All people have emotions, but each person expresses them differently. Women do this quite brightly, it is easy to understand from them that some kind of trouble has occurred, difficulties have arisen in relationships. A man, when offended, looks outwardly calm. He can simply withdraw into himself and for some time ignore everything that happens around him. Offended men behave, as a rule, as follows: silence, look coldly at the girl, demonstrate a bad mood, and so on. If a woman has noticed such signs, it is recommended to take measures to correct the situation.
What is meant by resentment?
Psychologists are sure that a person cannot be offended. Everyone chooses a reaction to the actions of another person - he can be offended, he can raise his voice, avoid conflict, and so on. There are a lot of reaction options, and resentment is only one of them.
If the guy is offended and ignores the girl, it is also not worth shifting all responsibility for what happened to him. After all, he feels resentment for the actions that the woman did or for the words that she said. Therefore, the girl could well have avoided a conflict situation if she had been more attentive to the guy and behaved more correctly. Thus, in a situation where a man is offended, two are to blame (after all, this is a relationship, and two parties always participate in them).
To avoid problem situations in a couple, it is necessary to communicate and get to know each other as much as possible. This will allow you to always know what can offend your partner, and not make mistakes. For example, a man does not tolerate the presence of milk in tea, and a girl accidentally (even with the best of intentions) poured milk for him. As a result, conflict may occur. But after all, it might not have been, if the girl were more attentive to the guy's preferences.
Causes of male insults
The most common reasons why a man may be offended by a woman are the following.
Diffidence
Girls sometimes in the heat of emotion can say a lot of unpleasant things. A man perceives them not as a manifestation of emotions or a momentary assessment, but as a real attitude towards him. As a result, of course, he becomes offended and begins to ignore the girl, because as a result of offensive words and expressions, his self-esteem suffers. Moreover, a man may be offended even despite the fact that for a long time before the quarrel, the girl openly showed him her feelings, talked about them. One wrong word for a man can undermine his self-confidence, and he will close. In such a situation, you need to think hard about what to write to the guy if he is offended.
put on the crown
This means that guys sometimes forget that they are conquerors - they want their wife to be the first to take the initiative in reconciliation. As a result, he begins to wait until the woman realizes her guilt after a quarrel and comes to reconcile. In such a situation, one should think carefully whether it is worth putting up with, because such behavior of a man is to a certain extent a humiliation of a woman. You should not continue the relationship if the man is too touchy. If he is offended by trifles, most likely, he is simply looking for a reason to break off relations, but does not dare.
Not sure about the response
In such a situation, a man looks closely at the girl, at her behavior, and if he notices signs that she does not have any warm feelings for him, he, offended, may begin to ignore her.
Different ideas about right behavior
It may well be that a man does not share the girl's ideas about normal behavior. If a girl often attends parties, discos, this may seem unacceptable to him, and he can make it clear by his behavior that such actions are not understandable and not pleasant to him.
How to deal with the situation?
Firstly, if a man does not call or does not answer messages, this does not mean that the girl offended him. It may well turn out that he is just very busy at work, or he has difficulties with the car, friends or colleagues. Therefore, for starters, you should just wait, it may well turn out that there is no conflict situation and the girl did nothing wrong.
If, nevertheless, there is a feeling of conflict and resentment on the part of a man, it is recommended to simply talk to him. Otherwise, how to understand what is the cause of resentment? You can ask him to start with simple questions about the car, work, friends. It is possible that the reason for his isolation is the need to urgently solve some problem. Then the girl can help in finding a solution, and instead of conflict, the relationship will become even stronger.
What definitely should not be done is to immediately arrange a showdown. Tantrums, excessive emotions can provoke more problems than a simple calm conversation. You should not even try to manipulate a man or threaten him after a quarrel. It also won't work. If in fact there is resentment, then manipulation or threats will only aggravate it.
How to apologize?
In case the guy is offended and ignores, it is recommended to ask for forgiveness. However, not everyone knows how to do it right. First, you should understand the reason why a man behaves this way, find out what act hurt him. After that, you should explain why such an act was committed and promise that since such situations hurt a man, then they will no longer be repeated.
If the offense is serious enough, then you will have to work a little to get forgiveness. First you need to capture his attention, because offended, the man will purposefully ignore the girl. This can be done with the help of a cooked romantic dinner, an attractive appearance, a small gift for a man, and so on. After that, it is recommended to again have a calm conversation, during which you explain your behavior and apologize.
If necessary, you can prepare for the conversation. The main thing is to remain calm throughout its entire length, even if a man allows a surge of emotions. You should not succumb to reciprocal emotions and be offended by a man. It is much more effective to calm him down and turn the conversation into a constructive direction. Otherwise, the conflict will only worsen the situation, the guy and the girl will be offended by each other, and the problem will not be solved. If a man and a woman have mutual feelings, they will be able to cope with any problems and will always hear each other.
Not all girls know what to do if a man is offended. Psychologists have developed several recommendations for such situations.
- The first piece of advice is not to doubt yourself and not lose your dignity. The resentment of a man may also turn out to be feigned in order to make a woman feel guilty, to receive additional preferences from her. In such a situation, manipulation is not worth it. Relationships should be equal, if one partner purposefully humiliates the other, it is better to end such a relationship.
- One option, if a man is offended and ignores how to behave, is to take the situation philosophically. It is quite possible that the cooling of a man is temporary, he just needs to be alone for a while, sort out his feelings. Do not be offended by him for this in return, after a while he will understand that he loves and will return.
- The third piece of advice on what to do if a guy is offended is to change behavior. Since the man was offended, it means that the girl’s behavior was really unacceptable and incorrect for him. In such a situation, the best way out is to understand what the mistake was and not repeat it in the future, but to apologize to the man.
If calm conversations do not help, you can try to distract yourself, to demonstrate to the man that life is full of pleasures without him. To do this, you can continue to lead a familiar lifestyle, go shopping, go to the movies, meet friends. It is quite possible that such behavior may well encourage a man to deal with his feelings faster and will help him understand that he was offended in vain. It is often even useful to leave offended men alone with themselves. Don't call them and bother them. Moreover, they should not then be reminded of how many times the girl called, that she also has feelings, she is also offended by his behavior. This will cause a man to have negative memories and provoke a new conflict.
What can be done to prevent resentment?
Mutual resentment is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship, so you need to sort out their causes as quickly as possible and take measures so as not to repeat such situations in the future.
Of course, it will not be possible to completely avoid conflict situations, but it is quite possible to prevent most of them. To do this, it is necessary to remember that all people are different, each has its own characteristics. What is normal for one person may be critically unacceptable for another. Therefore, it is necessary to look for an approach to an offended husband and build relationships individually. To do this, you should spend as much time with each other as possible, get to know each other, communicate, understand what is important to whom, and so on.
In addition, relationships should be constantly strengthened. If a man has problems at work, a woman may well offer him her help or express sympathy. This will increase mutual understanding and build trust between partners. And, of course, you should respect each other, because when people love each other, understand, trust - this is what long-term and happy relationships are built on.
So, when men are offended, they behave differently than women. Therefore, it is recommended that you behave differently. First, you should not ask obvious questions, such as "who are you offended by." The answer will be: “on you”, but this will not lead to a resolution of the conflict. It is much more effective to sincerely try to understand why a man looks offended. You can write him a kind message, try to support. If it didn’t work out, you shouldn’t treat the situation in the style: “well, be offended as much as you like, I’ll be offended too.” Such a position can even lead to a break in relations. It is recommended to try to understand what the error was and promptly correct it.
If a man is offended and ignores, how to behave? There is no single answer to this question. After all, a number of factors must be taken into account:
- Personal characteristics of a lover: temperament, temperament, emotional intelligence.
- . It is important to understand what a woman means in a man's life. If a young man loves a girl, then most likely he will not be angry over trifles.
- The frequency of quarrels and disagreements. Not every man will get along with a woman who is inclined to sort things out in a raised voice.
Therefore, it is important to consider the algorithm for overcoming the difficulties that arise in almost any couple in love.
What are psychologists talking about?
Experts provide answers to the following series of questions:
If the girl is to blame
It is important to consider how to respond to male grievances:
If you are right
- The guy may have an unreasonable attack of jealousy. Do not immediately defend yourself and justify yourself. It is enough to calmly listen to the partner's claims. Explain to him why his fears and fears are false. If a man is dear to you, then you should not say that his feelings are only his problem, if such a showdown does not occur on a regular basis, but only in rare cases.
- If a woman pretended that she was of little interest in baseless accusations against her, then the man would either be offended even more, or. You can’t take the position of a victim, who will be told everything that the sick imagination of the offended person draws, but you shouldn’t put him in his place harshly either. Many women themselves were often offended by those who were not to blame for anything. And often people are grateful to those who respected their anxieties and worries.
- Don't be offended by a man's desire to be alone. A touchy woman can only exacerbate the problem by forcing her chosen one to sort things out when he intends to leave the conversation. We are not talking about the fact that a young man should leave every time something does not suit him. But sometimes there are times when getting away from a showdown is a vital necessity, when it is important to maintain one's integrity and peace of mind. Knowing about such a male feature, show wisdom and understanding. It is best to initially discuss with a man a possible scenario for the development of events in conflict situations in order to avoid misunderstandings in the future.
The girl is not responsible for the feelings of a man and for his decisions. But a loving woman will try to find common ground with her chosen one, even when she is absolutely right.
You probably noticed that women are especially touchy.
We have many demands on oneself and others
.
We are waiting for warm communication, friendly tone, compliments, attention and help.
And if we don't get it, then we begin to be madly and painfully offended
.
Why? I think many of you are interested in the same questions ...
There is at least five reasons such heightened resentment of women.
1. REASON FIRST - IMPRESSIBILITY.
Women are especially emotional and impressionable.
They notice all the little things and details, they are very sensitive.
If the husband did not ask how things were or did not thank for dinner, for a woman these are the key events of the day.
Because she feeds her soul with such little things.
Thus, hypersensitivity to detail creates a foundation for resentment.
2. THE SECOND REASON - OWN MOTHER'S RESPONSIBILITY.
The habit of being offended in a woman is formed from childhood.
Girls copy the behavior of their mother, and even if you think that you are
its the complete opposite, anyway You have a lot of habits inherited from her!
AND if your mother was inclined to be offended, pout and blame everyone around for all sorts of little things,
then, most likely, you, too, have become touchy!
3. REASON THREE - PERFECTIONISM.
The resentment of a woman is associated with her idealism and perfectionism.
Since childhood, girls draw beautiful pictures of how her future will turn out.
How wonderful her marriage, husband and child will be.
How easy it will be to become a mother and what a wonderful father a husband will be.
slightest discrepancy between reality and dreams, differences between the desired and the real
very painful hurt many women
who do everything to make this ideal their life!
4. REASON FOUR - Strict education.
One of the most important reasons for resentment is the peculiarities of upbringing.
Earlier it was customary to shame, compare and in every possible way emphasize the shortcomings of the child.
It was believed that this would help him overcome them as soon as possible.
As a result, the child's attention is always focused on their own shortcomings,
and later on the shortcomings of other people.
Growing up, such a woman goes through life with a magnifying glass:
she sees all the shortcomings of other people and is ready, like her parents,
at any time to "help" a loved one by pointing to them.
And if he "does not obey", she is offended ...
5. THE FIFTH REASON - LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE.
Resentment arises due to self-doubt,
when a woman doesn't feel good enough.
This is typical of many women, because we often doubt ourselves and
needing help or a safe space to express ourselves...
Resentment is a reaction to any hint about one's imperfection.
(I didn’t cook dinner, the child has a bruise, the room was not cleaned, I didn’t wash my hair).
As soon as a woman receives even the slightest signal from the outside world
about her failure, lack of attractiveness, caring, mind, ...
(you can list indefinitely), she immediately begins to feel hurt, hurt, offended ...
It turns out that a woman is practically doomed to resentment?
It turns out that she has practically no chance to live without resentment?
NO! A woman can and knows how to build relationships without offense!
HOW TO STOP ACCEPTING DISSATISFACTION?
5 NECESSARY STEPS TO START LIVING WITHOUT RESPONSIBILITY
1. STEP ONE - UNDERSTAND YOUR DESIRES.
It is very important to learn to understand yourself and your needs.
To study in detail what exactly does not suit me, what hurts, what hurts.
Do you think this is obvious? I'm willing to bet that this isn't always the case.
Try during the day to carefully monitor your grievances and understand
what exactly offends you. I'm sure you will have a lot of discoveries!
2. STEP TWO - SET BORDERS.
It is important to determine what kind of treatment you consider unacceptable,
what exactly is unbearable for you, and what is permissible.
Try to answer the questions for yourself:
if it offends me, then what kind of partner's behavior would be comfortable and acceptable for me?
3. STEP THREE - CONVEY YOUR WISHES TO YOUR RELATED.
To overcome resentment, it is important to learn how to communicate your desires to the attention of loved ones.
After all, as a rule, women live according to the principle, "if he loves, then he will guess."
It is very difficult to say directly what we would like to receive.
As a result, women either sulk, or pour the whole truth-womb on their husband in a temper,
without forgetting to ride on the most painful points. And this is not the most constructive option.
4. STEP FOUR - GET CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF.
In order to stop accumulating discontent,
needs to be nurtured self-confidence and self-esteem
.
Thanks to them, you will be able not only to build communication with others in such a way,
not to offend them with reproaches and claims, but also to make it clear to relatives,
which is unacceptable for you.
In addition, a self-confident woman ceases to fight imaginary grievances,
knows what is worth paying attention to, and what is a mere trifle.
5. STEP FIVE - RECEIVE YOUR LOVED ONES.
On the path of personal growth, it is very important to learn to accept your loved ones.
Each of them is an individuality, each has its own advantages and disadvantages.
Learning to understand and accept a person as he is is not an easy task,
especially if its shortcomings are unbearable for you.
This is especially hard when it comes to your husband, mother or child.
And yet it is possible! Such work on oneself is not easy work, but it will pay off handsomely!
If a man is offended, never expect that this condition will pass by itself. Resentment against a girlfriend, resentment against a girl or wife is a special condition that entails serious consequences and sooner or later will negatively affect your relationship. Therefore, it is better to take up the elimination of the consequences of resentment immediately and in no case put it off indefinitely. Let us analyze in detail what happens if the guy is offended.
Meet your offended man with anal vector
The anal vector is the name of one of the eight types of mentality, which is manifested in a person by certain properties. Men with this vector are distinguished by the following qualities that you can easily observe in your young man.
He is caring, for him the priority is home and family. The attitude towards a woman is special, she must be there, be a good housewife and faithful companion. He is pedantic, loves consistency in everything, an opponent of change, hard to lift, thorough, keeps his word, although its implementation may drag on for months, but it will still be done.
It can be slow and boring, very stubborn, ready to defend its point of view in long disputes with foam at the mouth, likes to give advice and instructions, picky about cleanliness and demands order in the house, endowed with an increased sense of inconvenience in front of people. Words of praise for him are a balm for the soul.
Some properties may appear brightly, others may not be noticed at all, because in conjunction with several vectors, some qualities overlap, some appear only in certain situations.
The portrait described above is the touchy man. Only this type of man suffers from a heightened sense of justice. And first of all, he immediately notices an unfair attitude towards himself. To give such a person something is to offend.
And resentment against women is one of the difficult conditions due to which a touchy man will not be able to build normal relationships even with the most faithful and loving representative of the fair sex, because he will unconsciously draw parallels between her and the one that offended him.
Why is the man offended?
No matter how trifling the reason why he was offended may seem to you, do not hope that this state will disappear without a trace. Because this type of mentality is characterized by clear processes of the birth of resentment and its subsequent development. How to understand that a man was offended, we will find out further.
A man with an anal vector - at the dawn of mankind, he performed his role in order to preserve the integrity of the pack. He was the guardian of children and women, while everyone else went hunting (hence the priority of the home, which is the greatest value).
Men with an anal vector, slow and slow, were not suitable for active actions outside the cave, so they remained to guard it. And their stubbornness was necessary in order to stand in the way of the enemy with a single wall, if he tried to penetrate the cave.
Being all together and performing the same role, all the analniks were equal before each other and shared their part of the booty equally among themselves.
Hence the heightened sense of justice in relation to oneself: if everyone is equal, but I was suddenly not given enough, I was offended. This applies not only to material values, but to anything. If they didn’t appreciate the good work and didn’t say a kind word, if he did you a favor, but you didn’t praise him. Any injustice towards him and a man with an anal vector will immediately make you feel that he was offended by me.
Being in the rear, people with an anal vector were not inactive. Their second role was to accumulate experience, knowledge, which they systematized with all the thoroughness and pedantry, sorted out in order to eventually pass them on to future generations, playing the role of a teacher. Hence the properties - to bring to perfection, to separate the right from the wrong, good from bad, clean from dirty, so as to convey the best to the future.
This division is projected onto everything that happens in the life of the anal man and the main one who is being tested is his woman, who must be clean. A woman is the main person in a man’s life and it depends on the one that is next to him how his relations with the outside world will be built.
A touchy husband considers a pure, that is, faithful, his pride, his concern. The dirty one must be cleaned, but this cannot be done physically, which means that there will be constant verbal “cleansing”, that is, criticism, and the inability to complete the task will cause the projection of this desire on everyone around, who will also get it with or without reason.
The impossibility of simply taking and forgetting the moment when a male offense arose is inextricably linked with the species role of the owner of the anal vector. The accumulation of experience is impossible without the past being a priority, and therefore he directs all his thoughts to what was before. He is focused exclusively on the events of yesterday and will never stop remembering them, especially if, having offended you, you did not make amends to him.
What to do if a guy is offended by treason
If the reason for a man’s resentment lies in the fact that a woman has cheated on him, then it is very difficult to wash off such an insult. It is the resentment towards women that turns the owner of the anal vector into a critic and a dirt scumbag.
If a guy is offended by treason, then it will be almost impossible to beg for forgiveness. For him, you will forever become "dirty." And everything that is dirty needs cleaning. And he will "purify" you for the rest of your life. How? With your criticism.
Forgive something, he will forgive if you tearfully beg for forgiveness, but not for long. After a while, a touchy man will again return to this topic and demand details in order to eventually bring the relationship to a scandal. No apologies on your part will ever be enough, they will only have their effect for a while, and then, only after he, with all his might, “restoring” justice, will once again prove to you how disgusting you have acted.
If the offense was inflicted by another woman before you, then you can observe his obsessive dreams that one day she will crawl and ask for forgiveness. Resentment against women is incurable from the outside. It is possible to work through and let go of this state only through the realization by him of his touchy nature.
One more thing. No matter how much it seems to you that his offense is not worth a damn, do not try to prove your point of view to a person with an anal vector. Don't prove it. It is almost impossible to argue and convince an anal person of something. He is the biggest bettor in the world. If a man is offended, it is easier to immediately ask for forgiveness and make life easier for yourself and for him.
The guy was offended, what to do: light insults
In this case, asking for forgiveness will have the desired effect. But it is better to do it at the same moment when the offense was inflicted. If you crumble in front of the anal in apologies right away, then he will blossom with a smile and your deep and sincere words will make him feel uncomfortable. The insult will not only be instantly forgotten, but the person will be overwhelmed with joy, since justice has been restored.
Do the same thing a week later and your apology won't have half the same effect. Because all week, since the guy was offended, he will repeatedly scroll through his resentment in his head, and it will grow and be deposited in the mind, and the offender will gradually turn into your enemy.
If the offense is not serious enough, then a man with an anal vector is still able to get used to this feeling and step over it, but not forget. And no, no, and it will come up at the wrong moment and hurt you with a reproach expressed with a sense of deep justice.
It is necessary to remember one thing - insults of any severity do not go away and do not disappear, they are postponed and accumulated, and a person gradually becomes more and more grumpy year after year, criticizes more and shows his offended attitude towards the world.
Criticism can tell you about the internal state of a person with an anal vector. When this desire to find an inaccuracy and correct it to perfection is a normal desire of the anal man, who tends to bring everything to perfectionism.
When criticism becomes an obsessive desire to denigrate, to look for the bad where it does not exist, this indicates a poor state of the anal vector, numerous grievances that interfere with life and pour mud on others, thus alleviating the condition of the most offended.
After you eliminate the male resentment, you can try to convey to him that resentment is far from always justified. After all, a person with an anal vector is offended only when they personally miss him, while few of the anal people take into account the fact that, perhaps, the rest had a hard time and he is not the only one around whom the world revolves.
Any person at least once in his life felt resentment for a variety of reasons, someone was ignored, used, offended, insulted, ridiculed, rejected, hurt, made to suffer, promised what they were not going to give. But a separate place is occupied by those grievances that men inflict on women, on purpose, out of ignorance or inattention. And the worst thing is that sometimes the women themselves try to justify him, and do not sort things out right away, so that later it would not be a shame that for so many years she was next to someone who never loved and did not truly appreciate, but only offended and demanded.
We will devote our today's material to how men offend women. Even, perhaps, if a man does not do this on purpose, we will separately talk about what kind of behavior a man can offend a woman. Interesting? Then read.
To figure out what words or actions of men offend women, it’s worth mentioning right away that domestic violence, infidelity, drug addiction, gambling or alcoholism are not things that can offend women. These are serious problems that a woman suffers from, and even a man, because normal people will not behave this way and they need to be addressed. They do not offend, but break lives. This is a tragedy and danger, not an insult, when a person said without thinking, or acted recklessly, or even did something on purpose that offends another.
Neurotic men always offend
Men can offend a woman not on purpose, without thinking about how it will be perceived by a person or on purpose, wanting to hurt, get what they want. It depends on the nature of the person. If a man is a neurotic, a narcissist, a tyrant, he will constantly offend, insult, destroy self-esteem, because he does not know how to love either himself or anyone else, even if he thinks or says that he loves - this is not so. Such a man may not be aware that he offends a woman, believing that he has the right to say, act and do so, and it is generally not clear why everyone is offended by him, because he does nothing wrong. His self-confidence will not let him feel guilty, even if he tries to understand why he behaves so badly with others.
He really sincerely does not understand why he is offended, does not realize that there is darkness inside him, and therefore he is only able to splash it out, and if he does something good, he will definitely ruin everything. No matter how hard a woman tries, she will never hear an apology from a narcissist, because this type of man is always right, he is the best, the very best.
Neurotic women are always offended
But women themselves sometimes perceive the behavior of men too painfully and are offended, even when there was nothing offensive in their actions or words. Neurotic women often suffer from far-fetched grievances. They see in the words of a man something that was not there, they attribute to him what he was not going to do, they consider their attitude to what is happening to be the only true one. And all because they have too low self-esteem, they are not confident in themselves, they don’t understand in the depths of their soul why men are around them at all, they are waiting for him to leave them, leave them, they are in an anxious state all the time and therefore offended, perceiving his actions as they are in reality, believing that he deliberately did so that she was hurt. Although the man himself did what he considered necessary for himself and was absolutely not going to offend the woman or somehow humiliate him.
A vivid example of the fact that sometimes women themselves are offended by a man and look for a reason for resentment is the moment when he did not notice her new hairstyle or dress. And he did this because he was tired, thoughtful, does not differ in the ability to compliment, is restrained by nature, but the fair sex may be offended, believing that he is indifferent to her, he has someone, he doesn’t care or he didn’t like it , but it should have.
Often it is precisely such misunderstandings that cause women to believe that a man offends them, although this is not so. And this problem can only be solved by ourselves, because it lies not in the behavior of their chosen one, but in themselves, in their resentment, insecurity, low self-esteem, anxieties and fears, and men definitely have nothing to do with this. But of course, you should not consider all grievances fictional or explain that you misunderstood him, men often really behave ugly, hurt and offend women.
How exactly do they offend loved ones
And now it's time to talk about what most often offends women in male behavior.
Women are offended by ridicule and ignoring men
Very often, women are offended by ridicule, reproaches, inattention, the employment of a man, when you can do without it, especially when she knows that workaholism is dangerous to health. And instead of achievements, you can destroy your health.
She doesn't like it when he doesn't listen to her. And it does not matter that he is not able to physiologically perceive her complaints and the stream of words with which the fair sex experiences her emotions.
Male indifference
It is unpleasant for a woman and the indifference of a beloved man. And there is nothing surprising in this, because when a person is tired, it is clear why he is not up to others, even very beloved ones, his nervous system needs rest. But when he doesn’t care what she is going through, suffering, offended, she needs help, she asks to give her time, spend it with her, and not with friends or TV, then this already indicates that he is simply indifferent to her and does not appreciate her as a person. Resentment is resentment, but in such a situation, the woman herself should talk to him about it or continue to silently endure such neglect of herself if she thinks she is unworthy of being close to a man who will appreciate her and pay attention to her, and not ignore and use for your convenience.
Attention to other women
Insecure girls are often offended when men pay too much attention to other women. It seems to them that he compares them, even if it is often subconsciously, or maybe not, but the offense is caused by the fact that girls feel worse than others at such a moment. It doesn’t even occur to them to treat such a situation that the comparison will be in her favor anyway. Of course, no one has canceled the womanizers, the cheaters who are neurotic themselves and don’t know how to love, no matter what anyone does for them, but it’s a matter of choice whether a man who looks frankly at others suits her or not. But to feel worse than others, it would be better to engage in self-esteem and make sure that for the fair sex herself, all these comparisons are just an excuse to increase her own self-esteem, so that she remains confident that she is no worse than others, and maybe better, he with her, not with them.
Forgetfulness and inattention offends a woman
Women are definitely offended by the inattention of men, their forgetfulness about significant dates and holidays. They don’t care that men are not able to remember the date from the day they met, however, not all, someone remembers this, but there are not so many of them. And they forget, not because they don't care, it's just that their head is occupied with a lot of other things. There is no malicious intent in this. And if he is indifferent, then this will be understandable even without the fact that he forgot about the date of the acquaintance or meeting.
Sudden male disappearance
She also offends women, and when a man disappears for a while, he does not call and is not interested in how she is doing. Does not call if promised. And this already really suggests that he is not very interested in the girl. The one who is in love, the one who needs her, will not forget to call, and not because he promised and impolitely break his promises, but because he wants to hear her voice, ask what she is doing. After all, a man in love thinks about his beloved, he cannot be separated from her for a long time.
Lazy rest of a man
No less resentment, and sometimes just irritation and anger, is caused by a man’s desire to lie on the couch all the time or play computer games after work if he does not work and is not going to look for a source of income thanks to which he can live. Such people believe that they have the right to live on what a woman earns. Resentment from such behavior is then replaced by rage and can turn into hatred when the fair sex realizes that all this time she believed in empty promises and “breakfasts” that a man should earn more than his wife, especially when there are children.
Dear women, love yourself, do not let men offend you, appreciate, protect, remember your own interests and desires. No one else can take care of you like you can take care of yourself. Therefore, you feel that the man offended and hurt, find out why this happened, if he realizes his mistake and will no longer behave this way, everything is fine, but if he hurts again, constantly finding excuses for this, then you have to either accept him the way he is, or leave. It is impossible to change him, he can only do it himself, and to endure is a waste of time and a mockery of himself.
If it’s about you and your excessive touchiness, then it’s time to deal with your internal problems, since you don’t want to be unhappy and constantly take offense at something that doesn’t matter.