Is it worth it to have a third child in the family? Payments for a third child

For several months now, gossip columns have been discussing the birth of Prince Louis, the third child of the British Prince William and Kate Middleton. Journalists are trying to guess what kind of character the child will inherit, and how the fact that he is the third child in the family will affect him.

Psychologists have long established that the birth order of a child greatly influences the formation of children's emotions, behavior and character traits. Each child is born in certain conditions, and this causes him to have unique emotional experiences - both positive and negative. This experience shapes certain character traits in the child.

The third child appears in the family when the parents already have extensive experience in raising children and no longer worry about minor problems. As a result, the third child often grows up to be calmer and more cheerful. Even of two children in a family, the younger one is usually the more smiling and charming, and because of this, he gets more attention.

However, this little angel also faces certain problems. Older children tend to be louder and more demanding, and a younger child may find themselves in the background in such an environment. Older children are constantly faced with new challenges that require their parents' attention: they are the first to go to school, the first to leave for an all-night party, etc. Parents often take their younger child with them when they take their older child to a sports section, music school, etc. Thus, the younger child receives less individual attention. When the third child appears, parents no longer have as much free time to read books to him as they did with older children.

As a result, the younger child often attracts attention and tries to get it in every possible way. He can constantly joke or show artistry, but sometimes the child chooses other ways for this: screaming, bad behavior, etc.

Busy parents usually don't have enough time to teach their younger child how to tie his shoes or get dressed, and often do these things for him. Older children can usually do this on their own. The youngest child often lacks life skills, so he becomes dependent on others.

Another problem that younger children face is that they are often rejected by their elders. Younger children are not allowed to play (sometimes simply because the younger one does not understand the rules or lacks the dexterity to play). This makes younger children feel left out and in the future they make great efforts to be accepted by others.

Sometimes older brothers and sisters do not accept younger ones out of jealousy. They see how much time parents devote to the youngest (even if this happens for objective reasons - when parents feed a small child, change his diapers, etc.). Middle children are also indignant that until recently they themselves were the youngest in the family and all the attention of their parents was paid to them, and now they have lost such a privilege.

Research by psychologists shows: the smaller the age difference between children, the higher the competition between them.

Let's look at how this dynamic plays out in the royal family. Prince William and Kate Middleton's middle daughter, Princess Charlotte, is now three years old. She, like any child of this age, has a lot of needs for her parents' attention. She needs to sit on her mother's lap and interact with her. Therefore, it is likely that she will feel jealous and anxious that her mother spends less time with her. This may cause her to have trouble sleeping or provoke bad behavior to get mommy's attention. This is especially likely in cases where the mother feeds her younger brother and the eldest daughter sees a special connection between them.

However, there is one caveat: among all the children in the royal family, Princess Charlotte is the only girl, so in any case she will receive special attention from her parents. In due time, she will spend more time with her mother doing feminine activities (they will do manicures together, go to the hairdresser, etc.), and this will bring her special pleasure.

What is the position in the family of the eldest son, Prince George? Of course, his position in the royal family is special, because he is the main contender for the throne. This can ultimately lead to younger children feeling jealous. But George will probably also feel some jealousy towards his younger brother. He may be afraid that Louis will be better than him in some activities (for example, football or school).

Another problem that a younger child may face is that he has an older brother and sister who can do much more than he can. He will still ride a tricycle, and the older children will now ride a two-wheeler. The younger child may begin to worry that something is wrong with him and will grow up with feelings of inadequacy. It is likely that in the future he will have problems with self-determination and attracting attention to himself. It is likely that the younger child will be prone to competition with others or even to rebellion and attempts to assert himself as an individual.

Regardless of whether the parents are royals, there are many ways to help your youngest child cope. First of all, you should spend more time one-on-one with him from a very early age, play with him, read to him, teach him to independently perform the necessary actions in everyday life (while making sure that other family members do not rush to do everything for him) .

It is no secret that after the collapse of the Soviet Union, the situation with childbirth for some time in Russia, as in other post-Soviet states, was extremely bad. However, now the situation has improved significantly. In addition, in order to encourage young families to actively replenish the country’s demographic fund, the state allocates significant funds for material assistance and benefits for families with a large number of children.

Today we will find out what is required when a third child is born, what advantages and benefits can be relied on in connection with the addition of a family in the regions of the country.

Payments to families after the birth of their third child in 2019

So, when a third child appears in the family, his parents can rely on the following types of payments:

• payments in connection with pregnancy and childbirth;
• a one-time benefit upon registration at a medical institution in the early stages of pregnancy;
• one-time payments upon the birth of a baby;
• allowance for caring for him during vacation for up to one and a half years;
• regional “gubernatorial” payments;
• maternal capital;
• assistance for education up to 16 years of age;
• payments for children up to three years of age.

Also, for the third child, starting for several years in a row in a number of regions where population growth is low, special separate benefit.

Payments for the third or fourth child, like all others, are divided into federal and regional. Let's look at what is needed to receive them and in what amount they are paid. For example, let’s take regional payments in the Yaroslavl region.

Federal benefits for the birth of babies in large families

The one-time benefit is approximately 17,479.73 rubles. To receive it, social security authorities and workplaces provide:

• birth certificate of the third or subsequent child;
• a certificate from the father’s place of work stating that he does not receive a similar benefit;
• an application to a social authority if the parents do not work or are full-time students;
• documents of one of the parents;
• statements of last place of employment or military ID;
• a certificate stating that the benefit has not previously been paid.

The amount of the monthly benefit, which is paid until the third and subsequent child reaches the age of 1.5 years, depends on the date of birth of the baby. If he was born before February 1, 2019, then the amount will be 6284.65 rubles, if after this date - 6554.89 rubles.

The required documents for its registration are similar to the previous ones, also you will need a work book with a record of dismissal or a copy of the order from the place of work granting the employee parental leave.

Parents with many children in the Russian Federation can also apply to receive maternity capital in the amount of 453,026 rubles. The following categories are eligible to receive this payment:

• Those who gave birth to their second child since 2007.
• Those who gave birth to a third child since 2007, provided that they have not previously used additional government resources related to their support. A prerequisite for obtaining maternity capital is the presence of Russian citizenship among parents.

Regional payments for the third child

Regional benefits in this area, paid at the birth of the third child in the family, as well as the benefits that parents can claim, are as follows:

1. A one-time payment at birth (about 7 thousand rubles) is assigned on the basis of an application to the social security authorities at the place of residence, a passport, a birth certificate and, if necessary, a copy of the decision to adopt a child.
2. Regional family capital - assigned at the birth or adoption of a third or next child, provided that the family permanently resides in the region for at least one and a half years from the date of birth of the baby. It is paid one and a half years after the family is replenished in the amount of about 56,606 rubles.
3. A one-time benefit for the birth of two or more children at once - the amount of the benefit is about 42,720 rubles, and parents can apply for it by providing documents on residence in the region, as well as on the birth of children and their registration.
4. Monthly regional payments for low-income families - up to three years the monthly amount is 650 rubles and from three to adulthood 400, respectively. To receive such a payment, parents must provide their documents and the documents of the child to the social security authorities, as well as income certificates indicating the need for this payment.
5. Monthly payments at the birth of the third and next baby - the amount of the benefit is 8 thousand rubles. Benefits are assigned to families whose income per each member is below the market average within the Yaroslavl region. You can apply for the receipt by providing the social authority with documents confirming the identities of the parents and the newborn, as well as registration in the region and the level of income for each family member.
6. Compensation for expenses when paying for utilities and housing in the amount of 30% for large families - this is how, at the regional level, they can compensate for the costs of repairing a private home or in an apartment building, as well as paying utility bills on a monthly basis.
7. Free supplies of medicine to children from large families under 6 years of age.
8. Free travel on municipal transport in the city and suburbs within the region.
9. Free visits to state museums in the region for children and their parents.
10. Benefits for large families in the form of priority admission to kindergartens, based on a corresponding application from parents.
11. Free meals for representatives of low-income large families at school twice a day.
12. One free meal at school for members of large families, regardless of the financial situation of the family.
13. Free acquisition of land in the region for individual construction and personal farming for families with three or more children.
14. Improving living conditions for large families, in the form of benefits for the purchase or construction of housing for categories of citizens in need of improved living conditions.

Benefits for the birth of a third child for all residents of the Russian Federation in 2019

So, using the example of one of the regions, we looked at what large families with three or more children can claim. Now let's find out what benefits for such categories exist at the federal level.

If a family has at least three minor children, then its members can count to purchase your own home for a mortgage on attractive terms. Thus, the interest rate when taking out a mortgage for an apartment will be less than five percent per year, and there will be no need to pay a down payment.

This type of lending will be partially repaid from the federal budget. And in order to register it with Sberbank, you must provide the following package of documents:

• income certificates of both parents;
• work books;
• birth certificates of all children;
• copies of passports of both parents;
• a special certificate issued to large families.

Benefits for utilities and others

Benefits can be provided only to members of large families where there are at least three children under the age of majority. Their list is as follows: obtaining a certificate for receiving housing with 90% discount, while the total work experience of the parents must be at least ten years. And at least one of them must reside on the territory of the Russian Federation for at least 12 years.

Payment of regular utilities with 50% discount with the possibility of monetary compensation of the required amount.

This type of benefit is offered to children from large families. the following advantages subject to confirmation of the status of a large family:

• receiving a special scholarship at universities in the country;
• tuition fees at a university with a 50% discount if the child is studying under a contract;
• until adulthood – free education in sports, music and art schools;
• visiting theaters, museums, exhibitions;
• the opportunity to receive a free ticket to a summer camp;
• in case of illness, medications prescribed to the child by a doctor are provided free of charge with a certificate from a member of a large family.

As we have already considered using the example of the Yaroslavl region, children under eighteen years of age from families raising three or more children are entitled to a number of regional benefits such as free pass in municipal transport in the region.

Families can also count on additional financial assistance at the birth of a third child under three years of age and get the opportunity to become the owner of your own plot of land for free.

In addition, at the federal level it is possible to provide assistance in finding employment for adult members of large families, obtaining additional or first education for them, as well as early retirement.

If a third or fourth child appears in your family, you will certainly contact the social security office population in your region at your place of residence to find out in detail what payments and benefits you, your children and other members of your family can claim.

The system of state, regional and local measures to support motherhood and childhood is aimed at encouraging the birth of every baby. The number and composition of possible benefits increases noticeably if a third child appears in the family.

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State support measures

A large family has the right to use various support measures that are directly related to the birth of a third child.

They include:

• benefits for the birth of 3 children for free re-registration of rights to a land plot;
• benefits for families with two and more children when participating in mortgage lending programs: inperiod from January 1, 2018 to December 31, 2022 in the Russian Federation there is a federal program of preferential mortgage lending with state subsidies of interest at a rate of over 6%;
• benefits for 3 children on utility bills;
• mother's early retirement;
• priority measures in the educational process;
• priority drug provision;
• free or discounted right to visit theaters, museums, and exhibitions.

Attention! The legal basis for the implementation of each social support measure will be the submission of a document confirming the fact of the birth of a third minor citizen - a birth certificate.

Grounds for receiving benefits

At the birth of a third child, benefits are directly related to the assignment of the status of having many children. Since the presence of three minor children, in most regions of the country, gives parents the right to be considered a large family, this legal status must be confirmed by obtaining the appropriate document.

Attention! Such confirmation is carried out by the social protection authorities by issuing the appropriate certificate or certificate.

The status, which gives the right to enjoy benefits of any level, retains legal significance until the children reach the age of 16 or 18 years (the age depends on the region of residence and is regulated by local legislation). After at least one of three minor children reaches the specified age, the right to benefits granted earlier is lost, provided that there are fewer than three minor children in the family.

What payments are due at the birth of a third child?

As with the birth of each previous newborn, parents have the right to receive the following compensation payments:

• lump sum benefit for the birth of a child;
• monthly child care allowance.

These types of payments are guaranteed and are established at the birth of each citizen.

In addition, a maternity capital certificate may be a benefit for families with 3 children if citizens did not participate in this program after the birth of the second minor.

Attention! At the regional or local level, one-time or monthly payments may be provided upon the birth of a third child.

Their composition must be clarified at the place of residence with social protection authorities or local administrations.

Provision of land

The most significant support measure is the opportunity to obtain ownership of a land plot from a municipal or state fund free of charge.

The third child in the family gives all family members the opportunity to participate in the implementation of this benefit, i.e. the land plot will be registered as the property of not only the newborn, but also other children, including adults, as well as their parents.

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How to get a plot

If 3 children were born in a family, in order to realize the benefit for the free acquisition of rights to a land plot, the following steps must be taken:

• contact the local government authority authorized to distribute land;
• submit the required package of documents, including birth certificates and passports;
• prepare cadastral documentation for the site;
• receive an act of gratuitous transfer of land on behalf of the head of the local government;
• register property rights with Rosreestr authorities.

Additional terms

1. If citizens already legally owned land (for example, under a lease), they will be able to re-register rights to an existing plot or apply for the allocation of a new plot.
2. If there was no land in the property at the time of the birth of the third baby, the procedure for implementing preferences will provide for the formation of a new plot and securing rights to it.
3. It will also be necessary to confirm the existence of a marital relationship between citizens, with the exception of cases where minors are raised by only one parent.

Attention! Upon the birth of a third child, large families will be provided with a plot only if they comply with the territorial qualification - they must reside in the territory of a given constituent entity of the Russian Federation for up to five years (the exact period of residence may vary in different regions).

Regional benefits

Let's consider what benefits citizens can enjoy upon the birth of a third child, in addition to acquiring land ownership.

At the local and regional level, citizens have the opportunity to implement the following areas:

• priority right to provide places in preschool institutions;
• discount on utilities or refund of funds paid for housing and communal services through local social security authorities (the discount can be up to 30%);
• provision of free meals in general education institutions and institutions of primary and secondary education;
• the gratuitous nature of drug provision for minors under 6 years of age;
• issuing free travel documents for minors, and in some regions - for all family members;
• monthly cash payments in the amount of the subsistence level until the third child reaches 3 years of age;
• regional maternity capital at the birth of the third or fourth child;
• free education for children in art, sports, and music schools;
• free provision of textbooks and other benefits.

Attention! To find out what benefits are provided for the birth of a third child in your region, you need to contact the social protection authorities at your place of residence.

Most social support measures are implemented through these institutions, and the composition of these measures can change annually by decision of local and regional authorities.

Another important support measure will be a discount when paying taxes on a vehicle owned by one of the parents. This preference is provided by the tax authority subject to confirmation of the birth of a third child.

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Last changes

In 2018, the Government of the Russian Federation expanded the list of constituent entities of the Russian Federation receiving federal subsidies to provide monthly cash payments in the amount of the subsistence level
families with 3 or more children. Now there will be 60 such regions.

20 billion rubles of federal assistance to the budgets of the constituent entities of the Russian Federation for these purposes have already been included in the federal budget for next year.

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The arrival of a baby in a family is undoubtedly a holiday. Especially if this is your first child. But for any couple, having children entails many difficulties. Including difficulties in relationships with each other. Experienced parents who already have accumulated knowledge about raising children can say with confidence: do not be afraid of difficulties! Together you will overcome all troubles and crises, the main thing is to love your family. Your firstborn has already grown up, and soon you will need to seriously think about preparing him for school. It is at this moment that parents begin to think about a second child, because the age difference will not be so big, and you already miss caring for a newborn. A second child is already a truly deliberate step, before which the parents weighed all the pros and cons. For many couples, two children in the family is the limit. But family psychologists are often inclined to believe that if there are already two children, then a third child in the family will change little in the life of the parents. In addition, the state always supports such an initiative and pays benefits, which for 2014 are as follows.

One-time benefit for the 3rd child in the family

It is received by the child’s mother or a person acting in loco parentis, as well as caring for the newborn. For example, a guardian, relatives or an adoptive parent. The size of the one-time benefit for 2014 is 13,731 rubles. It is paid to the parent at the place of work who has provided the necessary package of documents and an application to the accounting department. The payment period is up to 10 days after all the above procedures.

Child care allowance up to one and a half years old

These are monthly payments at the place of work of the parent who has submitted an application and a package of necessary documents to the accounting department. It is calculated as follows: 40% of average income 2 years before pregnancy. The benefit can be received by guardians or relatives who actually care for the baby. The minimum amount of such benefit is 2567 rubles. 63 kopecks, maximum - 14625 rubles.

Monthly allowance for child care up to 3 years old

Payments are made at the mother’s place of work, but can also be assigned to other persons caring for the child. To receive benefits, you must submit a package of documents and an application to the accounting department.

Maternal capital

Maternity capital is provided once; if you did not use it at the birth of your first child, you may be issued a family capital certificate for subsequent children. If the second and third child are twins, the capital does not double. For 2014, its size was 429,408 rubles. 50 kopecks A man can also receive maternity capital if he is the sole adoptive parent of a child, and the court decision on adoption has already entered into force. The family receives maternity capital from the territorial branch of the Pension Fund; you must have a full package of documents with you. The circulation period for receiving capital is unlimited.

Family problems arising at the birth of a third child

The birth of a third child is a kind of test of family strength. Not everyone passes it. As a rule, most husbands “fly” with happiness in the first two or three weeks, help their spouse in everything, and try to spend more time with the newborn. But soon they get tired of it, and they begin to stay late at work, disappear from friends and find a thousand reasons to be at home less. They are annoyed by the children's crying, which has again appeared in the house, dirty diapers, baby onesies and rompers. “He doesn't need us. He doesn't come home on purpose to do nothing. “He doesn’t help with the baby at all,” this is what many young mothers think. However, you can look at the situation from the other side, look through the eyes of a man. There are several points here, and often the woman herself does everything to ensure that her husband spends less time with his family.

First of all, men are no different from children. Despite their masculinity and independence, they also need care and love. With the advent of her third child, the woman completely forgets about her husband: now there are many children in the family. Often men begin to be jealous of their spouse for their own children, especially when there are three of them. They feel useless and look for ways to forget themselves, for example, by immersing themselves in work or trying to compensate for the lack of attention by spending time in the company of friends or flirting with other women.

Secondly, they are accustomed to a measured lifestyle, and the appearance of a third child is a real stress for them. Although men are the strong half of humanity, they cannot withstand the flow of problems that fall on them and simply try to reduce them to a minimum.

Thirdly, they are used to seeing a woman well-groomed, decently dressed, cheerful and content. But due to lack of time, the spouse often forgets that she needs to wash her hair, comb her hair and put herself in order. The wife, always sleep-deprived and exhausted from caring for the children, grumbles at her husband and takes out her anger on him. Who will like it?

There is no need to think that the husband does not notice his wife’s untidiness. As you know, a man loves with his eyes. Find some time for yourself. Send your husband for a walk with the child, and do yourself a face mask and makeup, relax, let the housework wait. And stop scolding your husband over every little thing. Look within yourself for reasons. Try to understand your man. Don't forget about him, don't let him consider himself a third wheel. Involve your husband in helping with housework and caring for the newborn, then the young father will feel needed.

By listening to these simple tips, you will find family happiness; your husband will rush home and try to spend all his free time with you and the child. After all, nothing can replace the warm and tender feelings that arise in the mother-child-father triangle. And the birth of your third child will be a huge holiday for both of you.

What parents need to know when planning a second or third child

Researchers in the field of perinatal medicine cannot accurately answer one of the most popular questions: is it worth waiting several years between births and how advisable is a gap of 2-3 years? Let's take a look at brief descriptions of experts' opinions on this matter.

Some studies confirm the belief that 1.5-2 years is an ideal break for continuing childbearing. The body must gain strength before it will again provide the fetus with vital microelements. If the interval between pregnancies is less than 17 months, then there is a huge risk that the baby will be low birth weight or premature. If the child was conceived after five years from the last birth, he is also at risk.

Scientists are confident that the mother’s body requires time to recover and replenish all the nutrients it lost during the previous pregnancy. The changes that the body underwent during the last period of bearing a child will make it possible to bear another one only after 18-25 months. Blood flow to the uterus, which increased during the previous pregnancy, will have a beneficial effect on the new baby.

If you do not plan to become pregnant at all, then after two years the blood flow will return to its normal state, which was before pregnancy. Professor J. Kidwell is of the opinion that the best time to have a second child is when your eldest is either under a year old or has already turned 4. This is the best difference in terms of relationships between children, their self-esteem and relationships with parents, since children under a year have not yet ideas about themselves as a separate person, and children after 4 years of age have had enough time to enjoy parental attention, and besides, they already have their own life. Research shows that the benefits of this age difference between children extend into their teens.

Sociological experts who solve the demographic problems of the state believe that any family should grow up with at least three or four children. This is the only way to protect the nation from extinction and ensure a good trend in population growth.

The opinion of the state does not always coincide with the opinion of the family. Parents care little about the country's demographics; it is more important for them to know that all family members will be financially secure, and the psychological climate of the social unit will remain favorable.

Benefits of having a third child

The third child allows its parents to remain young longer, scientists say. Indeed, with the arrival of a third baby in the family, there is no need to think about boring old age. Parents of three or more children remain energetic and strong throughout their lives.

With birth, older children gain another friend, companion and ally. If the age difference is large enough, the first children learn responsibility, this is a very important quality. If the children are close in age, the third child drives away boredom from daily games, since three kids are already company. This is especially true for those children who do not go to kindergarten.

A third child is an opportunity to give love to another loved one. For wise parents, the fifth member of the family is not a hindrance, but a joy.

Disadvantages of having a third child

The third baby in the family means the appearance of a new expense column, usually considerable. Not everyone can handle the financial burden. Of course, the state provides some assistance to large families. But in most cases, this help is like a drop in the ocean; it is not enough for a full life.

It is much more difficult to cope with than having one child or two. Especially if the age difference is small. You need to have angelic patience and incredible stamina to manage three day after day. Many mothers with many children develop nervous tension due to this, which again affects the children.

The third child, one way or another, takes away the maximum of parental love, which is immediately felt by the older children. Jealousy, enmity and open hatred arise. Psychologists say that children need love regardless of age, and with the advent of the third baby, the amount of parental attention to older children is greatly reduced. The psychological atmosphere in the family is deteriorating.

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