Useful tips
No one wants to just put up with the rudeness and rudeness that can be heard in public transport, at work, online, and just on the street.
There is no need to play the role of the victim, but learn to react correctly to aggression towards you.
Obviously, for most people, being rude to them can have a negative impact. influence well-being, self-esteem and performance.
How to respond to rudeness
To be able to respond to rudeness, you first need to work on increasing your self-esteem.
It is worth noting that it is not easy to be rude to a person with a strong spirit.
And yet, if you urgently need to know how to communicate with a boor, then you can use one or more methods of struggle.
Responses to rudeness
Calm
When talking to such people, you should never show them that you are confused. Try to express your point of view frankly, firmly and openly.
Try not to get defensive and speak calmly and relaxed.
Most often, rude people are weak, envious people who have difficulty getting used to honesty and calmness, and sometimes do not know these words at all. They take energy for their negativity from precisely those people who succumb to rudeness and begin to get nervous. Don't let them "feed" on your nervousness.
Sneezing
This method is more suitable as a reaction to prolonged rudeness.
If the person who is rude to you cannot stop, you may well be able to help him do so.
First, try listening to him calmly until he himself is convinced that he is right. After this, sneeze loudly and demonstratively - there will be a short pause, during which you calmly say the phrase: "Sorry, I'm allergic to bullshit." and politely add: "So where did you stop?"
Aikido
Simply put: you give me, I give you. This method transfers your interlocutor’s negativity onto himself. You just need to agree with his attacks against you, thank him for the time and effort spent emphasizing your shortcomings.
You can even praise your interlocutor for his attentiveness and the “advice” that you heard. Do this calmly and try not to show the caustic nature of your phrases.
It is worth noting that the more witnesses to the conflict, the better for you, because a rude person is unlikely to receive the necessary approval from the outside, and will most likely cause laughter and jokes in his address.
Boringness
This method can be used by administrators of forums, websites, blogs and social groups. networks.
Despite the fact that most community members are familiar with general rules, some still deliberately violate them, after which they express their dissatisfaction in private messages with administrators due to the fact that their access was denied.
After all the arguments are over, these characters move on to outright rudeness and rudeness.
The easiest way is to simply ban, but if you want to prove that you are right, try without emotions, describe in detail all the offender’s mistakes. At first, the interlocutor will resist and continue to “have fun” with rudeness, but when he realizes that they are communicating with him dryly, without emotion, he will simply leave behind.
Ignoring
Perhaps the most famous and simple method of dealing with rudeness. Sometimes silence is not only effective and safe, but also beautiful.
If you don’t need anything from a rude person, or you are simply not psychologically ready to enter into a debate with him, or if the “interlocutor” is simply out of his mind and can harm your health, just ignore him. Rude people want to win your attention, don't give them this joy.
It is worth noting that you also need to ignore correctly. No need to include an offensive look and sighs- these are signals that you paid attention to him. Don't show any emotions, a boor is nothing to you.
How to respond beautifully to rudeness
There are several phrases that can be used when you are confronted with a rude person:
"Sorry, is that all?"
"I thought better of you"
"Rudeness doesn't suit you very well"
"Do you want a polite answer or the truth?"
"Why are you trying to look worse than you really are?"
“Like everyone else, I also have bad days. Don’t be upset, everything will work out for you.”
“Yes, of course, go ahead. May luck be on your side” (in case someone jumps in line)
"This role doesn't seem to suit you. What do you really want?"
"Thank you for showing interest in me"
"Do you want to offend me? Why?"
How to respond to insult
If you are accidentally or intentionally cursed, you should not take these words literally and take everything personally.
Understand that if the one who insulted you Bad mood or is he just not well brought up, this does not mean that everything is your fault.
In order to be able to react correctly to insults, you need, first of all, to know that the person who insults you possible ways, he himself is a victim, namely a victim of the obstinacy of his character.
More often than not, those who "attack" and try to humiliate others are weak individuals who simply cannot cope with negative emotions, which encourages them to throw out everything on those around them.
What to do in response to an insult
If you are insulted by a stranger
The best option is to ignore it. Just try not to notice the one who is trying to insult you. Of course, there are times when you need to act differently, but most often you need to act as if the stranger is not there, and his words are an empty sound.
If you insulted close person
From the very beginning, try to dot all the I's. You should calmly and directly tell him that the words spoken hurt you. The right step there will be a discussion of the situation.
If you were insulted by a work colleague/boss
Under such circumstances, try to carefully avoid the conflict. If a co-worker tirelessly insults you and keeps you silent doesn’t help, try responding with a neutral barb.
In the case of a boss, conflicts are not needed, which means do not respond to insults. Instead, imagine your manager as a petulant, pugnacious little child.
In your head, pat him on the head, feed him porridge and help him sit on the potty. This is exactly the method that psychologists recommend. You will not only endure insults, but also gain good mood, or at least it will make you smile and increase your productivity. In addition, the boss may also pay attention to your durability.
How to respond to an insult
The person who is trying to insult you wants to assert himself, to stand out, which means you need to give him a cold answer: “Well, have you asserted yourself at my expense?”
When listening to such a person, try to understand what the goal is, why they want to insult you.
* If you don’t know how to respond to an insult, then you need to know one important thing - no wellit is possible to reach the point of mutual insults and rash reactions.
Besides the fact that it may look stupid, you are also susceptible to manipulation, which may end in a trap for you. You don't have to play by the rules that are imposed on you.
*Another main rule - respond to rudeness calmly without losing your self-esteem. But it is worth noting that the cultural response to the “attack” of a boor most often does not produce any effect, because the game takes place on someone else's territory and not according to your rules.
* When it comes to trolling, or other similar situations, it is best ignore the offender.
* It happens that you need to answer, but you know that all your arguments simply will not work against a stubborn rude person. In this case, the most the best option will turn around and leave.
* The person who insulted you or is trying to do so may simply be having a bad day. Therefore, from you it will be enough to ask: "Bad day?" . If a person is adequate, he will agree and may even ask for forgiveness.
But, if it comes to a troll, then such a question is not only inappropriate, but can also lead to additional insults towards you.
* Most often, responding to an insult is not a good strategy, and you can get away with it only by neutrally asking the person what he just said to you. Try to pretend that you didn't hear his words or didn't pay attention to them. In this case, only an outright boor will continue his “attacks”.
* If you find yourself in a situation where it is simply necessary to respond to the offender, or you are strangled by the desire to do so, do not rush at him. The main thing is to be calm, cold in words and expressions. It is advisable to silence insults with witty remarks and only after the interlocutor has finished his monologue.
* Sometimes an insult is more like a mockery. In this case, perhaps the best option would be to answer in the form of a joke, which not only will not offend the person, but will also maintain a normal relationship.
One of common mistakes that people make is an attempt to justify themselves, they say, "no, you're wrong, it's not my fault". Firstly, such a strategy can make you humiliated, and secondly, trying to justify yourself is simply pointless, because... As a rule, no one listens to excuses.
Inconvenient questions
“How much does it cost?”, “When are you getting married?”, “What is your salary?”- these questions are annoying, and despite the fact that asking them is bad manners, some still cannot restrain themselves.
There are several situations you can consider, but first let’s note a few universal answers.
How to answer in an original way
- “I am amazed at your ability to ask questions that can baffle you!”
- “You are an amazing woman (man). I have always been amazed by your ability to ask uncomfortable (correct, difficult, rhetorical) questions!”
- “I’ll be happy to try to answer your question, just answer first, why are you so interested in this?”
- “For what purpose are you interested in this?”
- “Do you really want to talk about this?” If the answer is yes, then simply answer: "And I'm not very good" - and end the dialogue with a smile.
If you don’t really like the person and you have no desire to communicate with him, especially after an incorrect question, you can answer coldly: "It's my damn business."
- Ask again: “I understand correctly that...”
Questions about money
When you are faced with an unpleasant question, you have every right not to give the other person any specific answer. For example, to the question "How much do you earn?" you can avoid answering “Like most, the average salary in the industry (significantly less than Abramovich).”
You can also answer this question with a counter question. For example, to the question "How much is the jacket?" You can ask your interlocutor how much his jacket costs. Another way to answer this question is significantly overestimate or underestimate the figure and then turn the conversation into a joke.
Questions about work
“What do you do?”, “What do you do at work?”
When answering such questions, psychologists advise naming the profession that can give you more confidence in what you do. If your work is different, you do many different things, you can sort all the work for a month into sections. This way you will know what takes the most time.
Questions about your personal life
“Why isn’t there a girl (boyfriend)?”, “When is the wedding?”, “Why haven’t you gotten married yet?”
You shouldn't take such questions seriously. In response, you can ask your interlocutor why such an unusual question came to his mind. In this case, the interlocutor will find himself in an awkward situation.
There is another option - just answer directly as it is. For example, to the question "Why one more (one)?" Proudly admit that you are patiently looking for your soul mate, who would not leave you in difficult times.
The third option would be "mirroring". For example, "Am I correct in understanding that you don't mind holding a candle over my bed?" , or "...what, today, is your main task to discuss my personal life?" , or "...is interest in other people's troubles normal for you?"
How to respond to rudeness
Boors can be found everywhere. These are people who often experience pressure on themselves, which leads to rudeness as a weapon of defense.
Why are they rude?
Reason 1: Despair
A person is not having a good day - so he is rude. For example, a saleswoman who is tired from the whole working day, a client, a colleague who is brought to stress.
Most often, such people, after throwing out all their anger at someone, feel guilty and may even apologize.
If you decide in such a situation to respond with the same weapon, then the feeling of guilt will go away and the person will think that being rude is normal.
Reason 2: Self-affirmation
When a boor humiliates another person, he feels superior to him, especially if this person, for one reason or another, cannot fight back the offender.
Usually such boors have, albeit not great, but still power. They believe that they can just take their anger out on those who depend on them and get away with it unpunished.
Reason 3: The desire to be noticed
If rudeness is an integral part of a person, then its roots can be hidden in childhood.
A child always wants attention and love from his parents. If he does not receive this, then he begins to be rude so that at least some attention will be paid to him. As a person ages, he uses the same strategy.
Responses to rudeness
Method 1: Don't take everything said to you personally.
Often a person who is rude does not do it specifically to you - rather, it is anger at the world in general: ill-mannered youth, men are assholes, etc. and only the brute himself is white and fluffy.
One can only sympathize with such a boor, because... the world he lives in is not easy to live in. Remember, every person sees the world differently. If a boor says that you are an uneducated person, you can try to refute his statement with your knowledge, but this is unlikely to work.
Method 2: A boor should not become the master of the situation
Try not to give the boor power over the situation so that they don't feel stronger.
If your boss is rude to you, and it is impossible to get away from it, think about the fact that you are not chained to him for the rest of your life. You are not a slave, you are only doing your job professionally, i.e. you help him carry out his work, which means you can call yourself a partner in a certain business. You can demand more respect for yourself because... you have every right to do this.
Method 3: Remember your rights
When you are rude to public place, then we need to fight not with the offenders, but with their superiors.
Find out your first name, last name, position and contacts. You can ask for a complaint book, if there is one. If this does not help, try contacting a consumer protection society or a lawyer.
Use your weapons - human rights and leverage. This method is suitable if the boor is an official, manager, waiter, security guard or other representatives of large organizations
Method 4: Use your imagination
Try to imagine the offender for glass wall: you see him, notice that he is expressing something, but you just don’t hear.
You can also imagine a boor in the form big fish in the aquarium: it seems to be moving its lips, moving its fins, but it’s not clear what all this is for.
If you watched the movie "The Matrix", then you remember the moment when Neo stopped the bullets fired at him. Imagine that the rudeness thrown at you is like bullets, and you are invulnerable, and all the rudeness does not reach you, falling with a ringing sound on the floor.
Method 5: Try to contact the boor
Try to find out the reason for the aggression. For example, you can say: “Now you are being rude to me, why do you need this?” or “You have a smile on your face and yet you say mean things, so I haven’t figured out how to respond to your words yet.”
Perhaps the person who heard you will think about his actions, look at himself from the outside and rethink his behavior. You can use this method when communicating with people with whom you will have to meet and talk more than once - work colleagues, acquaintances, relatives.
There is a chance that a person will look at himself from the outside and rethink something in his behavior.
How to respond beautifully to rudeness
Rudeness can be treated well with politeness, which frightens boors, forcing them to be careful when communicating:
- “You see, dear, I do not intend to communicate with you in such a tone.”
- "Dear, you may have confused me with someone"
If the boor just can’t stop after all your attempts, then save your nerves, wish him all the best and leave the place of conversation.
Sometimes a boor needs to be put in his place, otherwise by your silence you will make them stronger. A good answer can close the mouth of a boor. But remember, being rude to someone who is rude does not make you superior.
Try using humor. If someone is rude to you, smile and say "What a fool (fool, idiot) you are!" Such an act can anger the boor even more, whose reaction will make you laugh.
Smiling back often irritates a boor, so smile sincerely.
- “You deign to be rude to me... Why? Is your goal to offend me? Why?”
Answer in such a way that your word is the last and then the rudeness will stop.
Don't pay attention to the boor. Imagine the scenario in your head: “You are a leaf on the road... Everything passes by and doesn’t touch you in any way.” .
When faced with rudeness, many are confused, some respond “adequately”, the smartest ones do not react at all. What to do if a colleague, boss, or loved one insults you? Tactics rapid response depends on the type of rudeness and the situation.
Many have had and still have to deal with outright rudeness. A painful experience, to say the least. How to behave in similar situations? Should I rebuff the offender and, if so, in what form? Let's look at the problem in more detail.
A little theory
What is an insult? This is a deliberate offense, humiliation of a person’s honor and dignity, and in a rude form, with the violation of all socially accepted rules of behavior and moral norms. Insult can be inflicted verbally, in writing and even in actions.
Or you can go to court
Yes, the offender can be put in his place in this way. In Russia, insult is an administrative offense, liability for which is provided for in Article 5.61 of the Code of Administrative Offenses. But the trial, as you understand, is best reserved for last resort, and now let’s see how on our own stand up for oneself.
How we react
Usually the reaction to rudeness and rudeness is twofold.
The first option: at first we are perplexed (how can this happen in a civilized society?!), then the blood rushes to the face, the heartbeat quickens (because adrenaline is released!) and finally we are overcome with anger, we are ready for a verbal or physical fight.
The second option: the same bewilderment, then the blood drains from the face, because the manifestation of someone else’s rudeness frightens us, and we cannot respond adequately.
According to experts, both options are unproductive. And that's why.
Who is he, the offender?
It turns out that the offender is the victim. A victim of a difficult childhood, or an intolerable character, or bad manners. That is, the most unfortunate person. Also weak. Either stupid or envious. Or maybe humiliated by someone. So at the first opportunity he pours out his negative emotions on you.
Now tell me, is it worth being offended by this? Not to mention letting in the negative expression generated by it.
If the offender is a stranger
Just ignore the words of a stranger that hurt you. Pretend that you don’t notice him, that he’s nothing to you. Turn away if the scene took place in a vehicle, or step aside. Such a reaction will be... offensive to the offender himself, especially if he is a demonstrative psychopath.
If the offender is a colleague or boss
In a work environment, deliberately not noticing offensive attacks directed at you is also rational decision, especially if the source of the negativity is an employee of equal rank with you. But if he still won’t calm down in response to your silence, try responding with a barb or reducing the incident to a joke.
But you shouldn’t joke with your boss. Try to maintain a serene expression on your face, not to show that you are unpleasant, hurt, or offended. And to prevent everything from bubbling inside, psychologists advise imagining the offender in some funny position: for example, on all fours. They say it helps a lot. The main thing is not to laugh in his face. But the presumptuous boss will certainly feel the confidence and strength emanating from you.
If the offender is a loved one
No one, as we know, can hurt us as much as our loved ones. If one of them indulges in barbs, hints, or even direct speech that offends you, do not tolerate it and do not suffer in silence. Immediately say what topic in your communication you consider taboo, what remarks you do not want to hear, what opinion on what subject you are not interested in.
There is no need to arrange a loud showdown. What is said in a quiet voice is much more effective than any hysterics. And if a person really values you, he will understand how not to behave with you. If he envies you, or even just doesn’t like you, think about whether it’s worth maintaining a relationship with him.
Calm, just calm...
So, train a calm reaction to unwanted words and actions of others. Calmness, the absence of acute emotions in response, is a kind of shield that does not allow someone else’s aggression to destroy your psyche, and therefore your health in general.
In any critical situation, it is important to maintain self-esteem, self-confidence and peace of mind. And it doesn’t matter whether you answer the offender or ignore him, he will be disarmed and wonder whether it’s worth treating you this way.
Don't be like a boor
You cannot respond to verbal aggression in kind. Sometimes it is difficult not to succumb to the temptation to humiliate, trample, or shout down a boor, but it’s better not to. Because, firstly, as a result you will feel inner devastation and the resentment will not go away. Secondly, from the outside you will look best case scenario ridiculous, and at worst... just as rude as your offender. And thirdly, according to psychologists, this will indicate that he is simply manipulating you.
Don't make excuses
Sometimes, in response to unfair criticism, you want to explain your actions and, thus, justify yourself. You shouldn't do this. Firstly, by trying to prove something to the “critic,” you will put yourself in a humiliating position. And secondly, no one will listen to your arguments. Because the main goal of a critic is to emotionally hurt you and, thanks to this, to assert himself.
If you can’t ignore unfair attacks, just say: I have a different opinion on this matter, and in general I don’t need comments or advice. But remember to keep your cool. Excessive passion can lead you to an argument in which you will get bogged down, to the great joy of the offender.
Keep a sense of humor
Humor, as we know, is a sharp weapon. Some attacks should be answered with a witty joke. Thanks to this reaction, defuse the situation and disarm the offender. He thought that he had struck you, but it turned out that you are invulnerable, you don’t care, the mockery does not achieve its goal. And the offender, like an energy vampire, will quickly lose interest in you and go look for another victim.
Think fast
How often, when faced with a boor and hearing unpleasant words addressed to us, we literally become speechless, unable to quickly and wittily respond in order to put the presumptuous type in his place. But then wonderful answers come to mind. How to develop the ability to quickly respond adequately?
Experts suggest sharpening your wit in a friendly circle. That is, you meet with friends and start comic duels. A very useful workout for the mind. And the more often you train, the more experience and skill you have.
When you can't be silent or laugh it off
If the offender is trying to offend your honor and dignity, there is no need to remain silent or get off with a joke. Especially if offensive remarks are made in the presence of witnesses. Collect your thoughts and give a worthy answer: calmly, coolly, in a quiet voice. So that everyone understands that you cannot be rude with impunity.
How to avoid becoming a victim
Some people seem to be created to be offended. By the way, in psychology there is even such a thing as the psychology of the victim. The victim person looks and behaves in such a way that he literally provokes insults from all kinds of boors.
Fearfulness, self-doubt, low self-esteem, painful shyness, intimidation - these are the main character traits of this unfortunate man. Hearing swearing addressed to him, he gets scared, becomes numb and cannot bring himself to utter a sound. In this case, a psychologist or independent work above oneself.
The article will teach you to respond to insults not with rudeness, but with cultural words and phrases without swearing.
How can you beautifully humiliate a man or guy with clever words without swearing: phrases, expressions
There are a lot of life situations when a person can be offended, set up, humiliated and “laughed at.” You shouldn’t remain silent and accept such antics as something common. If you do not explain to your offender how wrong he is, he will be able to spoil the mood of the people around him for a long time and take advantage of their goodness.
In order not to use your fists and at the same time show yourself on the good side, you should, so to speak, “kill with words.” Education is not given to everyone, because getting it takes time and effort. The article gives you tips to help you learn how to respond to offensive phrases with delicate but firm words, making it clear that you are above any rudeness and obscene language.
What can you say to a man and what is important to remember:
The worst thing a man can do is to humiliate and raise his hand against a woman, and therefore he should be hit “where it hurts”, convicting him of weakness, but not physical. For example, the word “impotent” can affect anyone. Try to beat it with other “colors”:
- “You are morally impotent!”
- “Only an impotent man can offend a woman!”
- “You are impotent not in your pants, but in your soul! (Or maybe both!)
Another thing that can affect any man is his status and wealth. Glory given to a man with low income or lack of work gains particular power. From time immemorial, it was believed that a man is a breadwinner and therefore the inability to have wealth is a humiliation for a modern man.
IMPORTANT: You need to humiliate a man with such phrases if he is really at least a little worried about the issue of family wealth. If he for a long time is deliberately supported by his parents or wife and this does not bother him - you are unlikely to be able to “hook” him.
- “You are a disgrace to your parents and their ruin!”
- “You are not able to provide yourself with even toilet paper!”
- “Behind your insolence you hide your own inadequacy!”
If you want to point out to a man his stupidity and recklessness, even if he has higher education and manners, but he regularly does stupid things, you should use phrases like:
- “You have failed neither as a person nor as a man!”
- “Unlike mine, your dignity has sunk to the bottom!”
- “You are an immoral, weak and wretched person!”
- “All your words are helpless attempts to prove something!”
- “I feel sorry for looking at you!”
- “Don’t humiliate yourself and don’t try to say something smart!”
- “I would offend you, but nature has already done it for me!”
How can you beautifully humiliate a woman, girl, or husband’s mistress with clever words without swearing?
In some life situations women themselves are “asking for” insults and humiliation. In order not to cross the line allowed by cultural society and not show yourself as an ill-mannered person, it is important to know a number of phrases that can “put in place” any ill-mannered girl.
What to emphasize:
The first thing that can hook a woman is criticism of her appearance. It is important to choose words that will not directly shout “You’re ugly!”, but will just delicately hint about it. Your words should make a woman think and make her look at herself from a different perspective.
- “When God created women, he decided to save money on you!”
- “I would offend you, but I’ll just advise you to look in the mirror!”
- “Your words are the helpless barking of a dirty mongrel!”
- Surprisingly, she’s not rich in intelligence and has no face!”
- “It’s a pity to spit in such a face!”
Another aspect of women's dignity is their popularity with men. Here it is important to focus on the problem itself (either there are very few men, since the lady is not attracted to them, or there are too many and it is comparable to a woman of “easy virtue”).
- “There’s nowhere to put a sample on you!”
- “You’ve already given all your dignity to other people’s men!”
- “You are the shame of your father and your mother’s tears!”
- “You are a quality man’s mat!”
- “Your whole life is serving the master for sugar!”
- “No normal man will even look in your direction!”
- “All your attractiveness ended 10 men ago!”
- “To get involved with you is to disgrace yourself!”
If you want to hurt a woman as a person, you should point out the shortcomings of her mind, showing her to be a fool in your eyes and in the eyes of others:
- “If you were smart, then you would have a decent man!”
- "From smart women men don’t leave!”
- “Here, I look at you and at first glance it seems that you are a fool! And then you look and it’s true - you’re a fool!”
How to insult a woman with words without swearing? How to insult, offend a man, a guy without swearing, with clever words?
Some phrases that do not contain swearing or rudeness should not be very long. The fact is that a person who offends you with obscene language is unlikely to be able to understand literate and cultured words, as well as their meaning and the delicacy with which you pronounce them. Answer in short, but as comprehensible phrases as possible. Deliver your speech confidently, firmly, and be sure to make eye contact so that what you say is heard.
IMPORTANT: You have the power to insult a man or guy for the wrongs caused with just one phrase that conveys all your pain and strength. Do not react to any cry and let everything said in your honor pass through you, because it is your word that will be the last and decisive.
Offensive, but “cultural” insults for a man:
- “Only a wretched mongrel will get along with someone like you!”
- “You will never succeed because you have little strength and masculinity!”
- “You are not able to satisfy a woman either mentally or in bed!”
- “You are a disgrace to anyone, even the most fallen woman!”
- “You are not a man, but a temporary trinket!”
- “Even the stupidest woman in the world cannot be happy with you!”
- “You haven’t come into existence yet in your mother’s womb!”
- “At your age of 40, you cannot become a man!”
- “You are so weak and you are such a loser that listening to your words doesn’t even hurt me!”
Offensive phrases without swearing for a man How can you insult and offend a woman or a girl with clever words without swearing?
Smart phrases without swearing will help you try not to offend a woman with obscene words and still be able to convey important information to her. Try to contain all your emotions and instill in every word not only your anger, but also the confidence that you are strong and the truth is on your side.
What phrases to say to a woman or girl:
- “Instead of barking like a yard dog, better go think about your words and the stupidity with which you pronounce them!”
- “Go wash yourself and wash away this idiocy!”
- “I used to think that you were smart, but now I see that you have always been a fool!”
- “Apparently, you were the last in line for intelligence!”
- “Every time you open your mouth, another portion of slop comes out!”
- “You act like you grew up in a brothel!”
- “Yes, you have a brain, but there’s not an ounce of intelligence in it!”
How to humiliate and respond to a person’s offense with words without swearing? How to besiege, put a man, a guy, a subordinate in his place with clever words?
Very often, people at work completely lack professional ethics and a subordinate may “allow himself too much” during a conversation with his superiors. The administration, in turn, are highly educated and well-mannered people, which allowed them to occupy such a rank.
A person with a higher rank must be able to “verbally punish” his subordinate for an offense and force him to respect himself with cultural words alone. They need to be spoken confidently and strictly, avoiding emotional gestures and explosive phrases.
What you can emphasize in a conversation with a subordinate:
- For lack of education
- Ask to see a document on higher or professional education.
- Threaten with loss of job due to incompetence
- Say that a person risks losing respect in the eyes of his superiors and colleagues.
- Threaten with a fine or loss of bonus
How to “put a subordinate in his place”:
- “You make me regret that I once decided to hire you.”
- “In my eyes, you instantly lost your qualifications!”
- “I believe that our company is overpaying you, because your education is not worthy of such a salary.”
- “I think you just spent your bonus!”
- “I will not allow ignorance to flourish in my conscientious team!”
- “You are a disgrace to our company!”
- “With your achievements, our company will never succeed!”
- “You are dragging our team and our company down!”
How to “put in place” a subordinate with words without swearing? How to shut a person's mouth with clever words?
IMPORTANT: The concept of “shut your mouth with clever words” assumes that you will find phrases that, after an offense, will be able to reason with a person and warn him against new error. “Smart words” are words devoid of obscenities and rudeness, but imbued with reasonable meaning. They push a person to conclusions and leave a mark on the soul stronger than any obscene word.
Phrases to “shut a person’s mouth”:
- “Ever since you opened your mouth, the stench hasn’t stopped coming out of it, like a cesspool!”
- “It would be better if you didn’t open your mouth, because all your words only showed how low you are!”
- “You opened your mouth and immediately realized that this was a stupid person in front of me!”
- "Your words did not show you with the best side!»
- “Ever since you opened your mouth, my opinion of you has changed for the worse!”
- “Your words have brought you lower than ever in my eyes!”
- “You are incredibly stupid if you think that everything you say is smart speech!”
How to do and what to say to a person so that he can shut up: phrases without swearing How to turn off, send a guy, a man away with clever words?
There are situations when a woman should rebuff a man so that he no longer pesters and has no plans for her. A weak and stupid woman will swear with obscene language, while a smart woman will allow you to put a person in his place with just one word and a look. A woman's strength is in her behavior and words.
What to tell a man:
- “You are not even worthy of my glance!”
- “I will not tolerate such humiliation as to give you my attention!”
- “You’re so low that I didn’t even notice you at first!”
- “In my eyes you are nothing!”
- “To me you’re not even a man!”
- “I don’t want to deal with such a low entity like you!”
- “Looking at you, I only feel pity!”
- “I can’t stand boors, they are my competitors!”
- “May I send you intellectually?”
- “You think I can actually spend time with you? Well, probably thinking is not about you!”
Wise words to say goodbye to the guy who betrayed
Very often, men do not behave conscientiously and betray women who are in love with them. In situations where women find out about this, many decide to break up. To make a man understand how low and wrong he was, you should select worthy and true words, which will serve as both humiliation and farewell.
What can you say to a man:
- “Get back under that skirt you just crawled out of!”
- “I don’t want to share a bed, a table, a life, or even the air on the same planet with you anymore!”
- “I hate even just listening to your excuses! Such a man simply does not deserve me!”
- “You have become so low that you began to seek happiness from a strange woman between the legs!”
- “I was so stupid that I believed in your sincerity and now I’m sick of all the years we’ve lived together!”
- “I hope that you will be happy and that someone else can give you at least part of the care that I blindly gave to you!”
- “You will regret in time that you offended me, but then I will even forget your name.”
- “How low you have fallen and the funny thing is that you don’t see it, but everyone else has already noticed!”
How can you call a person smart words?
Choose more friendly curse words to insult your offender without using obscene language. This will show you only from the best side, as reasonable and educated person, not spoiled and knowing dignity.
What words can you choose:
- Trinket – an unnecessary thing, empty and soulless, having no purpose, on which time is wasted, something without mind and reason.
- Cheap utensils - someone of low dignity, someone who is not needed or has much value in the world.
- Soulless man - a person devoid of any values and inner peace.
- Shame (disgrace) – a person devoid of dignity, a person who brings shame and problems to those close to him.
- Shameless - a person deprived of respect and understanding of the people around him, a person without spiritual values.
- Carrion – a person who has fallen in the eyes of others, a person who is comfortable existing in the dirt of words, actions and betrayal.
- Cattle – a person who does not behave rationally, a person who is compared to an animal.
- Stupid creature a person who does not know how to do smart things.
- Animal – a person who does not know how to act well and is devoid of his essence.
- Insect – personality devoid of humanity
- Mongrel – a person devoid of nobility and education
How to call a person without using obscenities? How to say in smart words that a person is stupid?
Use these phrases:
- “Your mind is like a cat crying!”
- “The brain is no bigger than a chicken!”
- “The head is big, but there is no brain!”
- “Your brain has no convolutions!”
- “You only have one curve and it’s smooth!”
- "You understand me? Although yes, where are you going?”
- “Were you born this stupid or did you become so stupid?”
- “You were last in line for brains”
- “Nature did not reward you with intelligence”
How can you say in clever words that a person is a fool?
Use these words:
- Fool
- Feeble-minded
- Crazy
- Poor mind
- Deprived
- On my own mind
- Autistic
- Clown
How to replace curse words with smart words?
In order not to look stupid and overly emotional, try to develop in advance the ability to replace obscene words with cultural analogues. It's not difficult at all if you practice in advance. Try to understand in advance the full meaning and significance of the obscenities you know, and then in your understanding you will be able to replace them with more “cultural” words.
IMPORTANT: Clever words spoken “strongly” and confidently can be more painful and meaningful than any obscenities that already exist constantly in the speech of a modern person.
How can you respond to a person’s insult, resentment, or rudeness with clever words?
Rules:
- Try to control your emotions
- Answer not during sports or the offender’s monologue, but only when he runs out of words.
- Speak calmly but confidently
- Your voice should not be quiet or too loud
- Look in the face and do not give free rein to your hands (both in terms of assault and unnecessary gestures).
- Proudly leave after what has been said
Video: “Gentlemanly Insults”
Now you can beautifully, and most importantly subtly, poke at your opponent in an argument using one of these expressions.
Only aristocrats and people with a fair sense of humor and imagination can insult so beautifully.
So,
How to insult your interlocutor beautifully.
Any similarity between you and a person is purely coincidental!- Are you always this stupid, or is today a special occasion?
- As an outsider, what do you think about the human race?
- I would like to punch you in the teeth, but why should I improve your appearance?
- At least there is one positive thing about your body. It's not as scary as your face!
- The brain isn't everything. But in your case it’s nothing!
- Be careful not to let your brain get into your head!
- I like you. They say I have disgusting taste, but I love you.
- Have your parents ever asked you to run away from home?
- If only I had a face like yours. I would sue my parents!
- Don't be upset. Many people have no talent either!
- No offense, but is it your job to spread ignorance?
- Keep talking, someday you will manage to say something smart!
- Do you still love nature despite what it has done to you?
- I don't think so, maybe you have a brain sprain!
- Fellows like you do not grow on trees, they fluctuate there.
- He has a mechanical mind. This is bad for him; he often forgets to turn his back to the wind.
- His mind is like a steel trap that always slams shut when trying to find an answer!
- You are a man of the earth, it’s bad that it’s not the best part of it.
- He thought - this is something new.
- When it finally gets dark, you'll definitely look better!
- Yes, you are just a wonderful comedian. If it's funny, it's a miracle!
- In the book "Who's Who" you should be searched as What's This?
- You are living proof that a person can live without a brain!
- It is so short that when it rains, he is always the last to know about it.
- Yes, you are just a template for building an idiot.
- Why are you here? I thought the zoo closed for the night!
- How did you get here? Did someone leave the cage open?
- Don’t try to find anything in your head, it’s empty.
- I think you wouldn't want to feel the way you look!
- Hello! I am human! What do you?
- I can't talk to you right now, tell me where will you be in 10 years?
- I don't want you to turn the other cheek, it's just ugly.
- I don't know who you are, but it would be better if you didn't exist, I'm sure everyone will agree with me.
- I don't know what makes you stupid, but it really works.
- I can drive the monkey out of you, but it will cost you a lot!
- I can't remember your name and please don't help me with this!
- I don't even like the people you're trying to copy.
- I know you were born stupid, but why are you relapsing?
- I know that you are self-made. It's good that you admit your guilt!
- I know you are not as stupid as you look. This is impossible!
- I saw people like you, but then I had to pay for the ticket!
- Why are you such a fool today? Although I think this is typical for you.
By using these insults you take responsibility for your words.
Various situations happen in life. It happens that it happened conflict situation with a person and you were insulted. Surely this has happened to everyone.
Be it random insults or special ones. With colleagues at work, or in a friendly company, or with a stranger in a store. Most often they insult intentionally, for some purpose, for example, trying to offend, humiliate, or show that the offender is better than you.
Insult- this is always unpleasant, so you need to know how to react to them. Those who do not know how to respond to insults can go into serious depression. Therefore, it will be written here about how to respond to insults.
First, in order to understand how to competently respond to an insult, you need to put aside all emotions. Especially fear. Otherwise, the offender may feel that you are afraid and then he will continue to insult you more.
He himself experiences fear, but sensing yours, he will become impudent and rude more and more every time. Therefore, remember that you are strong when you are confident.
You may be deeply offended by phrases that you consider to be true. But that's not true. So just make it clear to others. Start loving yourself, from your fingertips to your hair and your soul. There are no more people like you. Remember this. You are unique. Nobody has the right to be rude to you. You are good at everything that brings you joy. You are smart. You are beautiful. Say nice words to yourself every morning in front of the mirror, admire yourself.
Think carefully about why people try to offend people who are not like them? In fact, the answer is simple - people are afraid. They are afraid to look weaker than others, thereby insulting and humiliating you. Don't give in and don't let anyone insult you.
They try to appear stronger by humiliating others, but in reality the offenders are weak individuals.
Therefore, be smarter, be calm about unpleasant phrases addressed to you. remember, that this person is weaker than you and is simply afraid of being worse than you.
Nobody can insult you. If you are directly confronted, for example, in a store, because you are choosing something for a long time, or in line for a ticket you are paying for a long time, and they are shouting at you, then do not be silent! Go up to the person who is shouting at you and ask: “Who gave you the right to talk to me like that?”, “Who am I to you for you to shout at me? You can yell at your wife or son at home!”
This way you can force the offender to use his brains. Maybe he will understand the fact that everyone has the same rights. And if your boss or colleague insults you at work, then give him the Constitution Russian Federation. Maybe in next time your colleagues will watch their language.
You need to remember that constructive criticism and insults are two different things. Just as criticism implies help in eliminating a person’s shortcomings, and when insulting, a person humiliates someone else’s dignity, while demonstrating his own. Therefore, there is not a drop of truth in insults and therefore you should not take them to heart and delve into yourself, thereby causing sadness and bad emotions in yourself.
Sometimes offenders use non-standard language and very rude phrases in order to offend even more. It happens that they use subtle insults, manifested through outright sarcasm and ridicule. In order to correctly respond to the words of the offender, you need to understand what insults are being thrown in your direction. For example, you don’t need to respond to insults with direct obscene words; you can simply use your knowledge of neurolinguistic programming.
There are overly emotional personalities who are not familiar to you, but landed in a public place. Such people may behave inappropriately and attack with their fists. Therefore, if you sense that a person is not friendly with the language, then simply ignore him. Why would you stoop to the same level. And a fight definitely won’t lead to anything good.
It is best to react calmly with an indifferent voice or ignore it. It turns out that you don’t care what he thinks and says. As a result, he will quickly fall behind. There are situations when you can respond in the same manner as you are addressed. You are a leader, you love yourself.
For example, At work with a grin they tell you that you are so ridiculous that you wore a wrinkled shirt. You can respond in the same spirit: “Thanks for your concern, but you’ve had bags under your eyes all week. What would this be connected with? And smile sweetly.
Interesting thing, when they try to give you a negative assessment of your appearance or your actions, try thanking the person. This will clearly confuse him and he will not find anything else to say. Serious companies have weekly meetings. Usually meetings look like this: the boss gathers his subordinates and begins to scold, sometimes shout, etc.
For those who are not pleased and offended to hear the boss scream, there is interesting thing which is easy to do.
Just imagine that you went to visit a large aquarium, and your boss is a fish who only opens his mouth. But not a single sound is heard.
This wonderful psychological thing will help those who are nervous about the negativity of their boss. After all, you can’t respond to your boss with an insult or yell at him, but no one can stop you from listening to him.
If, after your vacation, your “favorite” colleague tries to tease you about how well you have recovered, then agree with him and smile. He may continue the conversation with the question, what will you do with excess weight? Tell him you've decided to be fat and you like McDonald's food and athletes don't inspire you.
How to respond to insults:
- The most important thing is to be smarter than the one who is trying to offend you.
- Do not stoop to the level of the offender, do not yell at him, do not use direct insults - this will only worsen the situation.
- Remember that the one who offends you is already in a losing position. You need to sincerely feel sorry for such people; most likely, life has already offended them.
- Everyone has the same rights.
- Answer using the same methods.
- You are a strong personality.
- Turn off your emotions.
- Love yourself.
Remember that there is no exact way how to properly respond to insults. After all, it depends on the situation and who is offending you. But thanks to this article, you can understand how to react to offenders.