Many, and almost everyone, would like to read the mind of another person. However, it is strange, but true - no one is developing in this direction! A very small handful of people. I was fortunate enough to talk to one such person at one of the personal growth trainings.
He amazed everyone. He told how he does it and everyone was interested. And then they abandoned the case. Someone was distracted by problems. Others waved their hands several times mistaken. As a result, I realized that many of a person's desires are actually of little value. How the oysters reacted and that's it. Forgot. Despite the fact that many have managed to read minds.
First you need to dwell on the very concept of thought. If you do not understand the essence of the work of thoughts, then you will not be able to read other people's thoughts.
Thoughts are very similar to a radio signal. In fact, our thoughts are radio waves in the space of the surrounding intangible reality. If you tune in to the right wave with a person, then you will read his thoughts, and he will be yours.
Where does a person's thoughts come from?
They come from different sources.
- Provocation of the surrounding reality. Responding to an external stimulus.
- Derived from the idea that dominates thinking.
- Conscious effort.
- An instinctive need.
Provocation
A visual, auditory, or bodily provocateur. Heard the music, saw a beautiful dress, pressed new shoes. A signal is immediately formed in consciousness and subconsciousness - this is a thought that was born in the head and occurs in a person's thinking.
Idea
If you have an obsession, if you are on fire, then thinking is attuned to a certain way of thinking. You can read about this in more detail in the book of the author of these lines "The Explosion of Thinking".
An example of thoughts. You have an idea - to write a dissertation, to defend nature, or to recover from a chronic illness. This idea generates thoughts. You ponder, solve problems, dream, remember. Thoughts revolve around an idea in your mind and are recorded on a subconscious level.
Conscious training.
It is possible by a conscious effort to force thought to be in thinking. Or stop thinking altogether and create silence. Stop the thinking machine.
This is often done by highly effective people who want to manage themselves and their lives on their own. Unfortunately, there are few of them, and they often do not even realize that it is possible to control thoughts, they just do it and that's it. But there are many who would like to read people's thoughts, but at the same time do nothing for this. I hope this does not concern my reader.
An instinctive need.
Taunting Animal Essence. Hunger, sexual desire, fear (including any emotion), dominance. This is human survival and this is the basis of the thinking framework, this is the so-called base.
I.e. A person has thoughts from different sources that dictate the future behavior of a person. And the behavior provokes thoughts further. This is called a flow. Stream of thoughts and actions. Thought provokes action (or inaction), and action provokes thought. Thought interruption can only be 4 sources that we covered above.
Thoughts and state
Only a deeply conscious and enlightened person can control his condition. The overwhelming majority of people basically only think that they can manage their condition. Nothing like this! They even elementary cannot calm down in the right situation, not to mention being without any states at all even for a moment.
Therefore, most often a person is in some state. To determine his condition, you need to be able to read his body. You need to be able to understand facial expressions and gestures. This is what psychologists do, but what should an ordinary person do who wants to understand what the other person thinks? We will talk about this today!
The biggest mistake of all those who want to READ thoughts.
So. Thoughts can be read from a person who is nearby and from a person who is at a distance. But the biggest mistake is that a person places too much emphasis on the word. "to read".
Thoughts cannot be read the way we read a book or decipher some code. This would be the easiest way that our brain loves so much, but the trick is that, by simplifying, we limit ourselves. For example, trying to read the thoughts of another person, we give the order to the brain to read, and he tries to read it, but it is unrealistic to read the radio wave.
Therefore, a person cannot recognize other people's thoughts. Therefore, a mistake exists in the very formulation of the question, and it is wrong to pose the question - and it becomes very difficult to find the answer. This is about the same for the human brain, how to ask - how to learn to hear the color of the eyes? How not to try ... Don't be a fig! Will not work!
For further effective use, I turn to another question that no longer limits us, but, on the contrary, develops it! This is the question - how to learn to feel other people's thoughts?
Therefore, the first thing to do is to forever cross out the concept of reading thoughts and introduce into your brain the concept of feeling thoughts. Mentally cross out words to read minds. This is more important than you think. If you don't free yourself from the global error, you will never achieve your goal.
Thought can only be felt with your thinking
Feelings play a huge role in nature.
And not only a person, but in general all living things. But in humans, feelings are developed differently than in most animals. Nature has put on another force - this is the power of the brain. The brain cannot independently feel thoughts, it can only recognize them, process them in the end and give you information on a silver platter from the head of another person.
But. How can one recognize the thought of another person, how can one feel it for a person who does not know how to control his thinking?
Almost everyone is convinced that he is in control of his thoughts and his thinking. But if this were so, then the majority would be able to recognize other people's thoughts. But this does not happen and they write it off as "this is unrealistic." But if you think you are in control of your thinking, then why do you consciously keep negative thoughts in you? You then have to get rid of them completely if you control the thinking!
Therefore, if you want to know what is going on in someone else's head, you first need to deal with your head.
1. Realize that you are not in control of thoughts, but thoughts are in control of you.
2. Watch your thoughts. Imagine that you are a third person who observes your thoughts impartially. separate from yourself and just watch what is going on in your head. Don't give judgments, don't think about anything, just watch.
This may be the hardest thing to do. But without this, there is nowhere, and believe me - this is the most powerful personal growth, this is the training of thinking and consciousness. You can solve so many problems in your life if you do this work.
Do not stop and work with thinking until a clear awareness of the flow of your thoughts comes to you. And only then continue your further training.
When you learn to feel your thoughts, then you can learn to feel the thoughts of other people.
As written above, there is a very large amount of energy in the information field. These are the thoughts of many people, and how can one find the thoughts of the right person among all this? This is actually not difficult to do. You need to tune in to the right wave and then your thinking will begin to feel the thinking of the right person.
In simple terms, it sounds like thinking in unison. That is, you can think in the same way as the person you need, observing your thoughts, you will also observe the thoughts of another person. Therefore, it is very important to learn to observe your thoughts first.
How to tune in to another person's thoughts?
Naturally, I immediately want to write that you will not be able to read the thoughts of a person with whom you are not personally familiar. At least I can't do it and I have no information to make it possible at all.
The setting is as follows.
In a quiet and peaceful place, take the most comfortable position that you can stay in for a long time, and that does not cause discomfort for a long time.
Use your imagination. Close your eyes and mentally connect with this person. Imagine that radio waves are coming out of your head and imagine that the right person also has these waves going towards your waves. (Incidentally, this is a scientific fact that our thoughts do not sit in our heads, but go out into space. NASA scientists claim that these waves reach the Moon.)
Therefore, if it seems unreal to you, then it will be unreal! Just for the sake of experiment, check it out and see for yourself how it works!
So. There should be only one picture in our minds. This is a combination of radio waves. Anywhere in space. It can be a point above your head or near your house or 10 steps away from you, the most important thing is a clear picture of the connection of waves. Imagine the waves as you feel comfortable with them.
No distraction! Full concentration on the connection point and that's it. Do not expect anything, do not evaluate, and most importantly, do not rush. Everything has its time.
While observing the connection, you have only one state in total and no more. This is a state of emptiness, and such a state will be if you will not be distracted!
In an instant, you will feel a change in your state. A sharp change and entry into a state that is alien to you. You will immediately understand that you are in the state of another person, you will feel it vividly, it immediately says that you are doing everything right.
At this time, you just need to start observing YOUR thoughts. This will be exactly what your person is thinking. But do not evaluate these thoughts, but take them for your own, do not be surprised, just observe, then the brain will process and formalize everything and you will know what that person was thinking.
It will seem to you that perhaps these are just your thoughts, so be sure !!!
Check what you have done!
The simplest thing is to call and check. For example, while observing the thoughts of the right person, I had thoughts about relaxing at sea and buying a new car. And a lot of small thoughts. Then I called and started talking about how nice it was to have a rest on the sea (it was February) and my interlocutor said - I also just thought about it. When I started talking about the car, he said, surprisingly, his head is busy with this. Although before that we had never talked about it with him! There was not even a hint of these topics!
How long does it take?
Over time, it is possible to tune very quickly, even while driving, but this is already a master's level, it takes me a lot of time to tune (about 20 minutes).
At least I know for sure that it can be developed and trained. In addition, the most interesting thing is that as soon as you tune in to the thoughts of the right person, each time it will be easier for you to catch this frequency of thoughts of the person you are interested in. You will feel it for yourself and remember it on a bodily and subconscious level.
It all depends on the ability to focus. 5 minutes to 20 minutes.
If it didn't work out, then you don't need to despair and wave your hand. You just need to work more carefully with your thinking. Most likely the problem will be here. Before that, you have not spent a second on developing your thinking, so why despair? Exercise. Otherwise, miss out on the unique opportunity to feel other people's thoughts.
If you do a good job, you will soon be able to feel the state of the other person. If he feels bad, then you will feel it from a distance. It just seems to you that this person is not very well now and by calling him, you will be convinced of this. This is an unconscious setting. You feel a connection with this person. To do this, you need to tune in to the flow of his thoughts more often.
Most likely you had this. We can often feel that someone is now feeling bad or just an inexplicable anxious desire to call or see. And in the end it is! Something happened to the person. But this is often simply not paid attention to and is soon forgotten.
And this was an unconscious tuning to the frequency of this person's thoughts. The state was simply transferred and that's it.
Another illustrative example.
One woman woke up at night and felt a chilling emptiness in her soul. At that very moment (as it was learned after some time), her husband died in the hospital. It was my mother who felt how my father died ...
And there are many such examples to cite a lot. They happen very often, all the time, but everything is written off as accidents and a whirlwind of thoughts takes us into problems, not noticing the opportunities that Life gives us ...
Have you ever felt the thoughts of another person? How did this happen?
SUMMARY
To learn to recognize people's thoughts, you need:
- Replace the word read with the word feel
- Believe, realize, understand that you are not in control of your thinking at the moment.
- Consciously observe your thoughts. Train!
- Tune in to the desired wave.
- Watch your thoughts.
- At this time, the thoughts of the right person will be in thinking. The goal is achieved!
- Check it out. Call and inadvertently share your thoughts with this person.
- Enjoy the new features!
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Surely you have often thought about how great it would be to be able to read the minds of others. Someone's intuition helps in this matter, but if you do not possess such insight, there is only one thing left: to learn to understand body language.
It's no secret that through non-verbal communication we get 55% of information. The famous Australian writer Allan Pease has spoken about this more than once. Facial expressions, gestures and body movements are able to throw off a mask from a person, revealing his true thoughts and feelings.
website suggests paying attention to the signals that others send us, sometimes without even knowing it.
1. Covering the eyelids
If a person, communicating with you, closes his eyelids, know: he is trying to hide, to protect himself from the outside world. And this does not mean at all that the interlocutor is afraid of you. Rather, on the contrary, he wants to remove you from his field of vision, because you might get bored with him. He closed his eyes - bam! - and you disappeared.
2. Protecting the mouth with a hand
This is a vivid example of the fact that we all come from childhood. Remember how you covered your mouth with your palm when you didn't want to tell something. It's the same in adulthood. A few fingers, a palm, or even a fist at the mouth helps us to restrain the spoken words. Sometimes this gesture is masked by a feigned cough.
3. Biting the temples of glasses
Do you see that a friend thoughtfully bites the bow of his glasses? Hurry up to support and encourage him. He is clearly preoccupied with something and, on a subconscious level, seeks to feel security, as in infancy, at the mother's breast. By the way, a pencil, pen, finger, cigarette, or even gum in your mouth can say the same thing.
4. Demonstration of the face
As a rule, this gesture is used to attract the attention of members of the opposite sex. Resting our chin on folded hands, we flaunt our face, as if in a shop window, as if saying: "Here I am in all my glory, admire my health." Men should remember this gesture so as not to miss the opportunity to compliment in time.
5. Stroking the chin
This is how a person tries to make a decision. At the same time, his gaze can be turned up, down, sideways ... yes, anywhere. He is hardly aware of what he is considering at the moment, since he is completely immersed in his thoughts.
6. Crossing arms
One of the most common gestures. It is not surprising that in this position many people feel as comfortable as possible - this position allows you to isolate yourself from others. We often use this gesture when we are unhappy with something. Arms crossed on the chest are a clear signal of a negative attitude of the interlocutor.
7. preening
Agree, this is a more open pose? In an effort to please a man, a woman begins to present herself in the most favorable light. She straightens to emphasize her breasts and usually crosses her legs. Folded and lowered hands are a signal of attention and increased interest in the interlocutor.
8. Lean forward
When a person feels sympathy for the interlocutor and is ready to make contact with him, he usually leans towards him. In this case, the legs can remain in place, but the body will intuitively lean forward.
9. Leaning back
If a person leans back in a chair, he thereby makes it clear that he is bored with the conversation. Perhaps he feels uncomfortable in the company of the other person.
10. Rocking from toe to heel
Yes, not only children do this, but also adults. This means that the person is very worried.
11. Rubbing the palms
It is believed that the hands broadcast what the head thinks. Rubbing the palms, as a rule, expresses positive expectations of a person, the hope that he will succeed in something. In short, this is exactly what we do when we think about the upcoming benefits.
12. Handshake "glove"
If the interlocutor grabs your hand with his free hand, it shows that he can be trusted.
13. Handshake with the palm on top
A palm from above, covering someone else's hand, indicates empathy, participation, but only if this was done immediately. If the hands have already been clasped for some time, and then someone decided to put a second hand on top - this may indicate his desire to show who is in charge here.
14. Handshake with the palm below
If you support the hand of the interlocutor from below, then, as it were, tell him about your readiness to help.
15. Handshake with touch
You can also use your free hand to touch another person's forearm, elbow, or back. This invasion of personal space symbolizes the need for communication. Moreover, the closer this gesture is to the body of the body, the greater this need.
16. Fixing the tie
17. Collecting non-existent villi
I would like to know - .
In addition to manipulators and others who want to influence people, there are people with a stuck (paranoid) character and hidden fears, anxiety, suspicion and suspicion ...
Such a person wants to know what and how people think, what they think ... He thinks that how to learn to read minds, so people will be under his rule, and nothing threatens him ...
Today, on the site, you will find out: is it possible and how to learn to read people's minds, And what you need to do…
How to read people's minds
To find out how to read people's minds, first you need to define what a "thought" is in general, and how a person thinks ... how does the thought process of an individual individual - in particular.Thought Is a product of human thinking, i.e. activities of the mind, consciousness and subconsciousness.
Thoughts can be verbal (verbal) and non-verbal (in the form of images, pictures and representations). Most of a person's thoughts are accompanied by emotions and feelings, both positive and negative (depending on the thought itself).
Depending on the type of thinking (figurative, objective, verbal-logical ...), certain thoughts are formed in people. Each thought can be in the form of ideas, judgments, inferences, beliefs, rules, assumptions, attitudes and beliefs ...
At one point in time, a whole stream of thoughts can go through the head, most of which are not realized by the person himself. Therefore, to learn to read other people's minds, for a start, it's a good idea to learn how to read your own.
In fact, literally read people's minds, in the form in which they proceed in the brain of the thinker himself - no one can (the thinker himself is often confused in his own thoughts).
In other words, to learn to read other people's minds, You need to learn how to observe people, or rather observe what information they convey to you, both in words and posture, facial expressions and gestures, tone of voice and articulation, behavior and emotions, as well as physiological, autonomic reactions (redness, changes in breathing, heartbeat, etc.).
Those people who manipulate, deceive others, use fraud and rule - they do not know how to read minds, but they know well the subconscious desires and needs of people (in short, weaknesses), they know how to bring their thoughts into your brain ... and you will already think so , as they need ... which means they will know your thoughts ... (that's the whole secret).
Does it surprise you how quickly an experienced detective can "split" a criminal? Surely you, too, would like to know how to learn to read people by the subtle movements of the eyes, lips, hands or feet, and you can use this knowledge in your work or everyday life. Body language can be roughly divided into facial expressions and gestures; we will dwell in more detail on how to read minds in the face and some body movements.
The mirror of one's heart
A person's face is a showcase of his soul. Eyes, possessing some energy, can convey to us the mood of the interlocutor, and to those who are prepared, they can tell about the thoughts of a person. You will learn more about how to gain the ability to read minds from the article -. Modern neurolinguistics claims that characteristic eye movements can provide information about the type of perception of a person and even about his hidden thoughts.
According to this technique, three leading types of perception and ways of thinking people are identified: visuals, audials and kinesthetics. The movement of the iris of the visual eye in the process of thinking is concentrated in the upper part of the eyeball. The visual tells about the events of the last party, raising his eyes to the sky, as if pulling out the desired image from his memory. The audial moves the eyes in a horizontal plane at the level of the ears, recalling, first of all, the sounds of music, the timbre of the voice, and so on. Kinestet involuntarily seeks to lower his eyes to the sense organs - nose, mouth, hands and feet, recalling the smells of perfume, alcohol, the surface of a bar or a friend's clothes. The key to such people will be to reach out to their primary area of perception.
For example, you strive to win the attention of the interlocutor, who often tilts his head in your direction when listening to you, has a soft and expressive voice. This is a typical auditory. Try to use words like "listen", "sounds", "heard" in your speech. At the same time, it is important for the visual to say "pay attention", "you see". Allow the kinesthete to approach you at arm's length so it can touch you.
Lip movement has also received a lot of attention in the article. Remember that open and relaxed lips speak of the interlocutor's frankness and openness, while compressed lips speak of his stiffness or bad intentions. Frequent biting of the lip indicates constraint or increased self-control at the peak of emotional arousal.
Language of the body
Consider ways to learn how to read a person's mind by his gestures and body movements. It is well known that the hands folded on the chest speak of the closeness of a person. Rubbing the tip of your nose is the first sign of deception. If during a conversation a person actively gestures, this indicates that his life description lacks a full-fledged picture, or his vocabulary leaves much to be desired.
The cross-legged foot speaks of self-control and constraint. But at the same time, the toe of the foot, facing one or another interlocutor, speaks of interest in this person. Spreading your legs wide is a sign of self-confidence and challenge.
Hands on the lower back speak of a person's belligerent mood, and frequent rubbing of the palms indicates that the interlocutor generates some ideas. Rubbing a button vis-a-vis happens because your partner is trying to get into your confidence.
Reading gestures and facial expressions can help you not only understand the interlocutor or find an approach to him, but also avoid some incidents in negotiations and, possibly, make a successful deal.
Connoisseurs of human souls, such as, for example, veterans of the secret services, argue that no person in the process of communication can remain a "closed book." Sooner or later, something will force the pages to open slightly, and you, with varying degrees of probability, will be able to read them and interpret them correctly. These are the tips given to us by those for whom secrets are an object of professional activity.
Determine the norm
People have different quirks and behaviors. For example, they may clear their throats, look at the floor while talking, cross their arms, scratch their heads, fiddle with their hair, squint their eyes, pout, or wiggle their legs. Initially, we don't even notice this. And if we notice, then we do not attach any importance. However, this behavior can be demonstrated by people for various reasons. Maybe it's just an ingrained habit. Or maybe an indicator of nervousness, distrust or aggression. Mentally create a profile for everyone with whom you have to deal, and place there inherent behavioral patterns and habits that can be conventionally considered the norm for a given person.
Record deviations
Pay attention to any deviations of the person from the norm prescribed in his profile. For example, your business partner has a habit of clearing his throat at the very beginning of a conversation. However, today, when discussing some of his new initiatives, he does it much more often than usual. It is worth paying attention to these behavioral changes and perhaps asking your partner more questions than you have done before.
Notice groups of gestures
Sometimes a single gesture does not mean anything, but if it goes in conjunction with others, then almost always this indicates some special state or hidden intention of the speaker. Returning to the business partner, remember that he usually only clears his throat. But today, this has also been added to the frequent scratching of the head and swinging the leg in the air. Double caution.
Compare and contrast
So, you notice that someone is acting a little differently than usual. Go up a notch to see if the person behaves the same way with someone other than you. Observe how he or she behaves with others in the room. Or how he answers a sudden incoming call. Does your facial expression change? And what about posture and body language?
Don't forget about the mirror
In the human brain, there are something like mirror neurons that reflect the states of other people. By default, you read the body language of the interlocutor. His smile activates the muscles responsible for smiling in your face, and his frown makes you frown as well. When you meet someone you like, your eyebrows rise, your facial muscles relax, your head tilts, and blood rushes to your lips, making them a little brighter and fuller than usual. Take a closer look at your partner's face. If all this does not happen to him, the conclusions about his attitude towards you are obvious.
Find a strong voice
The most important person may not be at all sitting at the head of the table. People with real power have strong, well-placed voices. Not to be confused with a loud voice, which, on the contrary, is often a sign of weakness and insecurity. If you are trying to convey an idea of your own to a group of people, you should not focus only on who is formally considered a leader. Hear all these people, find the strongest voice, work to attract him to your side.
Watch your movements
Insecure people can be easily identified by abrupt and fussy movements, stooped posture and lowered head. But this does not mean that their ideas and considerations will turn out to be rubbish. If there are such people in your subordination, you will probably have to make a little more effort to "knock" out of them, finally, their brilliant ideas.
Choice of words
A person can express the same idea in many different ways. Pay attention to what kind of words a person chooses to convey one or another of his thoughts, and you will learn much more about him than, perhaps, he knows about himself. For example, he may say, "I get paid $ 500," or "I make $ 500," or "I have a salary of $ 500." In the first case, you have a passive personality, accustomed to relying on others in everything, in the second - a person with an active life position, and in the third - a lover of restrictions and clear rules.
Finishing touches
It is not difficult to compose a more detailed portrait of a person. Just collect the answers to the following questions. Is he an introvert or an extrovert? What is more important to him - feelings or achievements? How does he feel about risk and uncertainty? What is feeding his ego? How does he behave under stress? And in a relaxed state? By completing all of these points on his profile, you will undoubtedly come closer to a better understanding of this person. Better understanding will lead to effective communication.