Surely each of you at least once in your life would like to change something in your life. Perhaps change your place of residence or stop communicating with those people who drag you down. But few can decide on changes, and even more so on such global ones.
Some people lack courage or desire, while others simply do not know how to do it. But sooner or later, everyone will have to do general cleaning in life. And we'll talk about this in this article.
Cleaning components
General cleaning consists of four steps:
- Space and things. The first thing to do is give away, throw away or sell all unnecessary things. For example, get rid of those clothes that you have not worn for a long time or know that you will not wear, no matter how much they hang in the closet. Sell \u200b\u200bor give away unnecessary equipment, books, magazines, souvenirs and more. In general, put things in order at your workplace, house, apartment.
- The second step is people. And if you cannot get rid of the person, then minimize communication with those who bring you negativity, which do not enrich you intellectually and emotionally. Also, think about whether this person will be in your future, and what impact he has on you in general.
- Information. Limit and filter your time spent on the Internet, social networks, watching TV. Control your conversations, what you talk about.
- Actions. Minimize and filter out activities initiated by other people. Learn to say no to things you don't need to do and always think about whether you want to do it.
But before proceeding with these steps, you need to sit down and think about what to get rid of. Analyze your social circle, space, time that you devote to unnecessary things, and only then act.
Of course, you cannot do everything in one day, but a few weeks or a couple of months will be enough. If you stretch the cleaning for a long time, you will have to start all over again. Any delay will pull you back from the final result, and if you don't do it now, you probably won't want it later.
Questions to help in "cleaning"
So, to analyze your life and begin the four steps, ask yourself some very specific questions that will help you.
Space:
- When was the last time I used this item?
- Do I need it now or will I need it in the future?
- What will happen to me if she is not there? Will I be able to buy the same one later?
People:
- What does this person bring into my life?
- Is it related to my vision of the future?
- What happens if I stop communicating with him?
Information:
- What impact does the Internet, TV, etc. have on me? What is the benefit?
- What is the level of its importance and reliability?
- What happens if I do not accept this information?
Actions:
- Who said I have to do this?
- Why and why do I need it?
- What do these actions give me and other people?
- What happens if I refuse to do this?
House, apartment, workplace
Take a look around and think about what you don't need. What things can be thrown away or given away. Believe me, there are probably such things, just, perhaps, you are sorry to throw them away. Surely when you move or make repairs, a third of things are thrown away so that they do not take up extra space. Therefore, imagine that you, too, move, not to a new apartment, but to a new life and you do not need old stuff.
To make it easier for you to do this, use the questions that are listed above. Surely, when you get rid of the box of unnecessary things, you will feel relief, especially if you help someone. After all, unnecessary clothes, toys can be handed over to a consignment shop or taken to any shelter.
To get rid of unnecessary things, remember two criteria:
- Surely you don't need a thing that you haven't used for about a year. This does not apply to seasonal items such as sledges, skis, winter boots, and so on.
- Those things that you cannot buy, because they are valuable to you, can also be left.
At a minimum, if you get rid of an unnecessary thing that you have not used for a long time, you can rent it.
People and information
After you put things in order in your personal space, you can start with people. Unfortunately, people are not that simple, unlike things. It is quite possible that someone else's opinion will prevent you from breaking relations with those people who do not bring anything good into your life. After all, the phrase "What will they think of me?" sits in the heads of many people. And this applies not only to live communication, but also to filtering friends on social networks. After all, a person may be offended if you remove him from your friends.
This is where you should come to the question of beliefs and values, why should your actions be determined by the opinion of outsiders? It is also worth paying attention not only to the presence of friends on social networks, but also to how much time you spend flipping through the feed on Facebook, in contact or classmates. As well as the presence of accounts on these social networks, subscriptions to all kinds of groups and more.
Try to clean up not only unnecessary people on social networks, but also in real life. Think about whether the people you are currently communicating with are connected to your personal image of the future? Are they having a positive impact on you? Do they cause inconvenience with their behavior or do they just prevent you from developing?
You may not guess, but sometimes the person with whom you have been in contact for several years pulls you down all the time. He does not want to let you go, because then you may be fine, but he may not. He will say that your place is with him, because you have always been there. Not all people are happy about your victories and successes. So it was and will be, so it is worth considering this fact. If you cannot remove this person from your life completely, then just try to communicate with him to a minimum. Let the space that will be vacated be empty. It's better than filling it with negativity.
In fact, all the people in your environment can be divided into three categories:
- Useful.
- Nice ones.
- Harmful.
You might find this category utilitarian, but before you think so, ask yourself a question - do you want to live your life?
If yes, then you need to understand that in your life there should be all the best and most necessary. Therefore, if there are people in your environment who interfere with your life, then ask yourself - why do you need them? Why are you communicating with them?
Information is something that also needs to be filtered. You probably know people who can do several things at the same time. But scientists have proven that the human brain can truly perceive only one action, and the rest are achieved by quick switching, which, of course, requires certain skills. So don't think that by reading hundreds of articles a day you are enriching your knowledge. Most likely, it will be informational garbage.
If you really liked an article and you put it aside to read it later, read it right away, and not just put it off, as it usually happens. After all, by the end of the week you will have hundreds of texts that you will also be too lazy to read.
Information can also be divided into three categories:
To make your job easier, ask questions that relate to people and information choices.
Of course, many might say that it is difficult to filter information, especially in the current stream.
To do this, you need to know a few analysis and response rules:
- Check information on the basis of its importance to you, reliability and relevance.
- Try to find several sources for verification, compare data.
- Ask yourself - "Who benefits from the appearance of information?", "How does receiving this information relate to me and my goals?"
- Do not react to her if you do not understand her goals and motives.
- Filter out unnecessary information if it does not benefit you and does not serve as a source of achieving any goals.
To learn how to weed out unnecessary information and learn to perceive the necessary, we will use a certain model of validity shown in the figure. 
On the first scale of the importance of information, you see numbers from 0 to 10. You can use them to rate the information you received, thereby defining its importance in numbers.
Confirming the source is a little more difficult, but possible. To do this, take one source that you probably trust and draw the necessary information from it.
But it also needs to be checked and for this there is a third scale - the reliability of information. After all, no matter how good the source was, it is not a fact that he received reliable information. Therefore, try to always find out the veracity of the information before taking it.
It is also worth paying attention to your smartphone, which constantly distracts from important matters. You've probably noticed that if you have wi-fi turned on, then work or other activity progresses slowly, as you are always distracted by messages, funny pictures, and so on. Try to avoid this, go online several times a day when you really have time.
Remember that a lot of energy is spent on switching attention, which you can spend on mastering a skill.
You should be aware that in modern society the boundaries are somewhat blurred, and very often you can face their violation. For example, let's say you take time out for yourself and decide to exercise. But at the most inopportune moment, a familiar person comes to you and starts talking not about his problems, but about a colleague at work, an acquaintance of a friend or someone else. You did not ask him about it, this information will not play any role for you, but it will take away a very valuable resource - time. And you won't be able to resume it.
And only you are to blame for this. Perhaps the person who writes, calls or comes to you does not even know about your intentions, but you yourself open the boundaries for him and allow them to be invaded.
Act
The turn of the fourth step has come, which is important. Everything affects your actions - environment, space, information. Therefore, you need to learn how to get rid of those actions that uselessly waste your energy. Always ask yourself the question - why exactly should you do this? Who is the initiator of this action: you or another person? Is it worth “working” for this person if he asks to do something? Do you need it?
Surely, all these questions may seem difficult to you, but rest assured, they will not have to be asked all your life before each action. They will help you form the habit of thinking before you do something.
Your life energy and time is a unique resource that you can invest in yourself or spend on another person. But before you do this, think twice.
Of course, any change takes courage and it will take from you. No one can guarantee that your new life will be 100% better than the previous one, but you will definitely have a chance. For if you do not give up the old, then nothing will change for sure. You have to clear your life for new people, new activities, and for yourself.
All this is just the beginning, and the cleaning process is quite lengthy, but definitely worthwhile. You will need to take a proactive stance to change your life.
But many people can be intimidated by an active position, and all of the above will turn into another aimless attempt. To avoid this, let's look at the pros and cons of an active position.
But first, determine what position do you have at the moment?
In an active position, you take responsibility for your life and all changes. And in a passive one, you wait for time, circumstances, and anyone else to change it, but not you.
Unfortunately, many are attracted by the passive position, characterized by the following factors:
- Transfer of responsibility to another person.
- Chronic reflection on one's own emotions and lack of action. Such people think all the time, but do nothing.
- Fast adaptation to what is. The ability to adjust.
- Low energy level.
- Submission to the rules and desires of society.
- Slave position, the need for a "master".
- Lack of personal motivation, you always need a kick from the outside.
An active position assumes otherwise, and a person with such a position:
- Accepts responsibility.
- Knows what he wants and is ready to act.
- He is able to motivate himself, he does not need external factors.
- Strives to develop, change the world, never stands still.
- Possesses a huge supply of vital energy.
- Self-sufficient.
- Ignores the norms imposed by society.
An active position does not mean that you will always push your position and never agree with someone else's point of view. But when you need it, you will do it.
Therefore, take action actively. Yes, it will be difficult, because if you are used to leading a passive lifestyle, then this action will be unusual for you. At least because you decided it, and not someone imposed and did for you. Besides, passive people don't have much energy. But if you accumulate it and spend it, making an effort, then you will have much more of it.
pros active position:
- Control over your life.
- High level of realization in life.
- Living by your own rules.
- An active and dynamic life.
Minuses:
- High energy consumption.
- Competitive risks.
- Conflictness.
- Energy exhaustion.
- The burden of responsibility, because everything that does not happen is your choice.
pros passive position:
- Less consumption of vital energy.
- Less competition means less risk.
- Less burden of responsibility.
- An energetically advantageous position.
Minuses:
- Lack of control over your own life.
- Neurotic manifestations and aggression.
- Dependence on external factors.
- Dissatisfaction with your own life and the implementation of life plans.
No matter how attractive a passive position may be, only an active one will make it possible to change something. A person who was a slave, but does not want to continue to live like this now, is no longer a slave. Since now he has the opportunity to choose and build his life the way he wants. This is your conscious choice, and you have the right to change everything.
Surely, you cannot avoid resistance, tension, you will show aggression and suppressed energy, but this is all temporary. Sublimate, waste negative energies at the gym or doing creative work. But don't stand still. Your life is in your hands.
Each of us has thought more than once about how to change our life for the better, starting from our own home. The hardest thing to start is because it’s not clear where.
Better to start with the simplest. For example, I recommend to begin with "negotiating" with the living space so that it supports change and does not take away, but on the contrary, give us energy.
In one room you feel more vigorous and focused, in another - you want to hide in a corner and do nothing. Just how many thousands of years these ancient arts have been known and practiced, in my opinion, speaks for itself.
And if inside you boil, fatigue and disappointment have accumulated, up to a dream like before the moon, why not start the process of changes in life from your own home?
How to properly start the change process
It would seem that what could be easier than changing the house: just take it and do it. However, when trying to take the first steps towards improvement, you may encounter some limitations and pitfalls.
For example, even knowing the rules of ancient knowledge, you will not be able to change the shape of your house or apartment, change the location of the toilet, remove a high-rise building covering the landscape :).
Thoughts "everything is gone, you need to look for another apartment" or "why then do all this" may come to mind ... However, do not give up.
Even if there is an opportunity to find another apartment, you must first bring to mind this one, because it manifested itself in your life for a reason, and for some reason you need its elaboration.
If you just leave everything as it is, positive changes in your life will not come as quickly as you would like.
Step 1. Clear the space of trash and unnecessary things
There is a very correct logic in this, since the cleanliness of the room, along with the correct arrangement of furniture, ensures a good circulation of vital energy - Prana or Chi.
However, there is one factor that is often forgotten: a diseased space, which, unfortunately, in most cases is just that, can resist.
Unfortunately, this resistance will be the stronger, the longer the space has been in the state in which it is now. Therefore, if this is your case, then do not forget to take the next step.
Step 2. Perform a cleansing ritual with a candle
First of all, before the change begins, try to tune in to your space, thank it for the fact that it supported you for a long time, as best it could, and that all your actions are aimed at healing it.
Spend cleansing ritual with a candleby choosing one of the favorable lunar days.
A candle is needed for the ritual. Take it in your hands, or put it on a saucer, turn to face the front door and light it.
When the candle lights up, move from the front door strictly counterclockwise along the perimeter of the apartment, repeating to yourself " cleanse, cleanse".
Go back to the door, where you started, and leave the candle on the floor or on any piece of furniture to burn out.
After a general cleaning, this ritual will need to be repeated.
step 3.Use Fresh Flowers to Support Change
Natural flowers, as well as fresh fruits and vegetables on the table will help reduce the resistance of space to changes.
Flowers can be in bouquets or in pots.
Choose fruits or vegetables according to the season, the main thing is that they embody the idea of \u200b\u200bprosperity and fertility for you.
Place a bowl of fruit or vegetables on the table in your kitchen.
Legend of Vastu Purusha
There is a Vedic legend about Vastu-Purusha, a person who guards all buildings in the world and is their owner, like the brownie we know well from Russian fairy tales.
Vastu Purush was born as the embodiment of the unbridled energy of chaos, but defeated by higher powers agreed to serve people.
However, he asked: " In the golden, silver and bronze ages, people will build their dwellings according to the laws of Vastu and will faithfully serve God, and I will also receive many gifts from them, but in Kali Yuga (our days) people will build houses in which I will suffer and they will not bring gifts to me! What am I going to eat?»
The creator of the world replied: " If the people of Kali-Yuga squeeze you into uncomfortable rooms and do not make offerings to you according to your taste, you can eat them yourself.".
It is not for nothing that fairy tales mention a saucer of milk that was left for the brownie! However, the smell of fresh flowers and fruits will be no worse :)
step 4. use other ways to "nourish" the space
Another easy way to heal a space is with the right music.
Choose the one that personifies joy, calmness, harmony. It can be classical or sacred music, sounds of nature.
It is not at all necessary to play the music at full volume, even a quiet, barely audible auspicious sound will help your space to heal.
Let's summarize what you need to do to start a change in your home:
- First of all, you need to clean the room from unnecessary things and trash. It is favorable to plan and carry out a general cleaning.
- Since a sick room often resists change, it is recommended to carry out a ritual of cleansing the space with a candle, following the recommendations in this article.
- In order to "nourish" the space while the healing process is in progress, use fresh flowers, as well as vegetables and fruits.
- Use other ways to support the space in your home, preparing it for change. For example, using special music for this, as indicated in the article.
Please write your questions and feedback in the comments to this article.
Great Vastu to you!
Best wishes and best regards,
General cleaning of life is a great way to start life from scratch, doing a kind of work on the mistakes of the past. General cleaning of life presupposes serious changes in it, revision of one's habits, values, lifestyle and even social circle. After all, it is foolish to count on success, some new result, performing the same set of actions in the same order as before.
In practice, the result of ineffective use of time, consumer attitude to life, the presence of unhealthy habits and people is the emergence of a feeling of “groundhog day” and complete dissatisfaction with this very life. Are you annoyed by some people from your inner circle who are somehow more successful and fortunate than you? They do more and do everything better. Do you want the same? This means that you are "ripe" for a general cleaning of your life, the purpose of which is to get rid of garbage in your life, all that unnecessary that wastes your time and spoils your mood in vain.
General cleaning of life - looking for motivation
Admit it, you also have such acquaintances to whom you come home, and everything always shines there. And I would be glad to find a cobweb under the ceiling in order to enroll these acquaintances among the same as yourself who are forever not doing well, but this web is not there. No! Or here's another example, once again you rush to the meeting with all your might, fully convinced that this time you will definitely come on time and finally rehabilitate yourself in front of your old client who is always waiting for you. But it was not there. You run into the office five minutes before the appointment, and he is already there. How did it happen ?! After all, you planned and according to your calculations should have arrived at the appointed place half an hour ago.
If you are not satisfied with something in your own life, then, in essence, there are two options:
Complain to everyone and everywhere that your life is worthless - you are on the move all day, but there is no result. To tell that the Ivanovs always have cleanliness, and Petrov always comes on time, and you always have no strength to clean, then the car engine will stall.
Take your life into your own hands and look for strength to clean the apartment, time for timely car repairs, cultivate good habits, etc.
However, no matter how much you pour clean water into a glass of muddy water, you will never get a full glass of clean water. Likewise, it is impossible to impose important and useful on the wrong past experience and expect the proper result. Without "decluttering" the past, without a thorough cleaning carried out in all areas of life, one cannot expect significant changes in life.
General cleaning of life - main directions
General cleaning of life means:
putting things in order in their beautiful, but full of information female head;
creating and maintaining a psychological positive attitude;
putting things in order in relationships with people (relatives, friends, colleagues);
putting things in order in relations with time (mastering and applying the principles of time management);
putting things in order at home (decluttering);
organizing a household management system in which household chores are done as quickly and efficiently as possible and bring joy;
putting things in order and working on the habit of maintaining this order;
putting things in order with your finances, building your own accounting system for your family (or your own) budget;
cleaning and maintaining order in the incoming information stream.
General cleaning of life - basic principles.
Returning to the above allegorical example with a glass, be sure to understand that the more you empty your glass, the more new (in this example, clean) you can put into this glass.
Therefore, the first thing to do when cleaning your life is to throw out all the trash from all your areas:
unnecessary clothes, shoes, souvenirs, books are subject to ruthless discard; dishes, jars;
send broken equipment for repair or sell for spare parts;
the third teapot or the fourth set, donated for the wedding, donate, sell, do whatever, so long as they do not lie dead weight;
clean your computer - you shouldn't keep movies that you don't like and download everything from the Internet in the hope of reading it someday;
exclude from your life people who do not inspire you - this applies to both personal communication and social networks;
review the sources through which various information comes to you;
audit your money spending - it is almost certain that buying cute figurines or the fifth pair of sandals that you have already thrown away in the first paragraph takes a significant amount from your budget;
finally, do things that have been delayed for years or just forget about them.
All the moments described above are absorbers of your time, strength, energy and joy of life. In a house cluttered with unnecessary things, it is difficult and long to clean, because you have to rearrange tons of things.
A computer clogged with information constantly “slows down”. People you are not interested in are simply taking up your time, and therefore your life! for boring but polite communication. This also includes temporary losses from reading a long friend feed in social networks or once necessary mailings. All of this ruins your mood, annoys you and wastes your time. Anything that doesn't make you happy is garbage in your life! And he must be excluded from it. Naturally, a high-quality general cleaning of life will not work without an appropriate psychological attitude.
The second step after decluttering on the path to a more successful life is to organize the optimal home and work space, develop many good habits, find priority life tasks, and develop planning skills. Figuratively speaking, after you have thrown old books out of the closet and wiped the dust, you need to figure out what and how to put on the vacated shelves and how often you need to dust it on it so as not to "clutter up" again.
Of course, finding your effective scheme for organizing your life is not a matter of one day. This is a thorough and long-term work, first of all, on oneself and a general cleaning of life to throw trash out of it - the initial stage on the way of building your own system for the effective management of all life resources. The goal of this path is individual "prosperity", inner harmony, achievement of success in various areas of life. It is important to understand that you are working with yourself and on yourself, and creating a system with those priority values \u200b\u200bthat are really important to you. On the pages of our site you will find a lot of information about what you need to be guided by while building your own happy general model of life.
Regina Rakhmatullina from the Bashkir city of Sibay is the heroine of our first interview. Her story is about how cleaning up her home helped change her life and the lives of other women. Regina has run three decluttering marathons in her small town using the Marie Kondo method. In its group she shares the secrets of putting things in order, teaching children to it, her observations about how consciousness changes during the cleaning process. Our author Rosalia Abdullina talked to Regina about how the order around affects the order in the head, how to love yourself and your home, and simply about the life of a mother of three children.
Rosalia: Regina, tell us, did you like to clean up the house in your childhood, adolescence? How did it grow into adulthood?
Regina: At the age of 8-9 I had the largest bedroom in the house. It contained my parents' closet and my mother’s dressing table. Most likely, this fact did not give the feeling that this was my corner.
I dreamed of a small but cozy room. And so they moved me to this one. It contained everything mine: a single bed, a wardrobe, a desk and a bookshelf. Even the view from the window to Yamantau - the highest point of the Ural Mountains - seemed to belong only to me! There was always order in her. Anyway, I remember it like that.
When I was 13, we moved. I was again given a separate room, but there was no order there. Now, I'm ashamed of it, but my dad was cleaning my bedroom. Now I just understand why it happened. He loves to rearrange furniture, outweigh curtains - to create comfort at home. And in my room, he also periodically changed everything, without asking my opinion. Because of this, the room did not please, I did not feel like a mistress there. Hence, there was no desire to restore order there.
This lasted until the age of 21, until I got married. A daughter-in-law with such housekeeping skills is not such a great joy for a mother-in-law. But my first marriage did not teach me that order in the house is important!
Rosalia: What inspired you to start a new life?
Regina: The changes in my life began two years ago, and they are connected with cleaning. After parting with my first husband, with some intuitive instinct, I began to put things in order at home, and he began to please me! And life has changed dramatically.
Then I lived in a 2-room apartment, with drinking and smoking neighbors. I did not like my room or my neighbors. And there was no way to move to another place. And then I decided: since I cannot change my place, I will simply change my attitude towards it! I began to dream: about what will happen in 10 years, how I want to live, where I want to live, what I will be like if I live there.
I began to look at my apartment with different eyes and it began to expand. Instead of a dryer and ironing board, I imagined a whole room dedicated to such matters. The kitchenette became a large dining room, and the hall became a huge living room. I walked along these 39 sq. meters, both 390. The apartment was on the third floor, and going up the steps, I imagined that this was my three-story house.
The yard became a personal subsidiary farm, which together with the children we cleaned of garbage and turned into a large play complex. I planted flowers in the front garden. At the entrance I washed the windows and sills and began to regularly sweep from the 3rd to the 1st floor. It was all my space!
Gradually, the apartment changed: the wallpaper changed, beautiful curtains appeared, a vase, in which there were always freshly cut flowers, gave them to herself. I fell in love with the apartment, the entrance, the courtyard where I lived.
At the beginning of each day, I looked on the Internet for photos of rooms that responded in the shower. And then a photo of a family, a man. No joke, no coincidence, but after some 3 months miracles began to happen in my life - there were a lot of coincidences with the pictures that I was inspired by in the morning! The most important thing is that a man appeared, a future husband, and now a real one! And it was he, jokingly, lovingly, who pushed to study the issue of putting things in order. And I was inspired to run the decluttering marathon by the movie Life Is The Exciting Magic of Cleaning and Marie Kondo's book Magic Cleaning.
Rosalia: How long does the decluttering process take in your home? And how has this affected your life?
Regina: The decluttering process began at the end of August 2016. The most active part took 9 days. Then I got rid of 80% of the things that did not please me. The remaining 20% \u200b\u200bleft as consciousness changed. KonMari teaches me how to relate to people through my attitude to things. I realized that my home can only please if I myself fill it with joy. Nobody else will do it.
I organized my thoughts. Today I am happy with the order, first of all, in my head. Now I know where I need to move, what to develop in - and that's good! I have a vector. And not as before - a wind rose.
I like to support my husband. He began teaching hatha yoga classes. And I am happy for him as if it were my undertaking. In turn, I organized Mandala Dance classes for young mothers.
In our city there is a “Happy Super-Mom” community, which in fact has become a public organization dealing with social, cultural and environmental issues. And I found myself in helping other mothers: I conduct culinary master classes and handicraft classes. Never in my life would I have thought that such a primitive thing as CLEANING could change the worldview so much.
I like what I am doing now: I cook, wash, tidy up the house, walk with the children. I am not striving somewhere "outside", I am not looking for some kind of total realization of myself. Now I know that I am not cut off from the world, being on maternity leave, taking care of children and home. I am where I need to, and at the same time. And this is all thanks to the cleaning!
Rosalia: You are running a declutter marathon for the third time. What is its essence? What do the participants get after completing it? What changes did they have?
Regina: The marathon consists of tasks for one or two days, depending on the amount of work. In a friendly company, we put things in order in the house for each separate category of things. First, we disassemble our personal belongings, then we move on to writing instruments, kitchen utensils, detergents, etc. We finish the work with "sentimental" things. The principle is one - we leave what pleases, and get rid of the rest. This sequence developed from the experience of Mari Kondo. Initially I tried it on myself, and it is really correct.
I constantly reminded the participants that the main thing in this cleaning is how you put things in order in your head. And the fact that you will have order at home is even secondary. But to get the first, you need to work with the second, since the physical reflects the inner. “Look around you and you will see what is inside you” is my main slogan.
And the girls doing the assignments did have a change. Someone just realized that he was a hoarder. Someone learned not to buy everything, but to listen to their heart. Others had obvious changes: some moved into the houses or apartments they dreamed of. One, immediately after getting rid of her careless clothes, received a package from her sister from Thailand with beautiful things. Some have finally realized what they want to do in life. Someone learned to stack things vertically and taught this to children. Everyone gets theirs. And this is natural, because in order to get something, you need to love what you already have and be grateful for it.
Rosalia: I know that you continue to work in this direction. What can you say about the new book by Marie Kondo? How was it?
Regina: Marie Kondo's new book, Sparks of Joy, goes into more detail on how to organize space after decluttering. She inspired even more to continue putting things in order in her life.
I will share with you a trick, which is described in the new book: if you do not know how joy feels, then use the ranking method (ie ranking according to the degree of importance) "top three". In each of the categories of things, choose three things that will definitely make you feel joy, excitement, happiness. And compare the rest with this top three. If you find it difficult to determine your attitude to this thing, then the comparison method is the best!
Rosalia: Regina, thank you for the interesting conversation and your inspiring experience. What would you like to wish to all those who are just going to put things in order in their lives?
Regina: I wish everyone to pay attention to themselves. This is possible by tidying up your home, and cleaning your heart with it! Decluttering will help clear your head of unnecessary memories that drag you back, of other people's desires that lead you aside. Cleaning makes it possible to live here and now!
I believe that the changes that have taken place inside me have influenced the changes in my life. I am sure that before you change what you don't like, you need to try to look at it from the other side, to love it. And then something better will come! I wish you all such wonderful changes!