At least one woman in five thought about how to get rid of her alcoholic husband. There is nothing criminal and dangerous in this matter, but only fatigue from life in such conditions. Probably, every woman, secretly from everyone, dreams of a certain fairy tale that she created in her subconscious, and the main character will be the same “prince”. What does a woman really get? Absolute hell, and instead of a beautiful guy - the husband of an alcoholic.
Alcoholism is a slow poison, it gradually kills not only organs, but also humanity in a person. In the initial stages, a person controls himself, in the morning he repents for his behavior, he is ashamed in front of his family. The last stages are characterized by an explosive, violent character, a person can go as far as beating his wife for not turning off the light.
We start with ourselves
Most men blame their wives for their alcoholism, throwing off the blame for the lack of interest in being with their beloved, sexual dissatisfaction, betrayal of the second half, or, simply, the woman stopped caring for herself, appearing every day in a greasy bathrobe with unstyled hair. Sometimes, the complaints of men are justified, so they choose the path of alcoholism, and, sometimes, betrayal.
Start with yourself, perhaps you are “cutting” your husband for poor work (a money issue) or for the fact that he pays little attention to you. If you are not working (in the absence of small children), why not find at least a part-time job, so you will help in planning the family budget, showing your husband that you also want to participate in the financial component of the family. Paying little attention? It's simple, the work takes all the strength, the man gets tired, the woman should take this into account and not annoy the tired beloved.
Appearance plays a special role in family relationships. Most often, after getting married, a woman relaxes. Cosmetics were replaced by ladles, and beautiful dresses were replaced by a simple dressing gown. A man needs to be surprised every day so that he understands how much he made the right choice throughout his life.
Sexual life is the most important part of a relationship. Not only a man, but also a woman should make a difference. Tell us about your desires, do not be afraid to seem vulgar.
Underlying Causes
The degradation of personality under the influence of alcohol occurs gradually. In the end, you just don’t recognize the person you once fell in love with, who proposed to you and on the happiest day said the cherished “yes”. In this unrestrained drunkard, you discern the features of a beloved man, but only when his blood is pure from poison.
In fact, there are many factors for the emergence of addiction, the rule applies here - how many people, so many reasons.
The most common include:
- Difficulties at work. People themselves create problems for themselves, if they are not satisfied with wages, develop. Most often, a man “wants everything at once”, but this does not happen. There are also real problems, for example, layoffs, but even in this situation one should not despair. You just have to want it and the job will appear.
- Illness of a loved one. This reason defies any explanation. The only thing is that a man is too weak to cope with the news of a relative's illness, he needs support in the person of his beloved. Receiving no help, he drowns grief in a glass.
- Weakness. In most cases, a woman makes a man like that. Suppressing him with her character, she significantly weakens his temperament.
- Family problems. We mentioned them a little higher.
- Heredity. This is one of the most insidious factors. Sometimes, the husband's parents drank superbly in their youth and passed this habit on to their son. This is very difficult to deal with. The last resort is to encode.
I fear for my life
An alcoholic is not subject to himself, he is not responsible for his actions, gradually turning into a tyrant. A woman should love herself more than her husband, she should not allow him to beat her.
It is very difficult to get away from the tyrant, the father of the family in this situation, everything is complicated by his nature. Such a person will not allow you to just pick up the children and leave the apartment, he will make every attempt to stop you, up to beating and threatening you.
As soon as you notice the inclinations of a tyrant in your husband, immediately take active measures. Don't provoke him, don't get into an argument if you want to leave quietly. You are unlikely to succeed in expelling the father of the family, so you will have to take your things out of the apartment.
Do not make abrupt attempts to leave, first think over everything. Find legal assistance, lawyers will assess your situation and sort out the situation with the property. Perhaps you need psychological support to start all this. There is nothing shameful in this, on the contrary, it characterizes you as a strong personality who is not afraid to ask for help.
The housing issue is one of the most important issues. If the apartment is designed for you, then, simply, collect the things of your tyrant husband, put them out the door and change the lock in an accelerated mode. For this period, it is better to move out too, to your parents or friends.
If the apartment is shared, then the sale and return of the share (of one's own and the child's) should be discussed with lawyers. If the husband's apartment - we collect things, we leave. Do not worry, it is better to be without your apartment, but in full confidence that no one, this evening, will beat you for an unwashed plate. In addition, after a divorce, you can file for alimony.
The next step is to tell your husband about the divorce. Ideally, it would be better if lawyers do this, or you directly, but in the company of a person (brother or father) who can protect you in the event of a dangerous situation (a tyrant in anger will not even be restrained by the presence of a child).
Further actions are completely dependent on lawyers, they will prepare the papers, you will only need to appear in court, but it is better accompanied by a brother, friend or father. Be prepared for a lot of anger and abuse from your ex. Also, it is worth preparing for the attacks of her husband's lawyers. Their psychology is simple, they will assure you that you are a bad mother and unworthy of raising a joint child.
So, the whole process comes down to six main steps:
- Make decisions and stop beating yourself up. This is probably one of the most difficult steps.
- Solving the issue of housing. In this situation, you will need legal assistance. Everything must be done carefully so that the husband does not suspect anything.
- Let your husband know. Do this when he is sober.
- Get a divorce and file for alimony.
- Change the phone number, yours and the child's. If possible, change the school in which the child is studying and his job.
- The help of a psychologist is necessary not only for you, but also for the child, especially if he also fell under the influence of a tyrant.
- To begin a new life. Remember, first of all, that you are a woman. If the husband forbade work - find something to your liking. Join a gym, change your image.
It is very difficult to leave a husband, the father of the family, and besides, a tyrant, and to expel him is not an easy task. The psychology of men, under the influence of alcohol, is primitive: something does not suit - someone is to blame, in particular, someone in the family. At home, a person makes scandals, which does not particularly affect his role as a father. The child quickly learns, considering such behavior acceptable in the family.
It can be much more difficult to leave home when there is nowhere to go. You are alone, you have no relatives, you may have recently moved. Do not be afraid to start life from scratch, rent an apartment, get a second job. To leave means to start all over again, to allow something new to appear.
It is easy to get rid of an alcoholic husband if a woman has a strong character, is financially independent, has her own living space and the support of relatives. In 90% of cases, living with an alcoholic is a forced measure, based on pity, fear, and an unresolved housing issue. According to statistics, almost 72% of the wives of alcoholics are diagnosed with neurosis, and 13 of them have a disease, they need urgent hospitalization.
Evaluate: can you still help your husband
You can successfully deal with your husband's alcoholism at the 1st stage, with the development of mental dependence. Provided that the drunk himself wants to give up the bad habit, is aware of the responsibility to the family, does not have a genetically inherited craving for alcohol.
At the 2nd and 3rd stages, when physical attachment to ethanol develops, alcohol degradation begins, quarrels with assault often break out in the family - it is impossible to save the family! In the future, the husband descends to the position of a Neanderthal with a desire to drink, eat, and have fun. Moreover, the latter can vary from collective drinking and deep amnesia to a safari for a wife and children with an ax in case of alcohol aggression.
It is not only difficult to coexist with such a husband - it is dangerous, a woman risks her health and the lives of her children. The forecasts are disappointing, according to statistics, in the capital alone, up to a hundred mutilated children are admitted to hospitals every year, falling under the arm of an alcoholic parent. Up to 90% of domestic crimes with a fatal outcome are committed while intoxicated.
In order to decide on a divorce and get rid of her drinking husband, a woman must discard pity, stereotypes imposed by society (“carry her cross”). Turn on the banal instinct of self-preservation, feel the danger, show self-centeredness, have a share of anger at the lost time of life with a drunkard, or stand up for a child. The main mistake of the wives of alcoholics is comparing his behavior in a sober life, a mental return to the pictures of a happy past during the period of love and courtship. And expecting things to get better.
It is important to understand that an alcoholic is a completely different person with irreversible mental and physiological changes. Neither affection, nor understanding, nor a kind attitude towards him will change the existing fact. A return to the former loving, caring and adequate person is impossible a priori!
How to leave an alcoholic husband
It is difficult, but it is possible, the main thing is to make a decision for yourself! The longer the doubt, the higher the likelihood of developing codependency, neurosis and the risk of a criminal end of marriage. Love for yourself, children and the desire to live a calm, fulfilling life should overcome the fear of being left alone, litigation or unwillingness to become the object of public censure and gossip.
Housing issue
The stumbling block and in 95% of cases the reason why a wife cannot leave her alcoholic husband. Although in fact you can find options, if really unbearable. More often, women regret what they have acquired and implicitly wait for the death of an alcoholic in the hope of a further quiet life with all the belongings left as an inheritance.
Judicial fact: up to 85% of all proceedings for the forced eviction of people who abuse alcohol are decided in favor of the plaintiff. Subject to substantial (documentary) evidence and in the absence of the defendant's ownership of housing.
Before starting the eviction procedure, you need to find out:
- who owns the property;
- whether there are close relatives (parents, children out of wedlock or from previous families, brothers, sisters, if the husband inherited the apartment).
An effective way to prepare for eviction is to collect signatures and complaints from neighbors about a rowdy husband, documents on bringing them to the police, appeals to the municipality, housing office. It is more difficult with a "quiet alcoholic" who does not rowdy, does not beat his wife and children, does not threaten neighbors. He drinks quietly at home, but there is a risk of falling asleep with a cigarette, leaving the gas on. There is not a single legal document that will facilitate the eviction of a quiet drunk. The reason may be a direct threat to the lives of residents of apartment buildings - in other words, wait until the drunk burns half the house.
Legal grounds for eviction:
- mismanagement of housing;
- use of housing for other purposes;
- systematic violation of the rights of neighbors and family members.
The order of eviction: they begin with conversations in private or in the presence of the district police officer. In the future, the police and the judiciary are involved. An important condition is who owns the residential premises, it is not easy to expel an alcoholic from a privatized apartment, it can take years and is possible only through a court. The wife must provide documentary evidence of her husband's mismanagement of housing, which is not easy to do, since family women themselves maintain order. It is advisable to call a sanitary and epidemiological station and record what you see. In the presence of minor children, guardianship authorities are invited. But here lies the catch, if the latter consider the child’s living with an alcoholic father to be a danger, he will be taken to an orphanage until the mother resolves the divorce case and leaves her for normal living conditions.
Any fact of violation, threats, direct physical impacts must be recorded on a camera, voice recorder, camera with the help of statements to the police. This will become irrefutable evidence in court.
It is easier to evict an alcoholic from a municipal apartment, but you will also need to go to court and help your neighbors. The basis will be (Article 83 of the LC RF):
- non-payment of housing bills (although the wife herself pays and thereby complicates her divorce);
- confirmation that he continuously drinks beer, vodka;
- lack of repair, the presence of insects, dirt;
- the presence of drinking companions.
In the case of municipal housing, the wife submits an application to the Housing Office, the police, and the district administration. It would be useful to involve the prosecutor's office and the sanitary and epidemiological station. Further, the landlord sues the tenant to collect the debt on the rent and bring the housing into proper shape. A little clarification: in order not to pay for a drunkard, there must be a separation of accounts. Failure to comply with the court decision will be the basis for the eviction of the alcoholic from the apartment.
If the alcoholic is registered, is the owner of housing or a share in a residential building, the family lives on a social lease (the owner is the municipality), going to court with his wife is practically futile. Housing purchased during marriage and jointly owned can be exchanged for the share of the wife and children.
The easiest way is to get rid of a tyrant husband and remove him from the house by force or through the court if the wife files for a divorce, is the owner of the home and has minor children. Here it is enough to throw out his things from their apartment and change the locks.
divorce case
Be sure to enlist the help of a lawyer, a lawyer, a specialist in divorce cases. For the sake of yourself, the child and the preservation of material rights, you need to prove that the husband is an alcoholic. It is possible to recognize alcohol dependence on the basis (Articles 30 and 281 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation.):
- Written testimony of neighbors (video, voice recorder).
- Medical examination and diagnosis (biochemical enzyme blood test).
The results and the conclusion of the narcologist are attached to the divorce documentation. In the last stages of alcoholism, it is possible to recognize the husband as incapacitated. In this case, the wife receives the status of a trustee and has the right to dispose of the property at her own discretion.
How to report a decision
Directly, clearly, openly, but with the help of a lawyer or lawyer. In the case of a tyrant, despot, and aggressor husband, a head-on statement increases the risk for the wife not to live to see the cherished dissolution of the marriage. In this case, it makes sense to go to relatives, rent a house, enlist physical (security) support. Just like that, an alcoholic will not give in to a free life, when the spouse solves all domestic and material problems, making his drunken existence easier.
Before receiving a court decision, it is better if the child and the woman are isolated from communication with a drunken man. It is known that the police are reluctant to respond to the call of the legal wife (they will sort it out themselves, a family matter), but they take into account the statement of the ex-wife - legally, two unmarried people are strangers.
New life
Having got rid of her alcoholic and tyrant husband, a woman becomes free, happy and financially prosperous. Forgets about neurosis, fear for children, gains peace of mind and physical health. You can’t regret what you did, worry about the drunk, help him, meet.
Psychologists advise to quit the drunk forever, erase the period of living with a tyrant from memory, cut off all ties, avoid places where you can run into an ex-husband. A new life should be filled with the desire for self-improvement, taking care of yourself and loved ones, the likelihood of meeting a more worthy person without bad habits. It is not recommended to step twice on the same rake, it is better to avoid drinking men!
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According to WHO statistics, Ukraine ranks second in the world in terms of deaths from alcoholism, and in Russia 500,000 people die from it every year.
Neighboring, and even worse - living with a person suffering from alcohol addiction - purposefully direct yourself to torment. Unfortunately, the minority have the strength and patience to do something to get rid of the violator by eviction from the house.
There are legally justified methods for evicting brawlers from an apartment, which you will learn about from our article.
You will need:
How to start the eviction process
Application to the district
If this is the first complaint against an alcoholic, then he is threatened with a verbal warning.
Administrative punishment
It occurs in case of continuation of debauchery. But we must try to talk to this person, ask him to behave calmer.
No result - continue to seek his official eviction. To do this, you will need to clarify a few facts:
- Who owns the premises.
- The apartment is municipal or privatized.
- Does the brawler have another place to live.
- Are there any relatives?
If the alcoholic has minor children, this will make the eviction process more difficult; if the apartment is in poor sanitary condition, it will make it easier.
Grounds for evicting a neighbor
You can evict a drunk neighbor only if he poses a direct threat to your health and life.
It is legally justified if:
- The rights of people who come into contact with him are constantly violated.
- Poor sanitary condition of the apartment.
- The apartment is not used for its intended purpose.
- Violation of fire regulations.
- Unsanitary living conditions.
- Non-payment of utilities (more than six months).
The procedure for evicting a neighbor from a communal apartment
For people living in a communal apartment, there is a set of rules:
- Timely payment of utility bills;
- Cleanliness and tidiness of the room;
- Common room renovation.
Most often, drunks from neighboring rooms do not perform these duties. Based on this, you must apply to:
- Police.
- Sanitary and epidemiological station (if sanitary standards are violated).
The legal basis for eviction is the failure to comply with Article 83 of the Housing Code of the Russian Federation or Article 168 of the Housing Code of Ukraine.
After submitting your application, the housing office sends a lawsuit to the court to collect the debt and eliminate the offense.
If the neighbors do not fulfill the necessary requirements, we write repeated applications. The second time, alcoholics should be kicked out.
Eviction from privatized housing
With the condition that if the apartment is privatized, it is most difficult to evict noisy neighbors.
What to do:
- Go to court and write a collective statement.
- If an alcoholic behaves aggressively, violates the silence regime, then write a statement to the district police officer or the police, call the squad.
- Invite the sanitary and epidemiological station to create an act on the state of housing.
All facts of violation should be recorded.
Tenant eviction
If the tenants live officially, a lease agreement was concluded, then you need to resort to the help of the court and the police.
- To do this, you need to collect papers confirming the facts of violation of the conditions of residence.
- After a court decision, the tenants are evicted under the supervision of the executive service.
- In the event that an official contract was not concluded, you will have to evict on your own.
Try to talk to the brawler, enlist the support of neighbors and housing office.
Is it possible to evict the rightful owner of the apartment
The legislation spells out several reasons for the forced eviction from the apartment of its owner:
- Credit debt.
- Use of space for purposes other than intended.
- Violation of the rights of people who live nearby.
It is possible to evict the rightful owner from the apartment only through the court.
- To do this, you need to collect as much evidence as possible to prove the guilt of the owner of the apartment.
- By a court decision, the owner of the apartment is evicted, and the apartment is sold.
By law, the court has no right to completely deprive a person of housing.
Eviction from rented accommodation
It is necessary to apply to the court with the requirements of termination of the lease agreement and the forced eviction of the renters.
This requires strong reasons:
- The operation of the apartment is not for its intended purpose.
- Causing damage to the premises.
- Housing debt.
How to evict an alcoholic relative
The eviction of any family member occurs through the court.
Husband's eviction
- First ;
- Forcibly evict him through the court.
Usually the court decides in favor of the wife. Especially if there are minor children.
brother's eviction
- If he does not have a share of the house that belongs to him, then file a lawsuit.
- If he is the share owner of the house, then it will not work to evict him.
Father's eviction
In the case of the father, it is worth providing strong evidence that he suffers from alcoholism, is aggressive and dangerous to you. Only then will the court rule in your favor.
Required documents
Proof
You need to provide evidence that the person suffers from alcohol addiction. For example, certificates from the dispensary, copies of protocols from the police, complaints to public utilities, conclusions of the sanitary and epidemiological station.
Statement of claim
To do this, it is worth attracting a lawyer, because it must be correctly drawn up. In addition, you need to pay a receipt and take a certificate of registration of a person who is preparing for eviction.
Take a bottle of wine or vodka (whatever your drunkard prefers) and go with it to the cemetery. When you see that they have come to bury the dead, wait until the ceremony is over and everyone leaves the churchyard. Then go to this fresh grave, put the brought bottle at your feet and say: At midnight, read over the sleeping man, who has been drinking heavily for several days, standing at his feet: Speak on the food of your drunkard. If this is a male representative, read on men's days (Monday, Tuesday, Thursday), if it is a woman, read on Wednesdays, Fridays, Saturdays: This strong lapel conspiracy from binge will only be valid if you do it on holy holiday. Place a table in the largest room in the middle and lay a white tablecloth on it, put a large mirror in the center, and three church candles in front of it. Place a bottle of water next to it, next to it - three empty glasses.
Then tie a scarf around your head and put on your darkest clothes, and take a bottle of the drinker's preferred alcoholic beverage. Read "Our Father" and then a conspiracy: Say this lapel conspiracy three times, then pour the alcoholic drink into one of the glasses. Since there are three of them, perform the ceremony three times. Then take a saucepan and mix a bottle of fresh water and these three glasses of alcohol in it. Thus, you have received a medicine to be added to the food of an alcoholic. If, after drinking it, he falls ill (the disease is similar to a cold), then everything is done correctly, and after that the patient will stop drinking. It is read at midnight at the feet of a sleeping person who is on a drinking binge. First - a prayer to the Most Holy Theotokos, and then - a lapel conspiracy: With many days of unrestrained drunkenness of a loved one, do this. Heat a new, recently bought lock on fire, having previously closed it with a key, and throw it into cold water. When the hiss starts, say: Was the castle hot? Was! Castle, are you cold? Cooled down! Slave (name), did you drink these days? Drank. So don't drink the name of Jesus Christ. Amen. After this magical operation, the castle must be buried in the ground. Take the ashes from the stove on Monday and pour it out on a pedestrian crossroads with the words: Try to unnoticed by the drinker to drain the drink from his glass or glass into one bottle. It doesn't matter how long it takes, the main thing is that the bottle is full. When this happens, close it, take it to the cemetery and quietly bury it in the corner of the common fence, saying: Only a loving woman who sincerely wants to turn her husband away from drunkenness should do this rite. Exactly at noon, you will go out into the yard, best of all in the village or in the country, read "Our Father" and the conspiracy: Read the conspiracy three times, then cross yourself. Light a church candle, put water, vodka and salt on the table and read the plot over them three times. Then, with your left hand, cross the charmed foods three times and in the following days add water to the drinker in food, salt the food with salt, and let's get drunk with vodka. Speak water (preferably spring or well) in the morning for at least seven days. Let's drink it, and also wipe the person to the waist. Go to the cemetery and find an unmarked grave there. Put three pancakes on it, kutya and put a glass of jelly. Cross yourself three times and say: After performing this ancient strong rite, the drunkard, looking at alcohol, will feel the urge to vomit.
Speak on dog excrement on different streets and in different places for 12 days in a row: Having drunk the spoken alcohol three times, the drunkard, as a rule, completely gets rid of his passion: Only one who himself has not drunk alcohol for a year before can perform this rite, otherwise, it will not bring any benefit. Ask someone for the reins without explaining why. When the drinker falls asleep, tie his legs with the reins and read the plot forty times without interruptions and stops. After that, untie the reins and return to the one from whom they took. If everything is done correctly, the alcoholic will stop drinking altogether. They tie ropes taken from the legs of the deceased to a cross in the cemetery, on the grave of a person with the same name as your drinker. Having tied the rope, they take out the bottle of wine they brought with them, pour it into a glass and read the plot, then put the glass on the grave. The rest of the wine is given to the alcoholic who is going to be cured. It’s probably hard for you to imagine that your “disease” left unfinished alcohol on the table, but still try to discreetly remove a bottle or glass from it, where there is a little vodka or wine left. On Friday, buy a lock, pour the rest into it, close it and say three times: After this, hide this lock in a place where no one will ever see it, not even you. In the place where the pig slept, collect the straw in a pile, bring a bottle of alcohol to this place and say three times: Then let him drink from this bottle. Find a rope on the road, tie the ends in the middle and put on a hot frying pan.
Wait for the rope to catch fire and say three times: Collect the ashes from the burnt rope and add nine times to the drinker in food and drink.
Thyme, collected on Ivan's Day, throw in alcohol with conspiracy words; and let it stand from Monday to Thursday, after which let the alcoholic drink. Put two piles on the table: one with vodka, the other empty. Cut live fish, carefully remove the bile. Soak your ring finger in vodka, then in bile, and do this twenty times alternately. At the same time, constantly say: Pour this vodka drop by drop into his alcohol, and gradually the craving for drinking will subside. On the road, collect goose feathers and make bouquets out of them. On an odd day, hang them on an aspen with the words: If you try hard, you can find a snake track in the sand. Put your hand on this trail and read the plot over it, immediately sweeping it with your hand. Cast a spell on wine, in which you then put wheat for three days. This wheat must be “fed to the black rooster. There are frequent cases when an alcoholic does not take alcohol at home, but “no” comes and immediately falls asleep. At the end of the section, I give four more special conspiracies that are read by the wife on the sleeping husband, who pretty much took it “on his chest”. Stand at the head of a sleeping husband with a church candle in your hand, read the prayer to the Most Holy Theotokos, then say: After reading the plot, put out the candle and go to bed. The consequences of such an action are similar to some of the previous ones: the husband should get sick in a few days (there will be signs of a cold), and after recovery in most cases, the craving for alcohol disappears.
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Family relationships do not always correspond to our dreams.
How often the chosen one becomes not at all the handsome prince that he was. There is no one to blame, and why?
A more important question arises, on the solution of which the whole future life depends: how to get rid of an alcoholic husband, a tyrant, or simply someone with whom life together is completely unthinkable ... Get rid painlessly and forever?
What are you complaining about?
Before you look for an answer to such a categorical question: how to finally get rid of your husband, take your time. Still, this decision is not easy - you take responsibility for destroying the family with your own hands.
Sit quietly, in silence, and try to gather your thoughts. What is wrong with your family? It is best if you take a regular sheet of paper and write it all down point by point. For example, a list might look like this:
- My husband does not appreciate me and does not love me.
- He drinks with friends and comes home late.
- He does not earn well, does not care about our well-being.
- My husband does not understand me, we constantly quarrel.
Such a list can be long - write. Everything that boiled up. Now carefully look at what was written, reread it.
Everywhere only “he, he, he” ... The husband is bad, does not understand, does not appreciate, does not want ... How unlucky you and your spouse are, isn’t it?
Now do another useful and very simple thing. Do not be lazy, and try to write the same thing on another sheet of paper, only now from yourself. From the position of "I".
This may seem complicated and will require you to be as sincere as possible, but do it. For example, the list might look like this:
- I miss his love and care.
- I wish my husband spent more time at home and did not drink.
- I miss the money he earns.
- I can’t manage to agree and explain my discontent to my husband.
In fact, it's the same - only more correct. From this side, you can clearly see the problem and solve it yourself.
Or not to decide, but to end the relationship - get rid of the spouse. But now you can more clearly see the causes of problems in your marriage.
If they are as described in the example, then this is simply ridiculous and not serious - such problems are solved in a maximum of six months, with a strong desire, and the family can become ideal.
Well, if the problems in your family are much more serious, and you don’t admit for a second that the family can be saved, then this is a completely different conversation.
How to end a relationship correctly and without loss?
Actually, what is stopping you from divorcing your spouse and starting to live without him? This is a simple matter, as they say, break not build.
So why don't women know how to leave their husband, and what could be the problems? The main difficulties are as follows:
- Fear.
- Not sure if this is the right decision.
- Nowhere to go, or nothing to live on.
- Sorry for him.
- It is necessary to leave, but love keeps.
Let's try to understand separately in each of these difficult cases.
I'm afraid to leave!
This is a particularly common case. Fear of who knows what - his anger, condemnation of family and friends, fear of a new life, and simply - fear of doing a big and responsible act.
But most often women who live with husbands who are tyrants, aggressors and offenders are afraid to leave. It is these victims who live in terrible fear and cannot leave.
If this is about you, and you don’t think about how to get rid of the tyrant’s husband, then you need to act immediately and without hesitation. Remember one thing - he will not do anything to you!
As a rule, domestic tyrants who offend weak women are, in fact, lacking initiative and weak cowards and are afraid of everything in the world. Contact a special service that helps victims of domestic violence, talk to a psychologist - there are a lot of psychological support services completely free!
Warn him that you will complain to the police or social services if he bothers you. Such men are usually used to the wife walking on tiptoe, and if you show strength, he will be frightened and retreat. And if not, complain, do not forgive the offender.
And leave now! Doesn't give a divorce? Go to court. Don't want to vacate your home? The same action. Remember, all your reasons to stay are just excuses and fear!
If you have nowhere to live - temporarily live with your mother or girlfriend, for sure someone will shelter you. And during this time, resolve the issue of the eviction of the tyrant.
In the end, turn to the strong for help - to male friends, to the law. If you continue to be afraid, you will be left with nothing.
And again, the same advice - use the help of a specialist in these matters, they will instill confidence in you and help you get rid of obsessive fear. They will also tell you what you are legally entitled to.
Only I'm not sure...
And what does this mean? Most likely, the decision was made wrong! That's the whole answer.
If you are not sure whether to stay or leave - believe me, it is better to save the family. Of course, it's harder than leaving - but it's worth it.
Better ask yourself how to do it. What exactly are the problems and how to solve them? There is always a solution. Do you want to keep the union? Then everything is in your hands.
Where should I go?
If the reasons for parting with your husband are very weighty, but you do not get away from the fact that you have nowhere to go, then this trouble can always be resolved.
In the end, the apartment can stay with you. If, for some significant legal reason, this is not possible, go to relatives or friends for the time being.
Let it be very unpleasant, embarrassing, uncomfortable ... But you have made a decision, haven't you? Look for affordable rental housing and figure out how to make more money.
Now you are that same free woman - and this only means from now on to fully provide for yourself (and children, if any), you have to do it yourself. So stop whining and learn how to make money, you will need it.
By the way, this is much more reasonable than immediately frantically looking for a new husband as a source of income - this idea is doomed in advance. When the time comes, a worthy and decent man will be found. If you look, you will find a second one the same as the former, or even worse. And the problem will repeat itself.
He's so sorry...
Often this refers to men who drink, are not independent, those who themselves will disappear. And the question of how to get rid of an alcoholic husband is especially acute. He is so all native, who will look after him, not a single woman needs him ...
But you're not a babysitter! Don't want to leave? Stay and look for a way to wean him from drinking and turn him back into a man.
Pity and love are such incompatible things! If you are determined to leave forever - do it.
Still, I love it.
But the last case is exotic. If you love, why give up? Here jokes about female logic cease to be jokes.
Problems are problems, but love is truly the greatest value, and if it exists, then everything can be saved! You are a woman, which means you can do anything. Save the family, it's in your power ...
Magic Help!
Folk remedies can help in such situations. Our great-grandmothers knew how to get rid of a man, and how, on the contrary, to save a family. Read the conspiracy - and you're done! You can do it too.
If your husband drinks or offends you, try witchcraft. Read a conspiracy against drunkenness or violence on water or food, cook food for your husband with love - and be surprised at the result.
The plot that you write yourself has a special magical power. After all, the power of the word is enormous, and even more so when combined with your energy.
These same remedies can help to forget him, and not suffer about the loss. Indeed, often we do not know how to get rid of an ex-husband, with whom relations have already been broken, but we can’t forget him.
If your heart is out of place - prayer, conspiracy, or even better meditation - are your helpers. Ask the Higher Forces for help, mentally ask for forgiveness from your husband for everything, everything that has been done, and forgive him.
Forgiveness first!
Forgiveness is more powerful than any magic, and not a single conspiracy can be compared with this ritual. But this must be done for real, from the heart. It may not work at first - try again.
When the ritual succeeds, you will feel it. Magic and the power of thought is a powerful thing. If you sincerely ask for forgiveness and forgive your husband, then even his heart will calm down, and he will leave you alone.
A conspiracy or ritual, meditation or prayer will help you with this. After all, a mental return to conflicts, constant dialogues with your husband in your thoughts take away your strength and destroy your energy and health.
If you decide to get rid of your husband, you will have to do it for real. Forever and without regrets.
And what is most difficult is to learn to remember him only with warmth and gratitude, never speak negatively about him and not regret all the days spent together. After all, this person made you happy, didn't it?
And the most important advice
Vanga's conspiracy from her husband's drunkenness and getting rid of alcoholism
VANGA'S CONSPIRACY FROM HUSBAND'S DRUNKNESS AND RELEASE HIM FROM ALCOHOLISM
Vanga taught how to wean her husband from alcohol without his consent, telling a conspiracy from alcoholism that needs to be read every day in the photo of her drinking husband. After conducting this rite, you can once and for all wean your husband from drunkenness without his knowledge. Vanga's conspiracy against drunkenness is done on a photo of her husband, holy water and 3 yellow wax church candles. At home, where an alcoholic person lives at sunset, light all 3 candles by setting them on a saucer in the middle of the table. Put a photo of your husband on the table and sprinkle it with previously prepared holy water and put a glass on your husband’s photo, say the text of the conspiracy:
A goat will not give birth to a stone,
The stone does not give wool,
Wool doesn't grow on rocks
And the servant of God (name) does not take drunkenness in his mouth.
In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit.
Now and forever and forever and ever. Amen
Make the husband drink the water that was spoken for weaning from alcohol. As soon as this happens, the conspiracy from the drunkenness of the husband will begin to act.
This is a very old and effective rite of excommunication from alcohol. After it is carried out, any person suffering from alcoholism and craving for alcohol will stop drinking hard liquor and quickly get out of hard drinking. A conspiracy from alcoholism is read during a booze, for this they quietly take a glass that has not been drunk from an alcoholic person and pour vodka into a village toilet with a cesspool while saying the words
Conspiracies and prayers help to cure alcoholism in a person and bring him out of a long binge. The icon "The Inexhaustible Chalice" proved to be especially good in the treatment of alcohol addiction and drunkenness. Even the church recognizes a person's alcoholism as a demonic influence on his will. If there is no icon, print it from the Internet or buy it in the church, where you also need to purchase a church candle. Before reading a conspiracy from alcoholism, cook any jelly, light a candle near the icon of the Mother of God "Inexhaustible Chalice" and put a glass of hot jelly. Before the conspiracy, you need to read the Our Father prayer three times, and after it, the conspiracy itself, healing from alcoholism and
If you urgently need to discourage a person from alcohol, read the old conspiracy for alcohol after drinking which the drunkard will stop drinking once and for all and every time he takes up alcohol he will be strongly “turned out”. A strong conspiracy against drunkenness and alcohol addiction is read only once and strictly at midnight on the full moon. Effective conspiracies from drunkenness and alcoholism are read in cases where persuasion and threats do not work, and in order to save the family, the wife or mother, in secret from an alcoholic, independently read this strong conspiracy for any alcohol that is given to an alcoholic person. At midnight on a full moon, leave your home and walk to the nearest crossroads or
There is one good prayer to the holy martyr Boniface of Tarsus, healing from drunkenness and severe alcohol addiction and even drug addiction. Like all prayers, a prayer for drunkenness is read in front of the icon of St. martyr Boniface, and here is its text: O holy passion-bearer of Christ, warrior of the King of Heaven, despising earthly voluptuousness And ascended by suffering to the Jerusalem of Heaven, martyr Boniface! Hear me a sinner, bringing prayer singing from the heart, And beg our Lord Jesus Christ to forgive all my sins, In knowledge and in ignorance by me
To wean a husband or son from alcoholism and completely get rid of drunkenness will help a strong prayer that needs to be read in front of the Inexhaustible Chalice icon. Already after the first reading of the prayer, the man for whom they prayed will have reduced alcohol dependence and the craving for drunkenness and alcohol will disappear, of course, he will not immediately stop drinking or get out of hard drinking. To obtain such a result, it is necessary that the inexhaustible cup of drunkenness be read daily for 33 days. A prayer that relieves drunkenness can be read by both a mother on her son who needs to be cured of alcoholism, and a wife on a drinking husband. What is good about the prayer from drunkenness to the Mother of God "inexhaustible cup", this is an opportunity
This old Vanga conspiracy to discourage alcohol and remove alcohol addiction will quickly help a person stop drinking alcohol while drinking, causing a strong disgust for alcohol. A strong conspiracy to get rid of alcoholism is read on the water that you need to give the drunkard to drink. As soon as an alcoholic who is addicted to alcohol drinks the water conspired from drunkenness, the conspiracy will immediately begin to act and as a result of this the person will begin to experience a strong aversion to any alcohol, even the smell and taste of beer will seem disgusting to him. You need to read a conspiracy from drunkenness on illuminated water on the 19th of any month by placing a jar of holy water next to the icon of the Savior on
A conspiracy read on water on the day of Ilya the Prophet (Perun's Day) will save a person from alcohol addiction and quickly get him out of hard drinking. On the same day, 2 big holidays are celebrated: the day of Elijah the Prophet and Perunov's day, and it is on this day that the water charmed from drunkenness has tremendous magical power and is able, with the help of magic, to make a person stop drinking alcohol and never again feel cravings for it. A strong Old Slavonic conspiracy against drunkenness should be read on Elijah the Prophet, taking a glass of clean water. Having finished reading the conspiracy from alcoholism, you need to make sure that a person suffering from a craving for alcohol drinks all the charmed water. Take a glass of water and barely audible
Against drunkenness, conspiracies from alcoholism are considered the most effective. If your son, husband or other loved one has been overtaken by the disease of alcoholism, do the following rite on your own, which is directed against alcohol addiction and heavy drinking. During the ceremony, the mother or wife should read the strongest conspiracy for water and blood for her monthly blood, which is used against drunkenness and is able to almost instantly relieve a person from craving for alcohol. How to make a slander on water and blood and what kind of conspiracy will help save a person from alcoholism and constant drunkenness. When you start your period, stain a rag with them. Next, you need to rinse it in the pelvis
With the help of the magic of prayer, to make a person stop drinking and completely get rid of alcohol addiction once and for all, do the following. Take a check and after reading a prayer on it, the words of which will later go to church with alcohol to defend the service there. In the same church, order a magpie for the health of a person from whom you need to remove cravings for alcohol. The words of the conspiracy of the prayer that delivers from
A conspiracy from binge is read into the water that is given to a person suffering from alcoholism. After drinking the water conspired against binge, a person who does not stop drinking for several days will feel disgust for alcohol and will voluntarily come out of the binge. Conspiracies will now tell about how to get a person out of a long binge with the help of magic and prayer. Pour cold water into a mug, throwing a small piece of ice into the water, read the conspiracy to cool off
The conspiracy will help to independently cure a person from drunkenness and alcoholism. Read a plot for any alcohol: beer, vodka or wine is needed in the cemetery. Take a bottle of alcohol and find a grave in the cemetery with the name of a patient with alcoholism, pour him a glass from the brought bottle and putting it on the grave ground (next to the grave mound) say a strong conspiracy from the bitter
Is it possible to defeat alcoholism on your own and get rid of alcohol addiction forever - YES, IT IS POSSIBLE and Maginya will be happy to share my story of how I was able to cure my husband's drunkenness in an accessible way - with the help of white magic, namely prayer from alcoholism and faith in a necessarily good result. I think many of you have heard about the miraculous prayer before the icon "Inexhaustible Chalice" which helps people get rid of alcoholism and expel "alcoholic spirits" from themselves.
Magic will help to cure alcoholism on your own, namely, church magic will help you quickly stop drinking. A person who has decided on a ritual from drunkenness in order to stop drinking once and for all needs to serve a prayer service to Jesus Christ, the Mother of God, the healer Panteleimon and the martyr Boniface with blessing of water in the church. Store the resulting consecrated water in a closed jar and dilute the charmed water 1: 1 with holy water to drink a glass every morning on an empty stomach. For a full home treatment of alcohol addiction with the help of church magic, you need to serve at least 3 prayers in the church to get rid of drunkenness, performing the following as soon as the water is well-read from drunkenness
A strong conspiracy against drunkenness will help to get out of the binge any person who is at a distance from you. Conspiracies against alcoholism made on a new padlock are considered effective against drunkenness. It is this ancient and effective method of self-removal from heavy drinking at home that has been helping wives and mothers for centuries! To conduct a conspiracy, buy a new padlock, when you come home, close it with a key. To make a conspiracy to get out of binge, heat the key on fire and throw it into cold water prepared in advance. As soon as he hisses, quickly say a conspiracy against
A strong conspiracy on ice will cool the craving for drunkenness and, as a result of turning away from alcoholism made on ice, a charmed person, taking a glass, will experience a strong aversion to alcohol. You can read a plot on ice for three months in a row on a waning moon. Put an ice floe or icicle in a cup on the windowsill so that it melts overnight and sees the moon. Getting up early in the morning at sunrise, when the ice icicle melts onto the resulting melt water, read three times within seven days (weeks) a conspiracy that gets rid of
How to kick a husband out of the house if he does not leave: prayer and conspiracy
To get your husband out of the house, test the power of a magical conspiracy and Orthodox prayer on him. He will leave when the energy of cold settles between you.
A real man will leave on his own if his beloved woman kicks him out.
But the annoying and whining spouse needs prayer and conspiracy working off.
Going to the police is stupid, hitting the face is fraught and rude.
If all relationships are already “outside the house”, create a simple ritual.
one). Expulsion of the husband from the house by Orthodox prayer.
Miracle worker Nikolai, drive away my husband, who has become a stranger, who has lost all his love. Let him leave the house, disappear from the threshold, someone else's road will be the tablecloth. Amen.
You expel your husband by reading prayer lines 7 times in a row. within 7 days.
At the same time, try to feed him everything salted.
2). How to drive a husband out of the house with a magical conspiracy.
At any time when the spouse is not around, read the plot for a cooked dinner.
Get the hell out of the house, I don't know you anymore. You are not my husband, but bitter torment, hands will not touch the bodies. As soon as you come to the threshold, you will be exhausted, you will turn away from me forever. You will leave home at dawn, neither squabbles nor children will hold you back. Amen! Amen! Amen!
You read a magical plot exactly 13 times in a row.
Daily, about a week.
You will drive your husband out of the house if his departure is due to your firm intention.
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How to get rid of drunkenness of a loved one?
Traditionally, conspiracies and prayers are used in folk medicine to treat a wide variety of diseases. They are very effective in the case when your main enemy is alcoholism.
A strong conspiracy against drunkenness will help free a husband, son or other loved one from one of the most destructive addictions. After all, this disease makes suffering not only the patient himself, but also causes a lot of inconvenience to all the people around him.
Features of rituals of this type
Alcoholism is rightly considered one of the most terrible diseases of modern society. A person not only feels bad, he cannot build normal relationships with others and realize himself in family life or work. And quite often the patient himself will not be able to cope with this problem.
That is why, if such a problem has overtaken your son, husband or other loved one, then doing a rite of aversion from alcohol or performing a ritual so that the patient stops drinking is the best solution, the consequences of which will help improve the life of not just one person, but the whole family.
Conspiracies from alcoholism, like any other magical rites, have a number of features when performed:
- rituals against drunkenness must be performed on certain days.
If getting rid of an addiction is carried out with respect to a man, then slander should be read on men's days - Monday, Tuesday, Thursday. If conspiracies from binge need to be done regarding a woman, then it is best to give preference to Saturday, Friday or Wednesday.
Therefore, it is best to do the rites of the Siberian healer, the rituals of Vanga and other prayers for the treatment of alcoholism in these lunar phases.
You should not experiment with healing magic and try out of curiosity, so that the consequences of these rituals are not the opposite.
If you plan to carry out treatment and remove dependence from a person who does not want to recover, then he also should not know about the upcoming ceremony. And even when a person stops drinking, one should not tell him and others about the performed ritual. Keep everything a secret.
Following these simple rules for performing rituals from alcoholism, you can wean your son, husband or other relative from using alcoholic beverages and do a good deed not only for the patient, but for his entire family.
Ritual with a picture
A lot of conspiracies from alcohol involve the use of a photograph of the patient. Naturally, if a ceremony is being done for your son or husband, then finding a photo is not difficult. To complete this conspiracy of the Siberian healer, you will need a picture of the patient, three church candles and holy water. During the waning month, light the candles at sunset and place them in a row on the table.
Put a photo of the patient in front of you and sprinkle the picture with holy water with the words:
“Lord Holy God, help me!
I want to remove dependence from the servant of God (name),
To make a conspiracy from drunkenness,
Wean him to drink, win him back from alcohol.
So that nasty vodka does not go down his throat,
So that he runs away from her like a demon,
So that nothing would suit him except water-vodka!
My word is strong and powerful, my word is the law for the servant of God (name).
You need to repeat the words of the prayer against this addiction three times, after which the photo must be removed to an inaccessible place. Rites against alcoholism begin their action almost immediately after execution.
However, like other healing rituals, they require repetition. If in a month the situation does not improve, then the ritual is best done again, and you need to use the old photo again.
Ritual for water
The magical treatment of alcoholism may involve the use of ordinary water, which will need to be spoken with prayers. It is best to use not tap water, but well or spring water. If this is not possible, but tap water must be insisted in a dark place for seven days, after which it can be used for the ceremony.
The prayer of the Siberian healer is read on the prepared water:
“As Jesus Christ did not know and did not know alcohol,
As the Holy Mother of God and all the apostles did not drink booze,
So that the servant of God (name) does not drink and does not drink.
I could drink spring water, clean and cold,
But I didn’t drink vodka and wine, I didn’t know!
Treating close relatives, husband or son in this way is considered very effective. After reading the conspiracy from drunkenness, water should be given to the patient to drink. You can make tea or coffee from this water. It is very important to make sure that a person drinks it completely.
Soap ritual
In the fight against alcoholism, they often resort to using the ritual of the famous Bulgarian fortune teller and healer Vanga. This ritual will help to wean your loved one to drink and save him from alcoholism. To perform the ceremony, you will need a bar of soap, which will then be used to wash your hands.
On the new soap, read the words of Vanga's prayer:
“Oh, don’t drink to you, servant of God (name),
Do not walk in a frenzy, do not wander drunk.
How do you wash your hands
So I forgot my addiction.
So that every time a bad thought comes to you,
You forgot it, you hated vodka!
You need to repeat the words of the prayer nine times. When the soap is spoken, leave it near the washbasin so that the sick person will wash their hands with it every time.
This conspiracy from drinking is quite strong, but if the situation does not improve, then repeat the words of the spell in two weeks on the same soap, if it is not completely used.
If it is over, use a new piece.
Ritual on a towel
If your husband suffers from alcoholism, then you can solve the problem using an alcohol conspiracy on a towel.
“I’m talking about a new towel, clean and beautiful!
So that, like a towel with this servant of God, he wiped his hands,
And so he went to a new life!
Without alcohol and other bad addictions,
With pure thoughts and intentions!”
When the towel is spoken, make the man wipe his hands with it and immediately put it away. No one but him should touch this thing. When you remove the towel, tie it in a knot with the words:
“It will be so, but not otherwise!”
You need to store the charmed towel in a secret place and in no case never untie the knot.
Healing magic is very popular in modern society: various diseases and ailments can be overcome with a simple conspiracy, and treatment does not involve the use of any medications.
Conspiracies from drunkenness make up a large group of rituals and are very effective in the fight against this scourge. Using simple components, such as water, candles, wax, soap, you can wean a loved one from drinking alcohol. Some ceremonies may require the use of photography.
and if the moon has waned this week, when can I do it again next time?
and if the moon has waned this week, when can you do it again next time for the same soap?
Hello. You can repeat the ceremony on the next waning moon. Soap is better to use new.
consider it was written in 2 weeks if there is no effect, well, the moon phase ends, and how then?
Or can it be done in a different way? and when is the next waning moon?
when will the next decreasing one be?
Good afternoon. The moon will begin to wane in September from the 29th.
This month, can you take a picture of a man on the 28th?
Thanks for the wound!
Hello. It is better to do the ceremony on the 29th!
when the moon is waning?
Good afternoon. The moon will begin to wane on the 29th of this month, then it will be possible to perform a ceremony to get rid of addiction.
Hello, please help me to discourage my husband from drinking, I’m unlikely to succeed in my desire and I also need a gift, well, I’m so tired of his drinking that I have no more strength!
Hello. If you do everything in accordance with the instructions for the waning month, then everything will definitely work out. And, of course, faith is important.
Thanks, I'll definitely try it! But I have such a feature of eating that I blurt out the bad, everything will definitely come true, right word for word, but the good doesn’t work out, for some time now I’ve been keeping my mouth shut! I have already tried to fight drunkenness with conspiracies, if honestly nothing happened! Maybe this time it will work!
what else can be done? wanes when the moon?
And if the photograph was torn, and then glued together, can a ceremony be performed using such a photograph?
And what time is the ceremony?
Hello. It is better to choose a whole photo, a torn one will not work. If the ceremony does not specify a time, then it can be performed at any time convenient for you.
if a person does not help, then what to do?
Good afternoon. If the first time did not help, then you need to repeat.
Last month I did a ritual for water. My husband continues to drink. Is it possible to do another rite this month, or repeat this one. Thanks!
Good afternoon. It is better to repeat the ceremony already done this month.
Can only the baptized perform the ceremony? And when is the full moon?
Hello. The rite can be performed by any people, the full moon is on the 28th.
Hello. Please tell me what the strange behavior of my husband can mean. He periodically leaves home and lives with a friend for several days. He does not answer calls and SMS. A few days later he comes and says that he does not know what is happening to him and why he He does it. He says that he just lives with a friend and drinks there. It used to be less often than now. Now it happens at least once a week. He just doesn’t come from work and disappears for several days. And when he comes, he begs for forgiveness and says he loves.
Good afternoon. This may indicate that you and your husband are having problems. Maybe it's not just the alcohol, but the fact that you don't have love in the relationship.
It's just that his ex-wife said that we would never be together and we would not have children. After these words, it all started. I began to feel very bad. .A at the husband changes nothing.
Good afternoon. Well then, do the same ceremony for your husband. Maybe it will help him too.
Hello, in the plot for soap at the end it is written: “….. I hated vodka. My husband is addicted to beer, should I say the word “vodka” like that or replace it with the word “beer”? This rite can be done at any time of the day on a waning moon.
Good afternoon. The word "vodka" in the ritual refers to various alcoholic beverages, so it does not need to be replaced!
Thank you, the rite does not say that it should be done at midnight, it turns out that from the 29th day it can be done during the day? And if other members of the family wash their faces with this soap, is it not scary?
Good afternoon. Yes, after the 29th, you can do this type of ceremony. It is best if you manage to limit the use of soap only to the person to whom the rite is directed. That way he gets stronger.
Hello. Please tell me, in the rite with candles and holy water, after reading the conspiracy, do you need to blow out the candles or should they burn out to the end?
Hello. After completing the rite, the candles can be extinguished and removed.
Where to put away the towel? Is it necessary to hide in the house? What if he finds it?
Candles after the ceremony in the photo be extinguished or let them burn out to the end?
I understood everything, read it in the previous answer, you can put it out and clean it up!
Hello, yesterday I did the ritual in the photo, but alas, yesterday I started drinking and it still doesn’t dry out, what should I do?
Good afternoon! And next week, can I perform a ceremony on a photo or water? Thank you!
Hello. can you do a ritual for water with the sacred water that I collected on January 19 at the Krishchen frosts?
Hello when can I do the ceremony in October
Hello!! WE VERY ASK YOU TO WRITE ACTIVE, EFFECTIVE SPELLS, SPELLS about DELIVERY from GAMBLING, except for the presence of a grave, soil, except for a cemetery rite
WITHOUT SIDE EFFECTS!
Hello! I would like to know if it is possible to use used soap for a conspiracy?
I read all the comments and realized that all these conspiracies are bullshit. My husband has been drinking for many years. What I just didn’t try, alas ... For 6 years now he has not been in this world .... The body could not stand it .. And you say CONSPIRACIES ... I don’t believe in all this, sorry, really.
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Alcohol addiction is a huge problem in the modern world. This chronic disease affects not only the person himself, but also, first of all, the family and loved ones. What is it like living with an alcoholic husband? Where did the person who once fell in love and with whom they created a family disappear? Now, instead of an attentive spouse, a degrading creature, sometimes aggressive and completely insane, is waiting at home every day.
What to do in this case? Trying to fight for the family and do your best to heal the person? But alcohol addiction, especially in the last stages, completely destroys a person, and in some cases, the only way out is to part with an alcoholic husband. But how to do it correctly and with less losses?
Sometimes leaving a drinking spouse is the only acceptable chance to start a new life.
Narcologists distinguish three stages of alcohol addiction and the previous period, called the "prodrome". With a prodrome, a person is not yet considered an alcoholic, but he drinks constantly and is at risk. Being in this state, a person rarely drinks alcohol alone, preferring to drink in companies.
In the prodromal stage, a person can easily give up alcohol on his own and fully restore health. There is no significant craving for alcohol yet.
First stage
At the initial stage of the development of alcoholism, a person is constantly accompanied by a growing desire to drink alcohol. Such a need is similar to the feeling of hunger or thirst. It is sharply aggravated as a result of negative moments: experiences, quarrels, problems, fatigue. The first stage of alcohol addiction has the following features:
- manifestations of aggressiveness;
- while minor memory lapses;
- irritability and mood swings;
- drop in the gag reflex, habitual in the prodromal stage.
The patient uses alcohol on an irregular basis. But periods of sobriety can suddenly change into drunken states that last up to a week. Significantly reduced self-criticism. A person always finds an excuse for addiction and does not consider himself sick.
Stages of development of alcoholism
Second stage
At the moment, there is a rapid development of the disease, the volume of alcohol taken increases sharply. Moreover, the ability to control the dose disappears after the first glass taken. This time is characterized by the appearance of withdrawal syndrome. and.
Withdrawal syndrome is a condition accompanied by somatic disorders. It arises against the background of refusal for any reason from alcohol, which has already become a physiological norm of life.
Withdrawal visits a person, bringing with it the following symptoms:
- jumps in blood pressure;
- tachycardia;
- general weakness;
- sleep problems;
- tremor of the limbs;
- profuse vomiting and nausea.
At this stage, a person may develop delirium tremens. This condition is also called “alcoholic delirium” or “metal-alcohol psychosis”. The syndrome appears against the background of the cessation of drunkenness and is accompanied by acute nervous breakdowns, aggressive manifestations, hallucinations and delirium.
Third stage
This is the time of a powerful decrease in the body's tolerance to ethyl alcohol. Now, in order to achieve the desired condition and get the necessary intoxication, only 1-2 glasses are already enough for a person. With further drinking of alcohol, the strength of intoxication no longer increases, despite the fact that the concentration of alcohol in the blood increases.
Alcoholism completely destroys the whole personality of a person.
The third stage is characterized by uncontrolled and powerful cravings for alcohol. The patient now drinks constantly, the duration of drunken states increases. Alcoholic delirium becomes a frequent companion. There is a pronounced degradation of the personality and against the background of deteriorating health. Alcohol metabolites have already affected all internal organs.
What are the forecasts
A woman suffering from family life with an alcoholic husband is always primarily interested in the question of whether alcoholism can be cured. The prognosis of therapy depends entirely on the duration and amount of alcohol regularly consumed. In particular:
- In the first stage of the disease, the chances of a full recovery are quite high. But at this stage, alcoholics do not consider themselves ill, so it is very difficult to persuade them into treatment.
- The second and third stages of dependence give poorer forecasts. With a complete rejection of alcohol and competent therapy, remission occurs in only 15-20%. These figures increase in the presence of a persistent desire of the person himself to be cured.
The life expectancy of a patient with alcohol addiction is 15-20 years less compared to a non-drinker. More often, the causes of death of addicts are complications caused by a chronic disease and the development of diseases in connection with drunkenness:
- stroke and heart attack;
- alcoholic delirium;
- cirrhosis and hepatosis of the liver;
- heart failure.
Accidents and suicide attempts are a common cause of death for alcohol addicts. It is in this category of citizens that the highest increase in disability is observed. Patients become disabled due to various pathologies caused by alcoholism.
What to do to the wife
It is extremely difficult to watch how the once beloved husband gradually degrades, completely dissolving in the abyss of a drunken world. And, of course, a woman needs to make every effort to still try to save her family and pull her husband out of the pool.
Consequences of alcoholism
Remember that the treatment of alcoholism is a long and difficult process. The specifics of treatment depends on the degree of the disease and the state of health of the person. The difficulty lies in the difficulty of persuading the patient himself to therapy.
And sometimes a woman is faced with a choice: to leave her alcoholic husband or spend her last nerves on sometimes fruitless attempts to return a person to a sober life. And no matter how bitter it is not to realize it, sometimes the only way out of this situation is to divorce a drunkard.
The most important thing is to come to such a decision on your own and discard the last doubts about the correctness of the conclusion. What can stop?
A pity? Yes, once this man was loved and adored. But only he did not take advantage of the chance for happiness and ruined his own life, while simultaneously killing his wife’s nerves / psyche. After all, despite all the arguments, persuasion, requests, he does not stop drinking. Does such a person need pity?
In such a situation, you should feel sorry for yourself, your gloomy joint future. Is a husband who has lost his human appearance able to give happiness to his wife, set a good example for children, what will he teach them? An early introduction to the bottle?
Losing a father for a child? By the way, this is one of the common reasons why a woman continues to endure her husband's drunken antics. But this is the greatest self-deception, based on the unwillingness to change something in the usual and very sad life with an alcoholic. An alcohol addict is not capable of becoming a real, good father. Moreover, the likelihood of stress and mental disorders in a little man is high, when he constantly sees his dad drunk and insane.
You should not continue to injure the child. The most reasonable thing for his future is to get away from the drunkard and start living anew. And the father, if he really wants to be a dad, will be able to visit the baby, of course, only when sober.
How to leave an alcoholic husband and start a new life
It is not difficult to make such a decision, it will be much more difficult to implement it in practice. Especially if a man is a long-term and chronic alcoholic with a violent temper. The unpredictable nature of a tyrant will not allow you to part quietly and peacefully. Such a person will make all existing attempts to stop his wife, up to a scandal with assault.
If alcoholism is not cured, then over time, drunkenness will take a dominant position in a man’s life.
So how to get rid of an alcoholic husband forever and do it painlessly? First of all, you should arm yourself with patience. You can not provoke scandals, unleash disputes. And you should not make sudden attempts to leave suddenly, before you should think everything over carefully.
Assistance of a divorce lawyer
In order not to lose anything during a divorce, you should arm yourself with the qualified assistance of a lawyer or divorce lawyer. For the sake of the interests of the child and in order not to lose material rights, it is worth proving in court that the husband is an alcoholic. You can recognize a person as a patient with alcohol addiction in the following ways:
- Collect evidence from neighbors about the constant appearances of a spouse in a drunken state.
- Request a medical examination to establish a diagnosis. Alcohol dependence is confirmed by a biochemical enzymatic blood test. The results of the research become an official document that fixes the fact of addiction. A certificate of present alcoholism is issued by a narcologist.
By the way, if the patient is recognized as incapacitated (this usually happens in the last stages of alcoholism), he loses the opportunity to dispose of all property. And he can make any transactions only with the permission of the appointed trustee.
The norms on carrying out measures on the fact of recognizing a person as alcoholic and incompetent are regulated by Articles 30 and 281 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation.
Housing issue
The problem with housing becomes one of the most important issues when trying to part with a drinking spouse. How to kick an alcoholic husband out of the house if he does not leave, professional help from lawyers can also help in this matter.
- If the housing is designed entirely on the spouse, then you can easily collect the things of a drunkard and put them out the door. At the same time, you should urgently change all the locks and live in another place for a while (with relatives or friends / girlfriends).
- But in the case when the apartment or house is in common ownership, it is better to consult with experienced lawyers. The ideal solution would be the sale and subsequent purchase of a new living space (taking into account the legal share of not only your own, but also your children).
Lawyers will also help you deal with the issue of paying further alimony. According to the current legislation, during a divorce, a man (even one deprived of parental rights) is obliged to deduct 25% (per child) of all his income.
Features of a family in which there is an alcoholic
How to tell your spouse about the decision
It would be better if he is notified of the decision by the same lawyer or lawyers. If the spouse decides to do it personally, you should not have a conversation without arming yourself with the support of one of the male relatives (father, brother, uncle). An alcoholic is completely unpredictable in his reactions, and such a meeting, and even with such a statement, can end sadly.
Conclusion
So, the whole process of parting with an alcohol addict can be reduced to seven basic steps. They are in the following points:
- Make the final and irrevocable decision to quit the alcoholic and live a new, calm life.
- Decide on housing. Here it is better to get competent help from lawyers or lawyers. Try to do all this carefully, without informing the drinking spouse yet.
- As soon as the preliminary questions are resolved and competent consultations are received, you can tell your husband about your decision. Arm yourself with the support of relatives, wait until the spouse is in a sober and more adequate state and explain the current situation to him.
- Execute and complete the divorce proceedings and settle the case with alimony.
- Try to lose all contact with the drinking person. We will have to change all phone numbers, if necessary, change the place of residence, school and kindergarten for the child. Sometimes you even have to change jobs.
- Seek help from a psychologist, if possible, find like-minded women, women who have already gone through this difficult period. Now any help and support is very much needed and appreciated.
- Start living again. Be sure to remember your feminine attractiveness, take care of yourself, figure, clothes. Find a new and interesting activity, passion, hobby.
A new time in life begins, a time where there is no, and there will be no more drunken scandals, tears, pain. You can’t be afraid to start something new, this is a mistake that you just need to learn from in order to prevent this from happening in the future. And remember that starting all over again, a person discovers the possibility of a new life, happy and successful.
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