"Why was I mean before? Because I didn’t have a bike, ”says one of the characters in the cartoon“ Three from Prostokvashino ”. And you can't argue. An unhappy fate, dissatisfaction with oneself and life, unfulfilled dreams, ruined plans, unsatisfied people make a person evil.
Anger is closely associated with many: resentment, envy, jealousy, longing, sadness, irritability, and more. But the closest term is anger. If anger is an emotion, then anger is an affective feeling, the highest manifestation of anger. I think they can be considered synonyms. Moreover, in an evil person, outbursts of anger are not such a rarity. The result of anger and anger -. This action is a completely different story. But back to anger.
Anger is a protective reaction of the body to danger, irritant, infringement of boundaries, violation of internal balance. It is common to all people. Each of us is familiar with anger.
Another question is when anger becomes a feature and permeates a person's whole life. Then the individual is dissatisfied always and with everything, torments himself and those around him. This situation requires getting rid of chronic anger.
Anger is hormones. And sometimes behavior modification is not enough. So, the hormonal background can always be in imbalance when:
- alcohol abuse;
- passive or overly active lifestyle;
- disturbed nutrition;
- health problems.
To identify and eliminate this cause, it is worth visiting several specialists (psychiatrist, endocrinologist, nutritionist, narcologist). In this article, we assume that your hormonal levels are normal, and we analyze the problem of anger from the standpoint of psychology.
How dangerous is anger
“The villain himself, as a rule, suffers from malice that is aimed at people,” Ferdowsi.
- Anger destroys not only the relationship of the individual with society, but also the personality itself. This happens first. Both the containment of negativity, silence, and its regular outburst on others have an equally detrimental effect.
- Anger attracts real illnesses (), destroys families, friendships, work relationships.
- In some cases, anger turns into self-aggression and self-destructive behavior or others.
We are looking for a reason
"All anger comes from impotence" - Jean Jacques Rousseau.
- The reason for anger is almost always the same - dissatisfaction. Think about what is bothering you right now. What you want but can't get.
- The second option - anger masks fear, resentment, pain and personal insecurity (the best defense is an attack).
- Anger is a sign of weakness, instability, psychological trauma and problems.
We give vent to emotions
I must say right away that the word "calm down" does not work. Especially when it is uttered at the peak of emotions. Yes, you can calm down for a long time and stubbornly, suppress anger, but after that something will be the last straw. And now before us is not just an evil person, but an angry one. So, if you understand that emotions have accumulated, then they need to be removed. How to do this without causing harm (moral and physical) to yourself and others?
P.S. Methods tested personally. Their essence is the same - to reduce the jumped level of hormones.
- Get a pillow.
- Tear up the newspaper.
- Scream. Not at someone, but into the emptiness of an endless field, forest. Release your anger.
- Clench and unclench your fists.
- Push up, run, walk.
- Take a deep breath and hold your breath.
- Meditate, do auto-training, master.
- Draw.
- Dance.
- Get home.
- Write your emotions, claims, describe the state. You can break a pen, a pencil (from the force of pressure), but you must express all the pain on paper. Well, if the letter will have an addressee. Then burn the sheet.
- Draw. Any strokes, lines. Create something absolutely chaotic on a sheet, scribble it. Don't control pressure. Now look. This is your anger. This black (blue) shapeless (or decorated) spot is your anger. It sits in you. What is a lump of what? Resentment? Void? And what can replace it, fill it in?
Akin to advice to calm down, the option to count to 10. Of course, it helps someone, but more often it gives time to accelerate before the outbreak. Take a deep breath - the idea is more effective. The brain will be saturated with oxygen, the balance of hormones will quickly change, you will be able to take a sober look at the situation.
“I choked with anger and hatred. I did not hate society - an abstraction invented by insignificant sociologists - I hated the whole universe. I wanted to hurt her in revenge for the pain inflicted on me, ”- A. Murdoch.
Correcting behavior
Now that the “explosion” has been averted, we can talk about ways to correct behavior that require a lot of time and effort, but also have great prospects.
- It has been scientifically proven that anger is just as dangerous for the cardiovascular system as cholesterol in its effect. To want to get rid of uncontrollable anger for sure, put all its consequences on the scales: discord in relationships with loved ones, problems at work, poor health, early death, loneliness. Now act, don't step back. Always remember these risks (it is helpful to print them out in a list and put them in a prominent place).
- The reason for anger is always in you. No, this is not a bad boss, it is you who are not satisfied with the work. Why? If your boss really scolds you for nothing, then change jobs. If for the cause, then improve your skills and stop being angry with your boss (read: yourself). You don't like the activity itself? Change the scope. You are scared? Everyone is afraid to step out of their comfort zone. Stay in it, but then learn to live with your anger (read: dissatisfaction). A friend took care of himself, now against his background you are losing? Start changing too, then stop being angry with him (read: your own, lack of will and apathy). I think the analogies are clear, we can not continue.
- Do not hush up discontent, do not be afraid to ask. It has to be done in a cultural way. To do this, it is useful to know the characteristics of the interlocutor (habits, character,), express and feel emotions.
- In moments of rolling flashes, remember the emotion or feeling that comes after: disappointment, shame, regret. For some people, angry discharge is satisfying, but such individuals usually do not see the problem and do not want to change (this is what their environment wants). And since you are still reading this article, then the satisfaction of anger is not your case. Then the method of remembering emotions will do. If you are a brave person, then ask your family to take a picture of you in a moment of anger. Nobody likes this picture. Weird. Why would? Hang up your "posters" as a clear example of an alternative personality that destroys you.
- Imagine how much effort it takes to hatch plans for revenge, remembering grievances, experiencing and. Do you feel sorry for your own potential, which is not realized due to the fact that your whole life revolves around anger? I feel sorry for him. What you can't change, accept and let go. Change what you can influence. How? Make a step-by-step plan and slowly, but surely go to the goal. This will help focus on the meaning of your life. Do you have him? Or not? !
- Develop optimism and a sense of humor. With him, everything becomes easier and less significant.
- Anger can be both a response to stress and its cause. In this regard, any technique to overcome stressful situations is suitable. Check out popular anti-stress attractions such as dish smashing.
- Speak or write down your anger and its reasons. This will allow you to take a different look at the situation, accept it and draw up a plan of action. There is always an unmet need behind anger. What do you need to be happy right now?
- Don't judge by the past. Be ready to give the person a new chance for constructive dialogue. People tend to change. By the way, as well as external circumstances.
- If someone really harms you, deliberately angers you (and you didn’t think it up), then this is already the problem of that person. Take pity on him, help him, laugh to yourself about it, or refuse to interact. You should not stir up a scandal and point out the opponent's problems and sorrows (especially just as viciously).
- To adequately respond to problems in relationships, learn tolerance (tolerance), respect and self-respect. Study psychology, personality traits. Improve your communication skills. Did you know that some people, due to their innate characteristics, cannot make decisions and do quality work in a short time? Not? And it happens. How awkward it turned out: you were angry with a person for irresponsibility and slowness, and also insulted. And the answer lies in the processes of inhibition and excitation in the psyche of the opponent. The better you understand people, the more realistic your expectations and requirements for them will be. Often, anger is born precisely on the basis of our own inadequate expectations or demands.
- We discover ourselves through relationships. The better you know others, the better you know yourself. After self-knowledge comes self-control.
- Direct the same anger that you are experiencing now not to aggression and resentment, but to actions. Declare yourself (but in a socially acceptable way), your interests, needs and desires. Let anger play the function that is primary - competition, survival, promotion.
- Do not suppress anger, otherwise you will lose yourself, become a nobody (no feelings, no desires, no aspirations, no interests, only illnesses).
- Do not try to get rid of anger, learn to express it. Sometimes it’s enough to say “I’m angry”, “I’m angry ...”, “Please don’t do this.” Talking is always helpful.
Thus, getting rid of anger involves getting rid of its roots or what it hides. Grievances - to forgive, emptiness - to fill (hobbies, friends, communication), (misunderstanding) - to eliminate, needs - to satisfy, the meaning of life - to find, physical pain (disease) - to heal.
Does anger have any benefits?
Yes! And I suggest you look at the situation differently. Stop treating anger as the enemy. Yes, you want to get rid of it, but does it only bring harm? Consider her an advisor. She tells you sore spots, emptiness of the soul, actual needs, unwanted character traits, bad habits.
Always ask yourself: why am I angry? After answering, ask a second question: Can I change this? How can I change it?
- do what you want (this is not selfishness);
- communicate with those with whom you want;
- change or exclude what does not suit;
- abandon stereotypes and attempts to justify other people's expectations.
Chronic anger is a trait of unhappy people. To get rid of it, you need to become happy. But at the same time, it is important to remember that anger is natural when it manifests itself in response to situations that threaten life, health, and family. It allows us to grow, move forward, adapt and survive.
“Everyone can get angry - it's easy; but to be angry with the right person, and as much as necessary, and when necessary, and for the right reason, and in the right way, is not given to everyone, ”- Aristotle.
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Stressful situations that surround us everywhere provoke negative emotions. To fight back emotional stress that destroys not only nerve cells, but the whole body, the following techniques will help to get rid of negativity.
Envy, anger and resentment are feelings inherent in even the most meek and sympathetic people. However, the impact that negative emotions have must be stopped immediately. Not every person can just take and get rid of emotional stress, but anyone can replace thoughts with positive ones. That is why positive thinking is the best way to get rid of stressful situations and stop the growth of negativity, switching from emotions to a sober solution to a conflict situation.
We get rid of anger, envy and resentment
It is impossible to completely get rid of negative thoughts and emotions. But they can be vented, replaced or overcome. People know an easy way, aimed at liberation from experiences - entertainment. However, in severe stressful situations, its positive effect is negligible. In rare cases, recreational activities have the opposite effect, knocking the ground out from under your feet. Scientists in the field of bioenergetics have identified 5 effective ways to get rid of negative emotions, returning harmony and former cheerfulness to a person.
1. Unleash your feelings
It is very important to allow yourself to experience negative emotions without suppressing them. In any case, whatever your experiences, do not be ashamed of them and do not forbid to feel what you feel. Even if it's unworthy. It is known that happiness and anger are the same emotions, the difference is only in the internal limitation.
Try to express your emotions. For example, you can beat a pillow while imagining the face of your enemy. If this practice is not for you, then there is another wonderful method - to shout that there are forces. To do this, it is advisable to retire or close in the car and start screaming at the top of your lungs about what torments your soul. There is another alternative: write an angry letter, putting all your accumulated emotions into each letter, and then burn it.
2. Do not accumulate negative emotions
4. Get rid of energy blocks and anxiety
Exercises that get rid of energy blocks will help you return to a state of harmony and peace of mind in any stressful situation. In a moment of rage, envy or resentment, try to free yourself from thoughts. Relax your entire body, especially your facial muscles. For a moment, feel how the weight of resentment and misunderstanding begins to leave your body. At this moment, focus your attention on the corners of the lips, which should form a slight smile. Try to feel how your lips stretch into a slightly noticeable smile, and a feeling of happiness appears in your whole body.
5. Revenge for good
If negative emotions do not let you go, but only intensify every day, covering you with your head, then even in this situation you can find benefits and benefits. Take and repay your offender, only in a positive way. The best revenge is your personal happiness and successful life. Think in a positive way, bring joy to people, and you will not pay attention to how quickly you will achieve tremendous results, crowding out all the negativity.
It is impossible to get rid of the feeling of anger and resentment, constantly taking revenge on your enemy, just as it will not be possible to force out envy, living with it in the heart. You cannot resolve an internal conflict by accumulating negativity. Attract positive emotions, give free rein to feelings, strive for joy, well-being and happiness. Only then will you see all negative emotions disappear from your life. We wish you a great mood, success, and don't forget to press the buttons and
If you think that get rid of anger, irritation, fear, anxiety and other negative emotions in just 1 minute is unrealistic, then you are wrong. And now I'll show you how to do it. This so-called mental surgery method. This is a way to instantly get rid of not only anger, irritation, fear, anxiety, but also other manifestations of negative emotions.
It is also a way to nullify (deprive of power) root cause these negative manifestations of our psyche - subconscious limiting attitudes and beliefs that interfere with the realization of our aspirations and attract into our lives what we categorically do NOT need.
What is the method?
You need to say it out loud special script- this is a special text in which in no case can you change places, replace or skip a single word.
This Get Rid Script should be used every time you want to get rid of:
- aggressive feelings (anger, anger, irritation)
- emotional pain (resentment, guilt, disappointment, suffering)
- obsessive fears (which are shackling and uncontrollable)
This magical healing script is absolutely free, does not require much effort and does not take much time (no more than a minute). And you will not be hurt, even though it is a real surgery, albeit a mental one.
This unique spiritual tool is very effective despite its simplicity. Use it regularly and very soon you will forever get rid of the source of anger, irritation, fear or anxiety.
You only need to say a few special sentences out loud and you will immediately feel immediate and tangible relief.
Keep in mind:
With the help of the Relief Script, you will begin communication with the immortal part of your personality and will entrust it with the cleaning of the most important level - the level of attitudes and beliefs.
Because it is from this level of mental attitudes that your Destiny is controlled, since it is these internal subconscious programs, attitudes and beliefs that affect your health, finances and the course of all life events.
And further:
It doesn’t matter to you at all how the script works, how exactly the process of clearing limiting beliefs takes place. Moreover, no one knows for sure this, and no one has yet been able to clearly explain the mechanism of its work.
Only one thing is known Redemption Script works- and works great!
This has been proven and confirmed thousands of times by those people who used it. Now it's your turn.
So, to instantly get rid of anger, irritation, fear and anxiety, you need to say a special text aloud, inserting names in the missing places:
- feelings you want to get rid of
- and feelings that you want to experience constantly.
Redeeming script
My Subconscious and all with whom it interacts in the subtle environment of energies, please determine the origin of my feeling _____________________ ( indicate which)
Bring all levels, layers, areas and aspects of my personality without exception to the original state of complete harmony. Eliminate without a trace everything that violates the harmony of my personality at the moment.
Go through all generations, through time and space, eliminating all causes of this feeling ______________________________ ( indicate which) and any consequences of its manifestation.
Please do so now that I am currently forgiving myself of everything and forgiving myself for everything and completely, forgiving every person, place, circumstance and event that gave rise to
I have a feeling of _______________ ( name this feeling).
With complete forgiveness and boundless love, I allow any physical, mental, emotional or spiritual problem and painful reaction to be transformed.
I choose to be _____________________
I feel __________________________ ( indicate the state in which you want to stay, and the feelings that you want to experience constantly)
I am light and love. It is done. Problem solved. It's done.
Thank you, my Subconscious and all the Intelligent Energies with which you interact,
for coming to my rescue and helping me find myself to the fullest.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I give thanks and accept release and joy.
If you still doubt (what if?) That the script in your case will not be able to help, then I recommend using it for this - to eliminate these doubts.
To do this, do this:
- At the beginning of the text, immediately after the word "mine", insert the following phrase: "distrust and doubts about the effectiveness of the delivering script."
- And instead of “I choose” and “I feel,” say this phrase: “I recognize that any unpleasant feeling or negative attitude can be changed when you really want it. And I really want to be free from all that is painful and destructive.”
Use the script to get rid of anger, anger, irritation, fear or anxiety - and know that the Relief Script guaranteed to workalways.
I wish you peace, tranquility and serenity!
Interesting
Anger towards another person and its causes. The article will discuss this negative phenomenon, recommendations will be given on how to eliminate the voiced life situation.
The content of the article:
Anger and hatred towards people is a problem that even a balanced and sane person is not immune from. Emotions often get out of control when someone from the environment begins to deliberately or accidentally provoke a conflict with their behavior model. You should understand for yourself why such a phenomenon occurs and how to deal with its negative consequences.
The mechanism of development of anger at a person
To clarify the situation, which brings mental discomfort, it is necessary to deal with the pattern of the appearance of anger at people.
Experts on this issue are unanimous in their conclusions and characterize the mechanism of the problem as follows:
- Factor provocateur. There is no smoke without fire, so negative emotions towards another person do not grow like mushrooms after rain. Many things can give fertile ground for misunderstanding, because all people are individual and they are annoyed by completely different situations.
- The unwillingness of one of the parties to resolve the conflict. Both are always to blame for a quarrel, but when resolving a problem, someone can simply ignore a brewing misunderstanding. This is done from different motives, because it all depends on the reasons for triggering the mechanism of anger at a person.
- Turning a Misunderstanding into a Problem. Some subjects are really capable of making an elephant out of a fly with rather modest prerequisites for the brewing of a conflict. If the cause of the problem voiced is quite serious, then in the future there may be a serious brawl between people.
- Termination of relationship with the abuser. This is usually done defiantly, but options for secret enmity are not excluded. Anger at a person must find its logical ending, because it is simply impossible to keep negative emotions in oneself for a long time.
Important! With a voiced problem, the main thing is to remain calm so that emotions do not get out of control. Each self-sufficient person must clearly understand the essence of what is happening, so as not to do stupid things in the future.
Causes of anger towards a person
We cannot be liked by literally everyone, but there are individuals who are able to unbalance anyone. There are many prerequisites for the appearance of anger towards other people, but the main reasons for the formation of such a negative phenomenon should be highlighted:
- Refusal of a request. In some life situations, a person needs moral, physical or material support. At the same time, one has to turn to a close environment, which can unpleasantly surprise with its response to a call for help. As a result, anger at such a refusal begins to arise, which sometimes turns into hatred and anger.
- Gossip and slander. Few of us will be pleased by the fact that we are discussed behind our backs with a rather negative assessment of personal qualities. This is especially painful when it comes to close slanderers. It is very difficult to ignore what is happening, so anger towards the offender arises.
- Renunciation of a promise. Ignoring a request from someone is painful in itself, but it is even more unpleasant to hear “no” after a previously announced contract. A person who does not keep his word can cause outright indignation and anger on the part of the injured party.
- ignore. Sometimes it is better to engage in a verbal battle than to experience outright neglect from another person. Such a response can cause embitterment even in the most balanced person.
- Non-repayment of debt. There is a rather wise saying that friends are friends, and tobacco is apart. Anger towards another person may arise on the voiced occasion, because quite often a trusting relationship ends due to a refusal to return borrowed funds.
- . If it concerns two close people, then anger towards another person can arise even for an insignificant reason. Life sometimes complicates relationships so much that it causes an avalanche of negative emotions in relation to a partner.
- Hormonal imbalance. Anecdotes that colorfully describe the behavior of a woman with menopause are not at all devoid of common sense. In some cases, changes in the functioning of the body can provoke unconscious bouts of anger towards other people.
- Betrayal. In this case, we are talking about both physical treason and treachery in moral terms. Anger towards another person in this case arises for a completely understandable reason, which can lead to a complete break in relations.
- Deviant behavior of the offender. Few people like the fact that someone is trying to harm him physically or mentally. It can consist both in insulting expressions and in beatings. Anger at the offender at the same time arises immediately and then develops into real anger.
Varieties of manifestation of anger towards another person
Even negative emotions have their subspecies, because human nature is diverse in the manifestation of their feelings. Psychologists recommend considering the following options for the manifestation of anger towards a person:
- Silent hate. People can smile sweetly at each other, but in their hearts they are ready to destroy the offender in all unimaginable ways. To some extent, this is reminiscent of elementary hypocrisy, in which visually everything looks great, but in fact the conflict is simply hidden.
- Anger is a game. For some people, the negative emotions that feed them are important. In the complete absence of prerequisites for a negative attitude towards another person, they themselves will come up with a reason for its occurrence. Such persons need a quarrel like air, because the quarrelsome character makes itself felt in such subjects.
- . In this case, it is worth noting the paradoxical ability of some people to behave according to the principle of Eeyore, who saw only the bad in everything that happened. These subjects are initially not ready to accept the position of another person, which subsequently leads to anger towards all of humanity.
- Anger-despair. In some cases, such a manifestation of emotions is demonstrative. We do not always truthfully show our feelings, which we actually experience. Such provocations are done in order to attract the attention of a person dear to us.
- Anger-competition. With the voiced wording, the movie “Death Becomes Her” is recalled, where Meryl Streep and Goldie Hawn brilliantly described this phenomenon. In the competition for a man, the ladies went so far that this became the reason for the fantastic development of a love triangle.
Golden rules for dealing with anger towards a person
You can live with the voiced problem, but over time it can destroy the life of any subject. Very often we cannot answer the question of how to get rid of anger at a person. In this case, specialists who know how to heal spiritual wounds come to the rescue with their advice.
Suppression of anger towards loved ones
The closest environment can sometimes lead anyone to negative emotions in a matter of seconds. At the same time, it is very important to follow the recommendations of psychologists on how to overcome anger at a loved one:
- Autotraining. With this method, the setting for positive emotions is triggered, which usually has a good result. It is necessary to mentally say goodbye to your anger, which brings only harm to a person. We must learn to forgive loved ones, because we are often unconditionally accepted with all the weaknesses that we have.
- . The hackneyed phrase “a talk” is not always a reason only for a smile. It is necessary to be able to communicate with relatives and loved ones so that in the future there will not be a feeling of anger towards them. It is better to lay out everything that is sore once in a confidential conversation than to correct the mistakes made for a long time.
- Pause in a relationship. To avoid a final break in relations, you can try this method of conflict resolution. At the same time, it is necessary to completely calm down and, on a sober head, understand the reasons for the anger that has arisen towards a loved one. It is unrealistic to do this on emotions, because during the period of boiling violent passions people often cannot come to a mutual agreement.
- confrontation method. In some cases, this tool is simply not enough. Sometimes you need to decisively deliver an ultimatum so that relationships with a loved one do not come to a standstill. Active actions in this direction will help get rid of anger towards an object that is dear.
- Help of a psychotherapist. It is definitely easier for a specialist to deal with the problem that has arisen than for the victim himself. Anger towards loved ones is a very dangerous emotion, because in the heat of the moment you can lose the love and trust of a loved one. Therefore, the help of a competent healer of human souls in some cases will not hurt.
Getting rid of anger towards colleagues and acquaintances
Anger regulation is the process of learning about the signals that you are becoming irritated and taking actions that can calm you down, help you cope, and start thinking more positively. This does not mean that you have to suppress the anger or keep it to yourself. Feeling angry is a completely normal and natural emotion, unless you know other ways to respond to an event. Now, the science of anger regulation will help you manage your reactions in a different way.
Here, no one will convince you to hide or suppress anger, show other emotions instead, switch to something more positive, or ignore this feeling. This is the science of how to perceive everything that happens to us differently. For many people, anger attacks are completely uncontrollable, which can lead to very disastrous results. What will happen if you, say, suddenly break into a boss? Undeservedly yell at a child or spouse? If you restrain yourself every time you want to show violent discontent, it will accumulate until one fine day it breaks out in multiple volumes.
5 Anger Management Techniques That Will Help You Keep the Peace
This science will be useful to everyone, because sooner or later each of us experiences anger. You may want to improve the atmosphere that accompanies you personally on a daily basis by learning to cope with emotions, control them and respond differently to external stimuli.
Let's study together!
1. Analyze the consequences
First of all, focus not on what made you angry, but on what consequences an outburst of anger will entail. Are you upset by your child's behavior? Find a way to explain this fact to him in an accessible way. Do friends or family members say things that provoke aggression in you? Calm down and have a constructive dialogue, set clear boundaries for what is permitted.
Remember that uncontrolled anger can lead to more serious consequences. In fact, the consequences are almost always much more devastating. Take a deep breath, remember self-discipline and look for a more rational solution.
2. Forgive and (maybe) forget
Forgiveness is a rarity these days. Allowing anger and aggression to be present in us daily, we become more unhappy, worsen our own perception of life. Everything around begins to seem hostile and pessimistic.
If you can forgive someone for making you angry, do it without thinking. For you, this will be a good indicator that no one can shake your inner harmony, for others it will be a reason to respect you as a person who can adequately respond and remain calm and cool in any situation. These qualities, for example, are highly valued in any job.
Realizing that much of what we are offended by is actually meaningless trifles, we can learn to forgive and forget. Let go of the situation, take care of yourself and your mental health yourself.
3. Improve your ability to listen and hear
The ability to listen is extremely important for everyone who is in continuous contact with other people. When we know how to listen carefully, remember and not interrupt the interlocutor, this helps to build trust and respect for you, people love it when they are given the opportunity to speak.
By demonstrating to others your ability to listen, you show that you:
1) are not indifferent to what is happening;
2) the thoughts and emotions of the interlocutor matter to you;
3) you have at least basic empathy skills.
Sometimes the person who lashed out at you, provoking your anger back, just needed to be heard.
4. Practice relaxation techniques
The American Psychological Association considers the technique of deep breathing and visualization of soothing landscapes to be the most effective. Here are some tips for doing it:
- You need to breathe deeply with the diaphragm. Breathing from the chest will not relax.
- Repeat to yourself: “I am calm”, “I am not angry”, “everything is fine”. This self-hypnosis helps the brain reprogram responses to positive ones.
- Recall images that reassure you personally. It can be a view of the ocean at sunset or a winter night landscape from the window - whatever you like.
- Tension-releasing practices like yoga, tai chi or meditation can help you relax your muscles and let go of all negative thoughts.
5. Cognitive restructuring
One of the most effective methods This refers to the moment when you consciously change your thoughts, understanding what motivated the people who made you angry, or what caused the events that cause your outbursts of anger. For example, you ran into your favorite coffee shop before work to drink a cup of fragrant cappuccino. But suddenly, in front of you in line, the visitor begins to complain about poor-quality service, getting more and more excited. In another situation, you would start to get angry, realizing that the sunny morning mood has disappeared without a trace, that this cappuccino will no longer please you, and that, most likely, the scandal will drag on for a long time and you will be late for work. However, look at the situation from the other side: as a rule, only deeply unhappy people start scandals for any reason. Whatever happens in this visitor's life, being angry with him is absolutely useless. The most you can do is sympathize with him in your heart and smile when he passes by: what if you manage to cheer him up a little?
Learning to deal with anger will bring a lot of good things into your life. You will feel more cheerful yourself and wean yourself from being annoyed about and without others. We advise you to practice applying all these methods in practice. Good luck, and let peace be the basis of your life!