There was a time when I could not sleep for hours. A random incident, an unfortunate event, a conversation that ended in a wrong way (as I would have liked) unsettled me for a long time. Obsession in thoughts and constant digestion of what was, reliably sucked in my attention and deprived me of my vital energy. In the morning I felt not vigorous and sleepy, but mortally tired and overwhelmed.

I realized that I was simply being in a negative “emotional cocoon” into which, to be completely honest, I immersed myself. In the end, no one made me experience unpleasant and difficult experiences. I did it myself. Albeit unconsciously.

So I started looking for a way out.

A static system is most vulnerable

The main discovery lay on the surface.

We are not so much slaves to our own addictions and habits as slaves to stability. The older we get, the less we want something to really change in life. Especially it didn't change the way we want it. We crave stability and peace. Firmness and immutability. The inviolability of the established order of life. To always be constantly good, blissful and curly.

But it doesn't work that way.

The world around us does not exist according to the laws that we invent for it. The world around us exists according to the laws of dialectics. And dialectics provides for the constancy and invariability of only one thing - conflicts and contradictions.

An attempt to escape from conflict is an attempt to escape from reality or escapism. Reality will still impose them on you, but not on yours, but on your own field. I understood in my own skin what it is to be silent, when you need to say, what it is to push yourself away from problems, when you need to solve them, what it is to sit and blink when you need to act. As a result, sooner or later I lost.

Then I realized that an attempt to ignore the world around me, being in my illusions, does not lead to peace of mind, but on the contrary - generates a bunch of situations that lead to discomfort.

I had one acquaintance whose constant dream was that everyone would be left behind. But for some reason all the time it turned out that someone still cared about him. Miracles and nothing more.

Dynamic equilibrium

One of my life teachers was the "Vanka-Vstanka" children's toy. She showed me that there is such a state in which no matter how life hits you, no matter how it pushes you, you will always return to the position you are occupying. In other words, you always maintain your inner balance, despite the constantly occurring changes and external influences.

This state is called dynamic equilibrium.

In practice, this means that nothing, no external event or circumstance is able to unsettle you and knock you off your intended goal. On the contrary, you turn any troubles to your advantage. Have you been harshly criticized? Instead of getting discouraged, you use the facts you have learned to work intensively on yourself and go to the next level. Got fired? You do not give up and do not complain about fate, but remember your forgotten talents and create a profitable business on them.

But all this is simply a consequence of the fact that you adequately perceive reality and respond flexibly to it. In your head there are no ineffective rules and limiting frames, but there is a holistic perception of the world and the ability to see what is usually hidden from the gaze of other people.

Development strategy

The path to finding inner peace and peace of mind, that is, a state of dynamic balance, is the path of practice. It is ever increasing personal maturity degree... And this is exactly what the absolute majority of people engaged in "self-development" seek to avoid like fire. Because it is very cool and fun to do something pleasant, comfortable and interesting (for example, meditation or reading books) and consider that you are “developing”.

And it is very unpleasant to look deep into yourself and realize that you and only you are the only reason for the events taking place in your life - in business, in relationships, in the prevailing circumstances. Realizing this is sometimes very painful and unpleasant. It is so unpleasant that a cunning and resourceful mind begins to invent various "serious and valid" reasons so as not to engage in real work on oneself. In order not to see the true state of affairs.

The husband left the woman. He left for another. He left because he was walking and because it became boring. These reasons are not hidden. They lay on the surface. It was enough to look closely, to compare some facts and signs to see them. And having seen - to take appropriate measures. But what happened happened. And she can correct / improve the situation only by realizing the processes by virtue of which she found herself in it.

Instead, a woman runs to fortune-tellers, witches-witches, attends women's trainings, "cleans karma" and does other easy, pleasant and interesting things. The husband even returns. For a while. But then he gets bored again, and he again goes into the night in search of adventure. And so it can be repeated for a long time.

Real personal growth cannot be replaced by simulation. No way.

Pull out the root

I stubbornly searched for the root of anxiety, the source of all and all kinds of anxiety, anxiety and excitement. And could not find it in any way. Until I realized that my current personality (and the supervisor who controls it) does not really want to look for him. For this root is an open, arrogant and shameless lie to oneself. Believe me, deceiving ourselves by creating illusions and simulacra is one of the most beloved activities of our limited mind.

Can you stop lying to yourself?

But then you will have to face in full the amount of truth about yourself, about people, about life that you did not want, could not and did not want to see. And after that, you won't be able to live the way you used to before. This is a one way ticket. The choice is serious and not everyone is ready to make it. This is the lot of really strong people. Or those who want to become one.

After that, you will have a completely different life. Outwardly, nothing will change. At least right away. But your perception will become as pure as you want it. You will see the world completely different, completely different from what you see it now. Are you ready to embark on this exciting and challenging journey? Start by sending applications for a free consultation.

I am sure you deserve a better life! Calm, happy and harmonious.

Each person runs uncontrollably through life: trying to follow the set goals, meet the needs of society, step over difficulties and obstacles ... If he does not periodically stop in this difficult race, very soon he will fizzle out, and then problems will fall on his weakened shoulders with a new burden. Is there really no way out of this vicious circle? Yes, you just need to force yourself to leave the race and listen to your feelings. This will help to find spiritual harmony and peace, to find true values ​​in life. Take note of the following tips.

Everyone has long known that life for each person plays with the colors he paints it. If you constantly focus on difficulties, then you can forget about peace of mind. Set yourself up to learn from any problem.

Do not give in to difficulties. Perceive problems and contradictions as a new impetus for your development, stepping over which, you will find yourself one step higher.

Sometimes it is helpful to just abstract from problems. Live for today and enjoy the fact that there are so many little delights around: a cup of aromatic coffee in the morning, beautiful sunrises and sunsets, strong hugs of your children and sincere children's laughter ... Then you will not need to puzzle over how to find peace of mind and calmness - they will find you themselves.

This advice complements the previous one. Tune in to life in a new image - a winner and a successful person. Do not expect criticism and judgmental views from all sides. Even if those do slip through, evaluate them correctly: people often criticize others in order to assert themselves in their own eyes. Get rid of the influence of public opinion, and this inner independence will tell you how to find peace of mind.

Psychologists have proven a direct link between physical exercise and the psychological state of a person.

Try an experiment: If you are feeling overwhelmed and anxious, go outside and do a light jog or exercise. You will immediately feel cheerfulness, a surge of strength and see your problems dissolve somewhere outside of consciousness.

Don't forget that you can make your body work for you. Try on a smile on yourself more often, and it will firmly take root not only on your face, but also in your thoughts.

Imagine that you are assigned in the theater to play the role of a calm and confident person, content with life. "Put on his suit": lean on, proudly raise your head, develop a firm gaze, walk easily and calmly.

Also work on your speech. Very soon the body will readjust to your "wave", and you will not have to play.

Laughter helps us get through bad times. This is a real panacea for all sorts of psychological illnesses. Smile constantly and try to look at life situations with humor. Or at least communicate more often with people who are easy on life and can "breathe" in you peace of mind and harmony.

If a person is open to the world, then it is easier for him to endure his adversity. In communication, we find an outlet, pouring out our troubles and freeing a wounded soul.

Another important note: do not make the surrounding enemies or your debtors. Forgive them generously and try to give other people more than you demand or expect from them.

You will immediately feel how the burden of unresolved conflicts that has been pressing on you all this time will go away. This is one of the surefire ways to find peace.

If you look closely, you will see that there are many people around you with even greater difficulties. Support these people, help them instead of suffering from your hard life. It will also fill you with a sense of lightness and self-confidence.

Despite the close connection with the environment, you sometimes need to take a break from it. An excellent helper for this is meditation.

Love and calmness are inseparable. Love is not the possession of another person. This is a state of harmony with the whole world and, above all, with oneself. It is the confidence that you are moving in the right direction. If we seek love, then we find peace of mind, and if we strive for peace, we find love.

Peace is first and foremost equilibrium.

The number one challenge for martial artists is to maintain balance. When you start karate, you will learn that strength depends on balance and a "cold" head. Add emotion and your song is sung.

Balance and peace of mind are the sources of our self-confidence. Calm does not mean sleepiness! Calmness is about managing power, not about confronting it. Calmness is the ability to see the big picture without focusing on details.

If you want to protect yourself from all adversity, you have chosen the wrong planet.

Peace and confidence can only be found within oneself. There is no stability in the surrounding world, everything around is in a state of eternal change. How can we deal with the unpredictability of life? Only by accepting it!

Tell yourself, “I love surprises. It's great when you know that at any moment something unexpected may happen. "

Make a decision: "Whatever happens, I can handle it."

Agree with yourself: “If I get fired, I’ll find a job with a freer schedule. If I get hit by a bus, I won't be here again. "

This is not a mockery. This is the truth of life. The earth is a dangerous place. People are born and die here. But that doesn't mean you have to live like a cowardly rabbit.

How to achieve peace of mind?

To find peace of mind, first of all, you need to change your worldview. It can also help with the habit of giving yourself a break every day.

People who have achieved peace of mind often perform certain rituals. Some are praying, others are meditating, some are walking along the seashore at dawn. Everyone finds their own way of relaxation. This helps us to better understand ourselves and get to know the world around us.

Life will remain a struggle if we insist on it

Modern Western civilization has taught us to constantly strain. I do not argue with the fact that "you cannot easily pull the fish out of the pond." But before we start doing anything, we need to stop fighting everything and everyone. We grew up believing in resistance. We tend to rush things and push people. We exhaust ourselves, and this is more harm than good.

Why Relaxation?

Almost everything we do in life is a race for results. But deep relaxation, meditation, or prayer can help us take a fresh look at life. We expect that the future will bring us many pleasant moments. However, our attention should still be focused on the present.

As we practice deep relaxation, we will begin to notice that some of the qualities acquired through exercise gradually become habitual and change our daily life. We become calmer, we have intuition.

We all have an inner voice, but it is weak and barely audible. When life gets too hectic and noisy, we stop hearing it. But as soon as we muffle extraneous sounds, everything changes. Our intuition is always with us, but often we do not pay any attention to it.

Many people go through this circle. From this we can conclude: "If you do not have time for relaxation - it is absolutely necessary for you."

Meditation will save you more time than you will spend on it. Make it a habit - tune yourself as you tune a musical instrument. Twenty minutes every day - so that the strings of your soul sound pure and harmonious. Wake up each morning with the intention of being calm and balanced. On some days you will be able to hold out until the evening, and sometimes - just until breakfast. But if maintaining peace of mind becomes a goal, gradually you will learn this art.

Forces of nature

Have you ever noticed that you can wander in the forest all day and feel the influx of strength? Or spend the morning at the mall and feel like you've been run over by a truck? Vibration emanates from everything around, be it grass, concrete, plastic or polyester. We catch her. Gardens and forests have a healing vibration - they restore our energy.

The vibrations of concrete shopping malls are of a different type: they suck energy out. The vibration of cathedrals is directed upwards. Smoky bars and strip clubs leave the lion's share of your vitality.

You don't need to be a genius to understand: our health and outlook depend on the elusive energy of the environment. When we are full of energy, we can easily resist the illnesses and bad moods of others. If the energy is at zero, we attract depression and illness.

Greetings to you, deserted corner ...

It cannot be considered a mere coincidence that there is a tradition and reverence for solitude in cultures around the world. During the period of initiation, both the American Indian and the African Bushman left their tribes, hiding in the mountains or forests in order to understand their destiny.

Great Teachers - Christ, Buddha, Magomed - drew inspiration from solitude, as did the millions of monks, mystics and seekers of truth who followed in their footsteps. Each of us needs such a cherished place where phones do not ring, where there is no TV or Internet. Whether it be a corner in the bedroom, a corner on the balcony or a park bench - this is our territory for creativity and reflection.

All is one

Since the 17th century, science has been armed with the method of Sir Isaac Newton: if you want to understand something, smash it into smithereens and study the fragments. If this does not add clarity, divide into even smaller parts ...

Eventually you will get to the bottom of how the universe works. But is this true? Take a Shakespeare sonnet and divide it into nouns, prepositions and pronouns, then break the words into letters. Will the author's intention become clearer to you? Divide the Mona Lisa into strokes. What will it give you? Science works wonders, but it also anatomizes. The mind breaks things apart. The heart gathers them together.

Health and wellness comes when we look at the world as a whole. This fully applies to our body, and to our life, and to all of humanity.

In this hustle and bustle of life, we often simply lack peace. Someone is just very impressionable and nervous all the time, someone is overcome by problems and difficulties, bad thoughts.

Stop, take a breath, look around, it's time to find awareness in this race of life.

I dare to give you some tips on how to find peace in your soul, they are all pretty simple and easy to follow.

1. Give - Receive!

If any difficulties have appeared in your life and it seems to you that the whole world is against you, do not cry or suffer. Find another person who needs help and do your best to solve their problems.

1. Don't demand and learn to forgive!

Do not get angry, forget about all your complaints, try not to get involved in quarrels and disputes.

1. Don't be discouraged over trifles!

Life is largely determined by the inner state of a person. If his soul is dark and empty, then it will be sad, if it is good and clear, then it will be rosy and full of perspectives.

1. See life differently!

Do not snap, do not defend, do not turn into modern "zombies" or "robots" who only think about how bad their life is. Remember that all your thoughts are material. Make only good guesses, and this will certainly affect your mood and your reality.

1. Don't make yourself a victim!

Finally, free yourself from the illusion that you are cornered by any unfavorable circumstances or the aggression of others. Your life is in your hands!

1. Do not judge!

Don't criticize anyone for a day or two.

1. Live in the present!

Rejoice in what is happening to you right now. Are you sitting at the computer? Fine! Fancy some tea? Perfectly! Pour and drink. Don't project your negative thoughts into the future.

1. Stop playing and pretending!

There is no need to deceive anyone. Cry when you feel like crying and laugh when it's really funny. Finally, take off the mask and appear to the rest of the person who you really are.

1. Do what you want, not others

Stop acting on someone else's direction, listen to yourself and understand what you really want.

10. Get to know and love yourself!

Communicate alone with yourself, look for the motives of your actions and desires. Don't judge or criticize yourself. After all, you are the kind of person that is, and this is wonderful.

11. Exercise!

• Inhale, count to 4, and exhale smoothly.
• Write your own thoughts and 3 of your best life experiences on paper.
• Sit on the porch or bench and just relax, contemplate and look for positive and beautiful moments in the space around you.
• Imagine yourself floating above the ground in a transparent protective bubble.
• Talk to your inner self.
• Massage your head.

Even these simple exercises can help you take your mind off problems, calm down, and think positively.

12. Meditate!
Solitude and silence, contemplation of nature is one of the best ways to find peace of mind and harmony, use it.

13. Don't let bad thoughts "come"!

Get rid of anything that might upset you. Use the substitution principle. Is there a bad thought? Find something positive urgently to crowd out your bad thoughts. Fill the space around you with joy and positivity.

14. Listen to soothing music!

It will help you relax and slow down your thoughts.

15. Look at the fire of candles or fireplace!

He gives an inner smile and the energy of magical warmth, just bewitches.

In addition to all of the above, you can listen to birds singing and the sounds of rain, smell fresh flowers, contemplate the starry sky and falling snow, relax, do yoga, take a bath with incense, share smiles and love.

Remember that the great Samurai have always won thanks precisely to their inner peace and the ability to see the beauty in their surroundings. According to them, only those who are looking for it in panic and running will not be able to find a way out of the labyrinth. The one who is internally calm will always see from above both the labyrinth itself and the way out of it.

I wish you happiness and peace of mind!