Good day, dear readers of my blog! I think that we have already figured it out in the previous article: "" Therefore, in this article we will find out how to work out a route to "our best", where to start moving and what to look for Special attention in order to get tangible results in the near future. A lot has been written about how to engage in self-development. I will try to choose the main thing, from my point of view, and state this main thing as accessible as possible.
So, we will start, perhaps, with the study of the stages that a person traditionally goes through in his development. After all, personal growth, like everything in this world, is not formed at once, but goes through a series of phases in its development.
Stages of self-development
- self-knowledge. Back in the 4th century BC, seven ancient sages formulated and inscribed on the temple of the god Apollo in Delphi the absolute and universal truth: "Know thyself." A thinking person must be clear about his life priorities, ideals, qualities that will allow you to move "forward and upward." Only by giving an answer to the question: “Who am I in this world?”, You can try to look for landmarks and direction of movement.
- Goal setting. Goals can be long-term and short-term, but in any case, they must be flexible and should not contradict each other. In addition, the result of goal setting should be a specific result and process - systematic exercises. In itself, the problem of setting life goals in the aspect of self-development is a very important and capacious topic, which we will discuss in one of the following publications.
- Ways to achieve the goals. Self-development is a very individual process. Therefore, there simply cannot be universal tips for achieving the heights of personal growth. The answer to the question about the way to improve oneself (physical, mental or spiritual) can be searched for a long time in smart books, or you can get, as they say, "just from the sky." The story comes to mind American businessman and gambler MC Davis. By chance, due to a traffic jam, when he got to a children's lecture on the destruction of wildlife, he suddenly found the meaning of his life. For twenty years, the businessman-philanthropist has invested ninety million dollars in the Nokuse project, designed for three hundred years. As a result, eight million swamp pine seedlings were planted on the lands purchased from wood processing companies.
- Action. My favorite expression: "The road will be mastered by the walking one." After all, only by starting to act, having made at least one step towards the dream, one can hope to achieve a result.
The self-development program includes various areas, including the improvement of character, the formation of strong-willed qualities, the development of intellect, spirituality, and physical form. In general, self-development is both a powerful factor in business success and success in the personal sphere of human life.
Ways of self-development
- Select priorities. To go to the top without stopping and without wandering, a person needs to clearly understand the direction of movement. Stephen Covey, a well-known coach and business consultant, focused on the fact that the majority today chooses the watch as the main metaphor of their life, while they should be guided primarily by the compass. The main task of the individual is to find his true path. The focus should not be on speed, plans and schedules, but on priorities.
- Awareness of the fullness of life. Often in the flow of life, a person perceives the world either as a gray viscous substance, or as a motley chaotic kaleidoscope. To perceive the fullness of the moment, the harmony of the world and its versatility, it is worth applying the principle of “being here and now”. At any moment, you can give yourself the command: “Stop. Realize. Feel it."
- Concentration of attention. The Indians have a story that the human brain is a little monkey. She constantly climbs somewhere, itches, looks at something, chews, but she can be tamed. The same must be done with consciousness. When the mind jumps from thought to thought, from idea to idea, tell it, “Come back! Look here!" By the way, I want to assure you that this technique works flawlessly. I tested for myself and came to the conclusion that with the help of self-control, you can completely focus on the task, discarding everything else. So I accumulate consciousness and the efficiency in the process becomes many times higher.
- Write down thoughts. In order to form and strengthen any intention, I advise you to fix all the brilliant and not-so-great thoughts that pop up in your mind about a particular problem. Use a notepad, organizer or voice recorder for this. By setting your subconscious mind to generate ideas in a given direction, you will soon receive a lot of tips and understand what and how to do next. Also, when debriefing flights of thought, pay attention to repetitive tasks. It is noticed that the task postponed three times is not worth the effort spent on its solution.
- Time. Take good care of such a valuable resource as time. Use time management techniques. It is worth learning arbitrary forgetfulness, since some problems are solved by themselves, and work on the ability to track and block "time eaters": empty conversations, communication in networks, absorption and reaction to unnecessary information.
- Environment. Communication with people who can teach you something, inspire you, lead you. At the same time, I advise you to limit interaction with those who drag you down, load you with whining and complaints.
- Movement towards the goal. By mastering the art of small steps, you will steadily move towards your goal. The slightest movement in the outlined direction is already the result.
- Multi-vector. The ability to achieve several results in one unit of time. For example, standing on treadmill, you can stick headphones with acid music in your ears, or you can listen to an audiobook or repeat words foreign language. Which option is more efficient? Definitely the second one! But here you can’t get carried away, if the task is serious, it’s better to concentrate entirely on it.
- Stress. Tim Ferriss, author of How to Work the 4-Hour Workweek, advises learning how to manage stress. Sound paradoxical. Is not it? But it is a certain level of stress that forms sufficient motivation in you. It turns out that there is a so-called "good" stress - emotional outbursts (not always with a plus sign) that make you leave your comfort zone.
Of course, the ways of self-development are not exhausted by this list. Every spiritual practice, every psychology guru will most likely bring to your attention many more ways. The ones described in this article seem to me the most universal.
2 powerful techniques
And finally, I would like to give you, dear readers of my blog, a small gift. Two Great Recovery Exercises inner harmony and motivate yourself to actively move to the top.
A wonderful technique with which you can upgrade your life in an amazing way is described in the book of a Vietnamese spiritual leader and Zen master Tit Nat Khana "Peace in every step". The author proposes to reconsider the attitude to reality. “We often ask ourselves the question: What is wrong? And a negative field is immediately formed around. What if we learned to ask life: “What is it?” At the same time, experience the sensations that the answer forms for a longer time.
Power Hour, a technique developed by Anthony Robbins. It is based on three whales: planning the day (ten to fifteen minutes), focusing on the goal and meaningful pronunciation of the settings. Let's talk about attitudes, or they are also called affirmations. They are the ones who program consciousness in a certain way. This is a very powerful tool that replenishes energy resources in an amazing way and works like a magnet that attracts resources, people, and events. Here are a few similar installations(affirmations):
- I feel in myself strength, determination, happiness;
- I am confident in my potential;
- I live every day with energy and passion;
- everything that I start, I bring to perfection;
- I am calm and confident;
- I am grateful for every day I live;
- I am generous and gladly share my abundance.
Conclusion
There are many different techniques and methods of human self-development. About the best of them, I will tell in the following publications.
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Now the topic of self-improvement and personal growth is especially relevant. On the Internet, on television, in magazines - everywhere they say that you need to work on yourself, develop, grow, achieve success in life. At the same time, a natural question arises: how to start this self-development, how to find time and incentive? Especially if you want to quickly, all at once.
First, let's define what self-development is. Development and change is a natural process for everything that exists in the world. Human life itself is a series of constant changes associated with birth, growing up and aging, the formation of personality, the acquisition of certain skills and life experience.
Therefore, self-development can be characterized as a set of conscious and purposeful actions aimed at improving certain qualities, skills, abilities of a person. Dictionary gives us this definition: self-development is an intellectual or physical development person on the basis of independent studies and exercises, on their own initiative, without the assistance of any external forces. Now that we have dealt with the theory, we can proceed to concrete actions. So, self-development: where to start positive changes in yourself?
- Revision. For this, you need to find time and analyze your life, or rather, each area of your life, and honestly answer yourself the questions: what exactly does not suit me, what qualities or skills do I lack to be satisfied with life? Try to be objective and don't fool yourself. Consider each area of life separately:
- Physical sphere, health. Perhaps you should adjust the daily routine, start eating right, get rid of bad habits, lose weight, improve immunity, start playing sports;
- Spiritual sphere. Getting rid of anger, envy, malice, irritability, developing a positive attitude towards oneself and others, various spiritual practices, meditation can help many:
- Material sphere, finance. There is a wide field for activity here, since very few people are satisfied with their financial situation. Perhaps you should change your job to a higher paying one, or even change your profession, take courses, trainings, get a new specialty. Some want to start their own business but don't know how and are afraid of failure.
- Social sphere, relations. Development of communication skills, overcoming conflicts, harmonious relationships in the family, at work, personal life, control over emotions.
- Intellectual sphere, personal growth. Here we are talking about the development of intellectual abilities, memory, attention, abstract and creative thinking, the ability to set goals and achieve them, increasing personal efficiency, the ability to plan your time
- We choose one the most important direction for self-development. Since completely harmonious, comprehensively developed people- units, for a start it is worth focusing on the most important thing for you. Think about what qualities and skills you lack the most, and start your self-development from there. If you take on everything at once, then the result will certainly not be at all.
- We draw up a specific action plan. Let's consider an example: you decided to change your job to a more interesting and highly paid one. At the same time, you understand that you lack knowledge, you are scattered and do not know how to manage your time. Solution options:
- take advanced training courses in the direction you are interested in;
- learn to concentrate attention, develop perseverance (there are special exercises);
- undergo training on personal effectiveness and personal time planning;
- compose competent resume and send it to all the companies you are interested in, and for this it is not necessary to quit your current job.
Positive attitude and purposeful actions
Whether you believe it or not, the mindset for success is very important.. If thoughts like: “Why do I need this?”, “I won’t succeed ...”, “It’s difficult for me ..” - then you won’t see progress. It is important to immediately set yourself up for positive tone, believe in your success, every day in your thoughts see positive changes in yourself and enjoy even small successes. It will be useful to use affirmations, meditations.
Thoughts about self-development alone are not enough - you need to constantly carry out specific actions in order to become better every day. Many will ask: "How to find time to do self-development?". To begin with, it is enough to allocate 20-30 minutes a day - do not watch TV, do not surf the Internet and social networks. In a month, these 20-30 minutes will give you a tangible result, the main thing is to start.
Without smart books - nowhere
Self-improvement is written in many ancient books, starting with the Bible and others. sacred books, much can be learned from the Eastern teachings of Yoga, Tao and others. But these are primary sources that will not be clear to everyone. They have already been reworked by scientists into a language understandable to us and set out in books in the form of recommendations for self-development. These editions just need to be found. Among the bestsellers on this topic today are the following books:
- Steven Covey "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People". This work changes the worldview of people, they get rid of many complexes and begin to quickly move up the career ladder or make progress in business. The book gives recommendations that really help to awaken dormant forces in yourself and become a leader. Read it with a pen and notepad and mark the main postulates on which you will base your path to excellence and you will succeed.
- Sharma Robin "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari". This is a guide to spiritual development personality, the author believes that without strengthening the strength of the spirit, nothing can be achieved in life, and self-development must begin with spiritual perfection. This is fair, the weak in spirit does not become a leader and successful person. Therefore, it is necessary to listen to what is written in this book. It also contains tips for the effective use of the strengths of the human character.
- Godin Seth "The Pit" is a publication about how to take care of yourself in order to become the best in the field in which a person builds a career. This is a real guide to breakthrough to success in professional activity.
All these books are united by one valuable idea - self-development never ends. The desire to be the best in a person’s character and you need to be able to use this quality.
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Any representative of the human race is probably familiar with the expressions: “I will do it tomorrow”, “I will start on Monday”, “I will certainly bring it to life on the 1st!” The habit of making promises to yourself and not keeping them is common to many people, and, most surprisingly, a person at this moment really believes that he will fulfill his goal. However, time passes, tomorrow is replaced by the next "tomorrow", Monday - Monday, and the first day is constantly pushed back to the next month. A person tries in every possible way to find an excuse for himself, and his path to the goal does not advance one iota. What to do in such a situation? How to gather willpower into a fist? How to force yourself to take care of yourself: study well, go to workouts or lose weight?
How to inspire yourself to exercise
If you are used to lying on the couch with the TV remote control after work and on weekends, eating pastries about the heroes of your favorite TV series and drinking sweet soda, it will naturally not be so easy to force yourself to get up and do exercises. And this will continue until the sagging tummy and insidious cellulite begin to spoil your personal life. The more fat folds you have acquired, the more difficult it will be to get rid of them. Therefore, you should sound the alarm and take care of yourself already at the moment when the figure slowly begins to move away from the standards of beauty.
So, the decision to go in for sports is made, a tracksuit and sneakers are bought, but then mother laziness begins to overcome you. You remember with sadness delicious sandwiches, cozy sofa at the TV, and in your soul a fierce struggle begins: one part calls you to activity, the other insidiously beckons you with your usual way of life. The situation is quite common. Consider what needs to be done in such cases and
Choose an activity you like
For sports to be a joy, you do not need to force yourself to do what you do not like. Physical exercises are varied. This is not only a morning run or fitness. Maybe you like horseback riding or swimming more? Look for what will bring you pleasure. Sign up for several sports at once: dancing, aerobics, yoga. Experiment and choose until you find something of your own. And then sports will become your favorite pastime, along with watching TV shows.
How to motivate yourself to exercise: goal setting
Take a piece of paper and write down a list of goals for what you want to achieve in sports. Goals should be realistic, achievable and move from short to long term. Be sure to write down the dates and details, for example: “On the 5th I have to run 3 km.” Destination indicate what you are striving for - perfect figure, smartness, the title of master of sports, etc.
Schedule is an important stage of motivation
If you don't know how to motivate yourself, make a daily schedule. Record the time of exercise in your notebook or diary and imagine that it is a business meeting or a date you just can't help but go on. Plan your class times and days a month in advance and try to stick to your notes. If you have to cancel your workout on a certain day, immediately reschedule your workout for another day.
Find yourself a partner
A like-minded person in sports (friend, girlfriend, girlfriend, boyfriend, colleague) will finally dispel your doubts about how to force yourself to engage in yourself. The spirit of competition social factor make classes much more attractive. In addition, you will understand that you are not alone in the fight against laziness.
Buy a subscription
If you constantly take a break from morning runs, skip dances, ride a bike according to your mood, a great way out of the situation is to purchase an expensive subscription to gym or pool. There is a high probability that you will feel sorry for the money spent, and you willy-nilly will go to classes until you get involved.
Record Achievements
Keeping records is the perfect complement to your ways of self-motivation. Make a table and fill it daily with the following data: weight, waist, hips, chest, load level and the duration of today's classes. Recordings will visually show you results achieved and therefore inspire their improvement.
If laziness continues to overcome you, look at your slender friends, colleagues and acquaintances. Do you notice how men admiringly follow them with their eyes? Such attention flatters everyone, but not everyone is fighting for their figure. Order yourself to go in for sports, set a goal to replenish the category of women with chiseled figures - and soon laziness will recede, free you. Remember, losing weight is not so difficult if you systematically perform physical exercise and never give up on your goal.
Many people compare sport to a drug: the more you do it, the more you become addicted. Any person, even the laziest, will love exercise if they do it regularly. Have nothing to do? Take care of yourself, accustom yourself to sports, and life will play bright colors! Proven by millions.
How to force yourself to lose weight
Every woman sees herself in her dreams as a slender, fit beauty, defiling along the beach in a swimsuit and slaying all men on the spot. But in fact, not everyone dares to go on a strict diet and sweat all day in the gym. After all, not everyone can refuse a delicious dinner and dessert, limiting themselves to vegetable salad and a glass of kefir. Unfortunately, many of us suffer from a love of carbohydrates and passive forms of recreation. And so the question of how to start taking care of yourself in order to lose weight is one of the most relevant today.
Reasons for losing weight
The reasons for losing weight are different for every woman. Psychologists identify four most important motivations for dealing with overweight:
- acquisition of attractiveness for the opposite sex;
- health recovery;
- fashion for slim ladies;
- desire to meet the generally accepted standard of beauty.
Finding attractiveness
Female attractiveness - main reason getting rid of extra pounds. All ladies, regardless of age, need male attention and admiringly envious glances. And the point is not even to spark interest specific man but to feel charming and able to please the opposite sex.
Good health
Almost all women strive for good health, because their ability to reproduce offspring and create a prosperous family depends on it. Besides, absolutely healthy woman will succeed in everything: and do housework, and raise children, and build a career, and go shopping. And overweight, as you know, is fraught with many diseases. If a woman is constantly in hospitals and clinics, she simply will not have time for everything else. Therefore, the problem of how to motivate yourself to lose weight should be solved taking into account the health factor.
Fashion
Do you notice that in boutiques and stores, all clothes are mainly presented for slender ladies? And these are the most fashionable things. It's a shame? Now imagine how a model dress sewn for a thin person will look like on a woman with a size 52. You are right - it's ridiculous! Here is a great motivation for you to lose weight. Go shopping and look for things 1-2 sizes smaller, imagine them on yourself, slim, and set a goal - to lose weight in such and such a period of time.
Common standard of beauty
How to force yourself to take care of yourself? Take a look at Hollywood and Russian stars, flip through magazines, turn on the TV. Pretty much all the women you see are slim and fit 90-60-90 standards, right? This is a standard of beauty unanimously accepted by people all over the world. Why are you worse than them? Find yourself an idol among celebrities and try to achieve her forms, take an example from slender colleagues and girlfriends. Tell your team that you will lose weight in 2 months, and then you will no longer be able to retreat from your goal. Behind the women, they won't forgive!
Write on paper the main reasons for which you will be able to lose those hated kilograms. Set a goal, describe the ways in which you are going to lose weight, determine a clear time frame. A detailed strategy will form a stable desire in your mind and will not allow you to abandon everything halfway.
How to force yourself to study?
How to motivate yourself to study when you really want to drive online tanks, play football with the guys, watch TV or take a walk with your girlfriends? Studies - hard work. In the process of learning, people study several subjects at once, many directions, read a lot of books. You need to attend classes every day, listen, memorize, analyze, teach, do homework. It is not surprising that study turns into a routine, a collar around the neck, a tedious duty and does not cause any interest.
Let's take a look at 5 ways to force yourself to study.
To force yourself to go in for sports, study, business, despite the ingenious traps of a consciousness filled with laziness, is akin to heroic deed. “Victory over oneself is the first and best of all victories,” Plato said, and he was right. A person who has conquered himself, successfully overcome his weaknesses, will achieve everything he wants.
Do you want to take care of yourself? Where to start - do not know? Start small, and no matter how fast you move, the main thing is not to stop. And soon the whole world will be at your feet!
How interesting life is: each of us in different time comes to understanding and realization that the time has come to change something in himself, in his life, in his professional activity. I am glad for those who begin to worry about these issues at an “early” age. And it also happens that after having lived a long and difficult life, people find the strength to look back, stop and take a step towards something interesting and exciting. New and unknown.
This means that the time has come to take care of yourself and your inner world. What is inside each of us? What's happening? What fell asleep and want to wake up? What so insistently demands development and continuation?
Many questions have accumulated? Fine! It is with them that we must begin. The answer to a simple question lies on the surface - from the moment we are ready. Readiness can be defined by the number of questions that arise at certain points in our lives.
Most of us, the people living on Earth, are dissatisfied with our lives. Someone is not satisfied with material well-being, someone is dissatisfied with their appearance, someone’s career is not going uphill ... As soon as the degree of dissatisfaction becomes critical, various processes immediately set in motion that encourage us to take various activities. I think you will agree that in some cases, the inaction of some is also a kind of action. It still needs to be done, too.
Let's talk better about us, those for whom the words of John Newman will be key:
“Do not be afraid that your life will soon end. Be afraid that it will never start.”
The words are wonderful and they have a lot of meaning. In our imperfect world, it becomes impossible to live without “special” preparation. All that remains possible is to go with the flow - where it will take you.
“Special” preparation is what we have to do additionally, on our own. Starting the process of change with yourself. It's no secret that this process can take quite a while. long time Not days, not months, but years. Perhaps a lifetime. The more interesting it becomes to live, agree?
You need to start your self-development only when there is a desire and interest. Desire to change. Change what is, to what is needed. Let's call "what is" - the foundation. Bad, good, it doesn't matter now. After all, this is what we can do, what we have created and what we have achieved. Let's delve into all this - analyze, and determine what we should do with all this wealth, and what we want.
Just do not rush to throw it in the trash - if you look closely, you can find a lot of interesting and useful things in our next steps. For example, our skills, or long-forgotten talents. If talents are tight, you can try to find your own strengths, read about it.
Now we have three components: our interest, our desire and our skills. There is no need to be afraid or despair about skills and abilities. Even if we do not find anything in ourselves that could help future changes, we definitely have two key skills: we can read and write. And this, you see, is a lot to start independent development.
Development is a process aimed at changing material and spiritual objects in order to improve them.
Self-development implies the direct participation of the person himself in all transformations. In order to start self-development, you need strong motivation, great interest and a great desire to change what was, into what will be.
Do you remember how it happened for you? Surely you used systems approach, developed an action plan and defined the ultimate goal? I don't argue without it in modern world now you can't take a step. But still, self-development does not begin with this.
Self-development begins with dissatisfaction with the existing situation and showing interest in the opportunities that you meet, or that you already know about, and understand that you need it. Self-development begins with the realization that it is self-development that will become a necessary element for achieving the goal and success. Self-development should be a natural extension of our all-powerful “I want!” In this case - I want to know!
For example, I do not know of a way that can force another person to improve his skills and develop his abilities FORCED. All the more forced to study. After all, the basis of self-development is self-learning. If a person does not have a desire to learn and be taught, it is unlikely that anything sensible will come of this undertaking. You yourself know this. If you're into blogging right now, the other person's attempts to get you into woodcarving won't be successful.
Therefore, the desire must come from the person himself and must be dictated either by necessity or by interest.
And then the fun begins. An active process of absorbing knowledge on the chosen topic begins. These are books, books and more books. At this time, we choose teachers and mentors for ourselves, whose books we would like to read, whose advice we would like to trust and whose actions we would like to copy. Some of the useful you can find in the section on my blog.
At this moment, when we are overwhelmed with emotions from what we have heard, read and seen, and most importantly, from the changes that we already notice in our head, I would like to recommend not sharing my impressions with others. Let it be a natural process and let them see for themselves how much you have changed. Then there will be something to talk about, and it will not look obtrusive on your part.
Learn from those who are already pros in your topic. Who has achieved visible results and can teach others. Only from them you will learn about what needs to be done for further development and what steps to take.
I am sure you will like it. Now that you know where to start self-development, ask yourself, do you want this as much as other passionate people? Children will grow up, work is not eternal, you understand that it is always useful to have a spare tire - something with which we can realize ourselves and our potential on the other side.
We have heard more than once about millionaires who, having gone bankrupt, after a while again became them. Only because they had the skills to achieve results over and over again. Why don't we learn this too, you asked yourself the same question?
While working on my blog, which is a little more than six months, I have acquired not one, but several professions that I can use if necessary. I have a spare tire and I feel much more confident than before. Do you want the same? Only behind all this is a huge amount of work, effort and time invested. But there is still more to be invested and done. Are you not afraid?
Then I recommend starting with my blog. In the piggy bank of tips for efficient person- only the most helpful tips and recommendations on what to do to make it interesting to live and work. This will be a good start.
Finally
So, summing up, I will list the main points that will help you understand how to start self-development:
- With motivation
- With a desire to act
- From finding your strength
- From reading books and studying huge amount materials
- Looking for teachers and mentors
I wish you success! I wish you to do more in less time with a good mood!
Everyone has ups and downs in life, and often we blame others, fate for our failures, but we can not see our shortcomings point-blank. In order to change something in the world around you, you need to start, first of all, with yourself.
One day you will ask yourself the question - “where to start working on yourself?”. Self-improvement is a delicate matter, it must be approached very competently so that at one moment there is no desire to quit everything.
The wheel of life - as a strong motivation on the path of self-improvement
If you do not know where to start self-development how to choose the right path for yourself, first you need to understand where you are in it. The Wheel of Life is a system that helps you analyze your level of success.
To do this, you need to draw a circle, divide it into 8 sectors:
career and business. Do you enjoy your work?
- finance. Are you satisfied with your salary? Do you have enough funds for financial independence?
friends and environment. Does the environment help you develop? What do you get from communicating with friends?
- family and love. Is there harmony in your relationships with loved ones?
— health and sports. How strong is your health? Would you like to make your body attractive and get rid of excess weight?
- entertainment and recreation. Do you properly organize your vacation in order not only to recharge your batteries, but also to get something useful for yourself?
- education and personal growth. What knowledge have you acquired to develop and improve yourself?
- the brightness of life. Are you satisfied with your life? Does it have enough bright, memorable moments?
Each sector is yours life value, which is necessary in order to feel the happiest. In this way, you will put things in order in your goals and you will better understand what you need to strive for. Also, do not forget to write what exactly in each sector you lack for complete happiness.
Each sector must be evaluated on a 10-point system. You must be as honest with yourself as possible. No need to look for excuses for your saggy tummy or a small salary. Just finally admit to yourself that everything is bad in these areas and you need to do something about it.
After that, connect the points on the scale with a line. If the figure obtained in the center resembles a circle, then you can only be congratulated. Are you in complete harmony with yourself and with the world around you.
If you get a crooked figure, you can see which sector you need to work on in order to achieve harmony and happiness. In addition, by putting in order one sector, you can positively affect other parts.
After analyzing each sector, you must set yourself global goals that you need to break down into several small ones and already confidently strive for them. In addition, the goal should be achievable, so be realistic and do not try to become slim like Angelina Jolie and find yourself a prince in the person of Brad Pitt.
Get yourself a diary and write down in it what you have achieved, every small victory. For example, you gave up harmful, but tasty food. Praise yourself for this.
A positive outlook on the future is half the battle
With self-development of personality cannot be achieved without positive outlook to the future. If you keep thinking that you will not achieve anything, that there are no results, thoughts will swarm about quitting everything, you will never achieve anything.
You should meet every day with a smile, rejoice at even the smallest victories, see the positive in everything, notice changes in yourself.
Of course, thoughts alone are not enough for a person's self-development. Actions are important. At first, 30 minutes a day is enough - to read a book, to learn something. You can even just not sit in the evening in social networks or not to watch TV, and this will already be a victory and the first steps on the way self-improvement.
Literature for self-improvement
Books for self-development are another step towards improving your personality. There are many primary sources, like the Bible or books on the teachings of the Tao, but many will not understand them.
Today there are a lot books for self-development. Here is a list of some of them:
- Les Hewitt, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen "A Whole Life". Learn to set realistic goals that are easy to achieve. You will be able to correctly prioritize;
- Dan Waldschmidt "Be best version myself". This book can radically change your life. It tells how simple people become outstanding;
- M. J. Ryan "This year I ..." This book will be useful to everyone, as it helps to change habits, fulfill the promises made to oneself, and change one's life for the better;
- Brian Tracy Get out of your comfort zone. Worldwide recognized as the #1 book on self-development. You will be able to step out of your comfort zone in order to achieve maximum goals;
- Kelly McGonigal Willpower. How to develop and strengthen? The author believes that willpower is like a muscle that needs to be pumped and strengthened.
All books have one main meaning - self-development never ends. You can work all your life on the formation of your personality, make your life bright and unforgettable. Each of us strives to be better, but this quality must be used wisely.
A few rules for self-development
Each person lives in their own comfort zone, and often we are afraid of something new and unknown, which is why it is so difficult, and sometimes scary, to change our lives. The process of self-development must be turned into a habit so that you never leave this path.
How to start self-development? Plan Here are some simple steps you can take to build this habit:
- life depends directly on our desires and actions. There is nothing impossible in it. Never tell yourself that something is impossible to do, just think about what it takes to make it achievable;
- break the path to the main goal into several small ones that are easy to achieve. Once this becomes a habit, you can set more goals for yourself;
In the evening, think about everything that happened to you during the day. Write down your successes and failures. If you did something wrong or didn’t work out for you, think about what would have changed if you had acted differently.
Do not forget that self-improvement is a difficult path, but very interesting. If you once decided to change your life, stick to this thought always, and believe that the result will meet all expectations. Always look at life, successes and failures with a positive, and then you will definitely succeed.