros and cons, examine each item carefully and with the help of critical thinking. It may happen that their significance will be exaggerated.
4. Meeting with a reflection of yourself
Carl Jung stated that the most important meeting in our life is the meeting with ourselves. Until you look at yourself frankly and honestly, the situation will not change. As a result, you will live your days in a fictional and illusory world, offending people.
A person with high self-esteem is most afraid of such a meeting. Indeed, in order to achieve what was planned, a reserve of courage and determination is needed. Perhaps it's time to open your eyes to the inner world, and not to external tinsel and opinions?
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See you on the blog, bye bye!
She quietly stood aside and listened to what these teenagers, simple guys from a nearby province, were talking about:
- Well? Who is Alenka walking with? asked a boy with a trendy haircut and miling.
- With Badey. - the girl answered him, barely walking on slippery ice in high heels.
- Come on! Still with him? And I thought she would just hate him after that incident. How about Dyrich? Is he freaking out?
- Not really. He calmed down a long time ago. Probably from the very beginning he knew that Alenka was like that.
Their conversation was slow and mournful. They talked about it kind of lazily.
More friends came.
- Oooh ... what kind of people. Did you go to the entrance?
- Yes Yes! Let's go! And now my legs are falling off. the girl in high heels squealed.
They all went to the entrance and imposingly sat down between the second and third floors.
- Do you remember how yesterday we ..?
- Ahahah! Yes! We were so drunk that….
- Come on? As usual, we...
- Again drunk as an insole, we went to ....
- I tell him: no, you want me to fill your face? He's like, come on! Drive up to….to…. we'll talk there! .... In general, it was such a mochilova !!!
- Why are you silent? All of a sudden they all turned towards the quiet girl.
- Well, tell me something.
- Yes, indeed. You are kind of quiet.
Everyone looked at her. An awkward pause.
- What should I talk about? What can you talk about if you don't know all your friends and all your forays into society? Let's talk. Let's talk about the economic situation in the country, about global warming, about music, about books, about nature, about starving children in Africa, about the stars shining so beautifully tonight, about epidemics in Zimbabwe, about religions, about Dalai meditations. llamas, about the work of Dostoevsky, Gogol, Shakespeare, about concerts of modern rock bands or the spread of vegetarianism, about the 21st century in the yard, and you still wear real fur! It feels like you live in your own, separate small and limited world, not thinking about the vastness of the planet and the infinity of the Universe. Take a look around - there are so many beautiful and interesting things, you just have to touch, and your mind will take shape, you can touch it, and you can throw your ideas and thoughts like a tennis ball. Your empty talk will lead nowhere. Reliving the moments over and over again, thinking about the past action as history is great, great. But! But if it makes any sense. I don't see the point in your stories. No reflection. I am not going to teach you and do not claim that my monologue is the truth of life. You asked me to tell you something - I told what was spinning in my head at the moment. Best wishes.
They stared at her intently and tried to understand what she was pouring out to them now. The flow was so powerful and all-encompassing that the meaning of her words barely reached some. They thought that the girl spoke a different language. At the end of the speech, it began to dawn on them that all of the above was some kind of reproach or insult - anger on their faces. Oddly enough, her words did not go to waste: one young and pure (almost pure) heart began to beat a little faster after her speeches. Who knows, maybe he can change something and become a phenomenon in this province?